How do u teach your child to respect their teacher?? What do u think???

Question

If your child gets in trouble at school do they get in trouble at home as well....

Last week my daughter got introuble for pushing another boy..I had her right a apology letter to the boy and the teacher....I believe teachers do not get as much respect as they use to.......I feel it is my job to make sure my daughter understands that she must respect rules at home and at school....

What do u think about the school issues of teachers and respect?

my daughter is five years old.....

Answer 1

I agree 100% but at the same time I feel that some teachers have lowered the standards and don't expect enough from the students when it comes to such issues. Our teachers don't always dress the role any more which does lower the respect in my opinion. I see teachers wearing overalls, jeans, shirts that show their midriff, belly button rings and tattoos. Most districts won’t do anything because they have no enforceable dress codes for the teachers. So, to me that is where part of the problem lies.

Another part is our society seems to have lost a lot of social etiquette over the years, and most people seem to accept it as so and move on. Not I, I still write thank you notes for any type of gift received, get well letters, thank you notes for invitations. I still show up on time and if im going to be late I do my best to let whom ever I need know. I have my children address adults by Ms. Mrs. Mr. unless the adult tells them it is okay for them to call them something else. I believe in please, thank you, and excuse me, oh and of course bless you. Very few of these things are taught, or used any more, so where does respect come in to play?

Before I started teaching (im a stay at home mom now) I ran an in school suspension program. Before my student were allowed to start on their school work they had to write letters to all parties involved in whatever caused them to be with me. A letter to their parent(s), any other students involved, the principal, and the teacher, was a minimum. They had to explain they understood what they did and why it was wrong and why they had to spend the day(s) with me and that had to include any lessons they had learned (and the had better have learned one). I came up with the idea and the principal backed it 100%. Yes, even kindergartners had to do this, I would help. Let me tell you I saw some tears over having to write these letters but it had to be done and if it didn't get done, I called their parents and told them they had to get their kids because they weren't doing what was required (that makes the parents more responsible because now they have to leave work get their child and find daycare or stay home with their kid).

As a teacher, I feel that raising a child is a collective effort by anyone that comes into contact with the child. We all have to set a standard, be the example, and follow through on consequences if expectations aren't met. A child should respect a teacher, parent, or anyone for that matter, but that respect must be returned, demonstrated and modeled. Children know right from wrong, they want to please more than most people realize. The problem is there is very little accountability going on with both adults and children.

You are doing the right thing, never doubt that. (sorry im so long winded)

Have a GREAT day!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Make sure your child knows what respect is first of all. Talk about this situation and find out why. I know that if you teach your children to respect all adults for which he might be left alone with weather it is a babysitter or a teacher or even just another parent because these are all people that the child has a chance to be rude to. Does she listen and play right by your standards? If she doesn't at home that lays the ground work for her at school because if she does that with her mother and father there is already no boundrys. Its all about reinforcment and consistency. My son just recently started school and i am noticing that his manners are lacking since, but i have nipped that in the bud and teaching him not to follow suit just because.

Answer 3

I honestly believe that things such as respect, manners, self control (etc...) start in the home. I also believe that the reason that the majority of children are disrespectful to teachers and other authority figures is because no one trains them to be respectful. It is the parents job to teach their children to be respectful and a lot of parents just aren't there to teach their children these things weather it's because both parents work or because the mother is too preoccupied or it could be because the parents were never taught correctly so they do not know where to begin.
But the fact that you are concerned about it is a good thing and that means that you are trying to do what is right for your family, so good for you.
I'm sure as long as you are consistent in training your children to be well behaved and respectful then you will do fine. Consistence is the key.

Answer 4

Yes, I believe that she should be punished at home as well. Make her understand what she did and explain to her what if someone pushed her. But she is also 5 years old and that is common not acceptable but common.
Is there anything going on at home? That is always the first thing teachers ask? Other than that you are right she should she respect he rules at school and home and it sounds to me like you are doing a good job by instilling that in her.

Answer 5

When your child is 5 it is difficult sometimes to figure out whats best.What I found worked with mine was taking something they love away you could also yrt taking a favorite show away if she wathes Arther everyday at 5:00 then take that episode away'but make sue it is the same day and as close as possible to the time that she disrespected the teacher.You could also ask her how she would feel if someone treated her the way she treated her teacher.If she doesn't understand any of that then maybe talk to the teacher for some suggestions on working together to stop her from being disrespectful.You could also try a rewards chart . good luck

Answer 6

I have 2 boys and only one of them misbehaves in school. He is definately punished at home for his behavior. We dont spank,as I believe it sends the wrong message to children. But he sure has learned a lot about pulling weeds, having no playing outside priveleges, no computer, and various house chores. Believe me it gets really old with kids to have no weekend to speak of because they are doing chores all weekened. You need to teach them respect for you, and for the adults at school. The other thing that has been very helpful, is having a lot of communication with his teacher. Kids soon learn that when parents and teacher are on the same page, they dont try to get away with as much. Good Luck!!

Answer 7

I think it's because parents don't teach their kids to respect everyone. It is a parents job to ensure kids know how to behave in school and at home. My child has never pushed another child. I really don't think they are aware that's an option. We should stop focusing (from the beginning) on teaching our children what is wrong and reinforce what is right. If they do something good--give them praise. If they do something bad--punish them. I feel too many parents ignore their kids behavior unless it's a negative behavior and then they are on their butts. I think this is why so many kids strive for any attention--especially through negative behavior these days. Parents aren't willing to enforce good behavior but are more then happy and quick to discipline bad behavior. If kids are constantly being scolded for what is wrong, how will they know what's right? I also agree with others. Some parents are disrespectful in the home and that's where it starts. Say a kid sees mom spitting on dad--that teaches him well my ROLE MODELS are doing it--so it's okay for me to do it.

Answer 8

Children live in a WORLD of dis-respect. It's all they see. It's important for parents to show it at home- between one another - towards others and to their children - best way to teach respect to a child is to be a respectful and respecting person yourself. They won't always see that in the world today - if they don't see it at home either?...how will they ever learn to do so at school, towards their teachers, classmates and anyone else for that matter. It always begins at home.

Answer 9

I'm not a parent, so can't answer those parts of your question.

I think what you did (requiring an apology) was the right thing to do.

I think it's a basic obligation of all parents to teach their children to treat other people properly, including teachers, peers, and everyone else. (Of course, the exact rules vary depending on the person -- you don't have to do what your peers tell you to, for example.)

It would be hard to imagine anyone who disagrees with you on this point (whatever their actual behavior).

Answer 10

One of my core rule is "no trouble in school" period. If one of our core rules is broken the child receives a spanking no questions asked. Teachers have enough trouble managing there classrooms with all the other unruly kids, the last thing I want them dealing with is my girls disrupting class time. My girls must and do respect there teachers.