i met a man on a dating site. he seemed pretty nice and we exchanged msn addresses so that we could chat. he was going to a business trip to africa. we have been chatting for a few weeks and getting along but today he told me he needed more money and could i help him out and he would pay me back. i couldnt if i wanted do but im a real sensitive girl and it has really knocked my confidence. i thought he was a nice guy but may be he is just scheming. how can i tell if he has done this sort of thing to other women on the dating site and should i report it as abuse? im confused.
2006-10-19 06:57:20 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he said his friends couldnt wire him the money because he was in africa so how did he expect me to. he told me it was for the hospital bill of one of his mates.
2006-10-19 07:10:22 · update #1
YOu can report him, but it won't necessarily do any good. Scammers are prevalent in Africa and the UK, but usually the countries they "work" from are corrupt and don't really care. It's your choice whether you want to continue talking to him. You should tell him you just don't have anything to help him with and see what his reaction is. Chances are you work hard for your money, just like others do, but these guys don't care. If he has 10 other women he's talking to and he manages to get them all to send him $200, then he's making a tidy profit while you're sitting over here having an attack of conscience feeling sorry for him and possibly not paying some of your bills just to help him out. Don't do it. YOu need to ask him some questions, and find out some things about him. Once he answers your questions, dig a little deeper on your own to see if he is telling you the truth. Ask him for his address here in the US, the name of his company...direct him to the US Embassy, if he claims to be an American citizen. There are all sorts of ways around this. Good luck.
2006-10-19 07:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by uspslady39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look sweety, whilst the internet is a fantastic tool and has revutionised conumications like all other good things it is being abused by people like this guy.
If he traveled on buisness then he must surely have a travel insurance.
Secondly if he is a buisness man do you think he would need anybodies money?
Thirdly never ever send money to people like these, you work for your money so spend it wisely.
2006-10-19 07:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by qualsupp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look this is one of the oldest "scams" of all time. First of all you really do not even know this person, secondly do you really think this person will pay you back. The answer is "no". These type guys try to play on peoples emotions. It is called "scamming". Sounds like he is pretty good at it. Look do not give this guy a red cent and you will not even regret not doing it.
2006-10-19 07:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would report him, i would also write a passage on the web site and declare his name so that anyone else wont be affected by his scams!
really sounds like he is just after you money, you can do better,
Do not ignore this as its not fair to the next girl that he tries to con,
2006-10-19 08:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by blondegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone that fell for a guy from America on the Internet. He told her his mum needed some medical care and needed to borrow £500. She foolishly sent the cheque and never spoke to him again. Unfortunately there are people out there like that, and i know its easy to get sucked in sometimes on the net.
Tell him to F**k off!
2006-10-19 07:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON"T SEND ANY MONEY, tell him you can't. If he still talks to you then maybe he's on the up and up, but keep an open mind that he may be scheming you anyway. ASking money from someone your just e-mailing don't sound good.
2006-10-19 07:01:52 · answer #6 · answered by Captianpr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For a start report him to the site. If he was that desperate for money, he would get a loan from the bank.
You don't have to meet someone online to be taken in by their lies. Its a convenient and easy way for him to do it.
2006-10-19 07:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by daisymay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is devious!!!!!!! emotional dishonest!!!! dishonest isn't almost sharing your body with someone except your mate, it is also once you provide the sentiments you've on your mate to somebody else! my ex used to have woman acquaintances on the information superhighway alllll the time!!!! i hated it! i felt like i replaced right into a authentic man or woman accurate there in the front of him and that i wasn't solid sufficient for him! no longer solid sufficient besides that he had to run to a computer and function a "relationship" with someone he did not even comprehend!!! you would possibly want to besides in basic terms make up an imaginary buddy to have a "passionate" relationship with rather of having your rocks off with some creep on the information superhighway!
2016-12-05 00:21:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't let it knock your confidence. There are lots of nice people out there - he's just not one of them. Don't send him any money, and break off all contact with him; he's trying to abuse your good nature. As for reporting him, only you can decide that.
2006-10-19 07:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell the dating site. I got involved with a guy (we even ended up engaged) but he turned out to be a compulsive liar and now I am £8000 in debt as a result. I don't know if you can find out if he has done this to other girls, but I suggest you steer well clear, and don't let anybody take you for a mug - YOU DESERVE BETTER and if I guy isn't self sufficient it isn't worth your while to bail him out.
2006-10-19 07:03:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋