My husband wants to join the national guards bad. This has been an on going argument for us for 5 years. he was in the army for a long time but his time was up & he met me and he just didnt reup. Im nervous and he said he'll do whatver i say. He wants to go so theyll pay for his school. BUT he truely believes he will not be sent away anywhere ever. What should i say to him thatll make him believe me? ill let him if thats what he really wants to do. But i dont want him going in thinking its not possible to be sent away anywhere. he thinks cause he'll be in school and he'll be in the national guards around our area. Do you think he should go at a time like this? He really really wants to go.(4 school) Tell me all you can. (only if u know 4 sure) thnks!
2006-10-19 06:22:39 · 19 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
No, i will not lose my husband trust me. (that was funny)
2006-10-19 06:35:56 · update #1
I don't know anything for sure about the National Guard.......but...
One of my good friends from high school joined the army reserves a couple years after graduation, and he was called up, and sent to Iraq.
Luckily, he was never harmed in Iraq because he was an MP.
I think it is cool that he wants to join the National Guard to go to school, but could he maybe find a job that would pay for his schooling?
Even if it is an entry level position in the field he wants to pursue, there are a lot of employers who will pay for schooling for their employees.
2006-10-19 12:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your husband knows the possibility of being sent overseas is there -- it's part of the job description, and if he was in before he should know that. And my understanding is that they have already recalled some people who had gotten out, and that is also a possibility that you must consider.
He should have some GI Bill eligibility already. If he really wants to do this, support him. If he gets sent overseas, support him. Be there for him. Write to him. Pray for him. But support him. You said this has been going on for 5 years. You did not say how long he was in the army for. He may miss the structure of military life.
I don't have any answers for you, but if this is truly what he wants to do, and with you arguing about it for 5 years, it seems to be, support him 110%.
2006-10-19 06:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many in the National Guard who never thought they would end up in a War Zone. The Education opportunities are great. The question is does he show the same enthusiasm for furthering his education and what are his plans in this regard. I think it sounds like he wants to get back to the camaraderie of the military. Some guys are really into this aspect.
2006-10-19 06:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hold him back eventualy he will resent you. I've seen it happen before no mater what the wife says. Your husband might not get deployed its hard to say. I don't know what state you are in but in Alabama they have a 2 year non deployment period if you are in school. You go to basic and then to school. averaging it out he would be done in the year 2009. That said they are estimating us being in Iraq till 2010. There is always a chance but if this is what he wants to do let him.
2006-10-19 07:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by knight35966 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesnt think he will be sent anywhere, I suggest he turn on a TV. This is the most risky time to join the military, for any reason. I'd be interested in his ideology in thinking he will not be called upon to serve this country. There are programs, grants, and loans for school tuition.
2006-10-19 06:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by jr90292 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If, as you say, your husband was in the military prior to marrying you he knows the pros and cons of joining a military unit. I say that you calmly and clearly express yourself. Try not to get emotional, but put forth facts that support what you want. Then listen to him and his side of the situation. If he decides to join;support him fully. If he decides not to, than be prepared to pay high tuition costs or live on less salary because of less education. In either case, be strong, calm, don't fight and whine or you will lose a husband who sounds like a pretty good guy.
2006-10-19 06:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by Answergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really wants to join the national gaurd then let him, however he is naive, because he could very well be sent to Iraq. If this happens pray a lot and support his decision. and write him every day, send lots of packages, and pictures. Let him know how great he is, how proud you are, how much you love and support him.
2006-10-19 08:07:18 · answer #7 · answered by yuba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first I was going to say support his decision...but then I read the last part...He really really wants to go.(4 school)...then changed my mind. If that is the reason he wants to Join, then I hope to god he doesn't! I sure don't want someone like that having my DH's back Downrange or any other place for that matter!
2006-10-20 03:21:39 · answer #8 · answered by BITE ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY bf is in the national guard also. if your husband wants to do it then let him do it. he will be ok. and the government can pay for his college which would really help you i'm sure. my man is being sent overseas soon, i know he is going to come back to me safe, just tell him to work as hard as he can (if he goes over) to get back to you. support him in his decisions. it's the best thing you can do.
2006-10-19 07:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by Starry Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is qualified for GI Bill as discharged member of U.S. military. If he was dishonorobaly discharged its a different story... but as of your story goes he is qualified... Now he probably wants to go back to earn full retirement ( I don't know his age ) and national guard could be sent other places as well... its military not your personal choice where you want to be
2006-10-19 06:34:34 · answer #10 · answered by V L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋