I am 18 and my bf is 22 and we seem to be running into problems seeing how i cant do all the things he can.
2006-10-19 06:10:18 · 35 answers · asked by Jen v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He likes to go to clubs and party i dont really want to have a fake id to go with him.
2006-10-19 06:22:56 · update #1
plus i still live at home.
2006-10-19 06:24:14 · update #2
me 40 , my gf 23 . Doesn't matter for us.
2006-10-19 06:13:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Age matters less the older you get, but in your teens and 20s it matters a lot. Still, it's not a huge difference between you, so it shouldn't matter too much. Perhaps you need to find other things to base your relationship on, if the things you can't do are tearing you apart.
For example, if he likes to go to the bars and you can't get in yet, find a compromise. He'll spend the early part of the evening with you (dinner, movie, etc), and then go the bars later with his older friends. Or he does something with you Friday night and goes to bars/clubs on Saturday nights.
It's not your differences that define your relationship... it's how you overcome those differences.
2006-10-19 06:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Timing is everything, or at least a huge part of everything. Maybe the time isn't right for your relationship. You're probably better off with someone who can do the same things as you and isn't drinking age, yet. 18 is really young, I know you don't think it is, but it is. Being tied down to one person right now probably isn't your best life plan. Only you can make this decision. Once you hit 21 you start moving into the age difference is less important stage of life.
2006-10-19 06:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If he really likes you then he wouldn't go to places that you weren't able to go to.
Give it some time. Dont rush. Im 25 and my exhusband will be 30 in December.
We were together all through highschool, and married for 6 1/2 years. We are still the best of friends, we should have just stayed that way, but age had nothing to do with it.
Good luck.
2006-10-19 06:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age doesn't really matter in terms of eachother, liking eachother and what not. But otherwise, yes it can matter, just as you said. You can't do all the things that he can, so you guys have two seperate lifestyles going on that you're trying to mix and it's kinda hard to do, and puts stress on the relationship. Also, at 18 you're going to be changing A LOT between now and 22, trust me on that one!
2006-10-19 06:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After you turn 21, it won't matter so much - but right now, yes. It does matter. Sorry, but you will have all kinds of access to meeting new people, having different experiences, etc. once you're 21. If he loves you, he'll want that for you too.
Don't make any long-term commitment until you're at least 25: I've known too many people who've made the mistake of not living enough before marriage and regretted it later.
2006-10-19 06:18:08 · answer #6 · answered by 40yomama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be too much of a problem; minor things like you not being able to do some of the things he does (I'm guessing drinking is among them) shouldn't cause too much trouble, since soon you will have those same opportunities. I say go with the flow; if it becomes too difficult, you should approach him and talk to him about your concerns. He should be happy to keep you happy.
2006-10-19 06:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by Tim G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an issue like that when I was 20 and my b/f was 21, I kept thinking he was going to bars to meet up with other girls. When you get there you'll find out all guys are trying to do at bars is pick up girls. Let the relationship go it will only get worse and you will get more jealous it's not worth the trouble, trust me I've been there.
2006-10-19 06:13:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was wondering the same thing....I am an older woman with a younger man. There is a huge age difference....I have learned over the last 4 years that we have been together that age does not matter....If you love him....don't let anything stand in your way.
2006-10-19 10:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by illusion_03420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then be with someone that you can do the same things with... ...at 18, you should be dating more than one person and having as much fun as possible... ...mind you dating does not mean screwing every guy you see ... ...be 18 and when you are 22...be 22...but, you are not yet so, just concentrate on having fun doing the things you can do with the people you can do them with...
2006-10-19 06:13:52 · answer #10 · answered by Carmen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you are 21 it will be a lot easier. Right now he wants to go out to clubs party and do things that people your age can not do, ie go to a bar. It is hard when you both are still young and he can do things but not with you. GOOD LUCK.
2006-10-19 06:13:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋