my bf & i have been together for three years and he has hinted and discussed gettiing married but we always seem to be discussing it. i recently met a friend that i haven't seen for a couple of years and we started talking and he really likes me and he does the simpile stuff that my bf doesn't do anymore. like call, compliment me,take me out, pick me up just to take me to work and stuff like that. what do you think i should do?
P.S. do you think i need space to find out exactly what i want
2006-10-19 06:46:43 · 12 answers · asked by kkj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wanted to post a comment to your last question, but didn't have the space.. so you get a 2 for 1 deal in this answer..
I am 11 years older than my gf. Her being so young and fine does our sex life wonders. I hate to do this to the guy, but DON'T have lots and lots of sex. Make him wait a day or two, then a day more. Then give it up 2-3 times that day.
Play a little hard to get again, not just 'yeah, lets have sex'.
Now this question.. I would definately agree with sweet one, rhino, and roman.. not to leave anybody else out, but I really agree with these 3 philosophies. I had a 9 year relationship, and again I'm 11 years older than her and together for over 3 years.. it's like I'm just the other shoe on the other foot.
Your current probably did do all these things back then, and a new one will for a while. The new guy may or may not turn out be what you're looking for.
Do you know what you're looking for if you are still looking after 3 years?
2006-10-19 07:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by thatoneguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would talk to your bf about what he's not doing that you want him to do... Then I would def wait at least 5 years b4 getting married... take time to get to know each other... This other guy is just coming around, remember you and your bf were new once too... Just because this guy does all the stuff your bf use to do doesn't mean he's gonna keep doing it... You also need to ask yourself are you really in love with your bf or ready to get married... Your thinking about getting married and ur also thinking about this other guy... Listen to this one word "THINK"
2006-10-19 13:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by SweetOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys do that stuff in the beginning...then it stops! If you care and love your bf, then you should get rid of this new guy. He's just doing this in the beginning to impress you, he'll stop after a few years, too. Don't lead both guys on because it will cause too much drama. It doesn't sound like you're ready to get married either so if you aren't then make sure you let him know that upfront.
2006-10-19 13:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by Trinity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Space you may need, but just remeber communication is the key. If you love your current boyfriend, talk to him and tell him how you feel. Don't give up on him that easy. Remember those simple things the other guy is doing for you will wear off just like they did with your boyfriend. Don't play both of them leave the new guy alone until you are sure what you want.
2006-10-19 13:51:02 · answer #4 · answered by lynlee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an old saying, "Why buy the cow when you're getting the milk for free?" It sounds to me as if your boyfriend is starting to take you for granted, and is enjoying having the benefits of the relationship without the responsibilities and committments. I would definitely talk to him about where your relationship is right now, and let him know, (Pardon me for putting it so bluntly) that it is time for him to either, "**** or get off the pot."
2006-10-19 13:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your b/f used to do these things for but stopped..... what make U think that this new found friend from way-back won't do the same.... talk 2Ur current b/f and let him know that he is slipping.... if he starts during the things that made U fall in love w/him than U stay w/him..... the grass isn't always greener in the other side..... think about this..... U have been w/this guy for 3years.... something must going good for U 2b still w/him.....
2006-10-19 13:55:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...Do you love your boyfriend and want him? Are you in love with your boyfriend or just Love him? Do you want to marry him or are you ready to get married? Answer those questions before you go to the next thing! I don't think that you need to complicate things by adding another person in this. One other thing...Ask your boyfriend why has he stop doing or saying the things to you that you like?
2006-10-19 13:51:39 · answer #7 · answered by Child of God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your boyfriend? Does he love you and respect you? Why doesn't he call you anymore or anything? If you aren't sure about him, you should break up with him....but sometimes guys like you only when you are taken so your friend could turn out to be a real jerk.
2006-10-19 13:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by Lorraine_us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need space to see where you want to be but dont put it that way to your guy, i mean he doesnt have to know evrything, and he hasnt proposed yet, has he? Anyways, just clear your mind or 'sew your oats' before you say the final "I DO"
2006-10-19 13:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
subtly let your BF know what your friend does, and how into it you are. With a little competition, he'll make up his mind one way or the other.
2006-10-19 13:50:28 · answer #10 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋