Question: Is it a womens right to take money from her husband without telling him if he is not meeting her needs and is using the money inappoperately. Hazrat Mirza Tahir Ahmad(ra) - 11 Oct 95 - 5 minutes - Liqama'al Arab - Eng/Ara
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2006-10-19 06:56:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Short answer: No.
Long answer: By the rationale that you claimed it as "money from her husband," then you believe that the husband owns the money. If this is so, then what you describe is called stealing.
If the husband and wife have an equal partnership, then this is simply taking your own money, that you both own equally.
There is no excuse for stealing...ever.
2006-10-19 07:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jay 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you say needs, do you mean things like food and clothing? or do you mean things you just want?
There can be no trust in a marriage relationship if you are taking money without his knowing or if he is excluding you from money decisions and using the money meant for your life together selfishly.
It seems to me that you need the help of someone who can help to mediate this matter for you or give you advice how to proceed. But you have given very little information and I don't think it's possible to answer the question of "right".
You must not feel you can discuss this with him. Do you have any other recourse open to you? It is serious for a man not to meet his wife's needs if he can. And your marriage cannot be a happy one in those circumstances, I wouldn't think.
2006-10-19 07:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you may. For instance, if you (or your children) or not eating and your husband is the sole bread winner and is spending of all the money on booze or something else that comes after your needs, YOU MAY TAKE FROM HIM. He as your husband has an obligation to take care of his family. And if he refuses to do that and you refuse to get a divorce, make sure you are taken care of by any means. But your needs have to be real, your needs cannot be brand new coach handbags every season.
2006-10-19 07:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by vanity planning 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You should never take anything that isn't yours without asking first. If your husband is not meeting your needs and not handling money responsibly the first step is to talk to your husband and try to work it out. Step two bring in a trusted outsider (trusted aunt or uncle or religious leader) to help you guys work it out. Step 3 get out of the marriage and marry a more responsible husband or go it alone.
2006-10-19 07:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by aibnyc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scripturally,
The answer is a firm yes. I'm confident you will find a parable about a begger woman who stole from Jesus' coin purse in the apochryphal books, which touches on this very issue.
2006-10-19 07:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by Twoflowers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a husband and wife should agree on how to use the money together.
2006-10-19 07:00:02 · answer #6 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not, this is stealing. Both of you have to sit down and talk about expenses and make a budget.
2006-10-19 07:01:09 · answer #7 · answered by Omi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's called stealing. Now when I find a $20 bill in his jeans, I don't tell him. So I am stealing. lol
2006-10-19 06:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by Here I am 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Peg always took it from Al.
2006-10-19 07:20:53 · answer #9 · answered by samssculptures 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't sound like a very honest, open relationship.
2006-10-19 07:00:10 · answer #10 · answered by Allison L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋