My fiance and I can't come to an agreement on where to live.
I rent a one bedroom apt and he rents a two bedroom apt with a roommate.
The options are
1)when his lease is up in April to move in with me and upgrade to a two bedroom apt ( I say stay with me so we can save more money for a house forget about the 2 br option)
2) me move in with him ( roomate with have to move out and he is fully aware that when we get married he will have to move out and is okay with this-was made aware of us getting married before he became my fiance's roommate. I don't like this idea since I don't like where he lives
3) both of us get a two bedroom apartment before the wedding (i think we could save more if we suck it up in the one bedroom)
Neither of us have the money right now to start looking for a house and we both agree that we cannot have a house right away but we are working towards that goal.
2006-10-19 06:09:41 · 8 answers · asked by m_harvery 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We have a lot of stuff.
I don't know if all of his clothes can fit in my closet. This man has more clothes than Brooks Brothers!
2006-10-19 06:16:37 · update #1
find a new 2 bedroom that both of you like. It isn't fair to expect him to give up most of his things so he can crowd into yours. It is probably going to be a few years before you can buy a house so why be uncomfortable while you are saving money to do it.
2006-10-19 06:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say neither of the ideas. Why because you can' agree! I would say get a one bedroom apartment (since that is all you need at the moment and so you can save money) but one that is new for the both of you (start over it is not fair for him to have to move out and not you - maybe this is what he sees in all of this) you have to look at his point of view too - maybe it goes beyond what he is saying he just doesn't realize (Guys do this all the times - they don't understand what is bothering them) he is probably frustrated because he has to move out but not you. So, if you both have to move out maybe it would be better. This way you can start fresh but yet it will be cheaper so you can still save.
2006-10-19 14:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you get a one bedroom apt (new to both of you) that has a big closet? If you stay in your current one bedroom apt maybe you can use it as an opportunity to get rid of the stuff that you no longer use or wear?
You can use this issue as a way to see how well both of you can compromise! it is important to be able to compromise when living with someone! Good luck
2006-10-19 13:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by blu_drgn25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really only need a one bedroom apartment for the two of you.
I think that you guys should look for a one bedroom TOGETHER that is NEW to BOTH of you. This way, it is fresh to both of you and you can start making memories as Husband and wife.
You will both have to make compromises on amenities, location, etc. but you will be doing it together and compromising is the first rule to marriage.
I can't stress this enough, save the money and COMPROMISE on a new place.
Congratulations and good luck!
2006-10-19 13:14:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not bound by a lease,I say find an apartment that you can afford that some what meets your needs. If you are trying to save money you may have to give a little. Maybe you can have a yard sale and down size on some things. It is may experience that a fresh start is best.
2006-10-19 13:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by DEBO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it appears to me that both of you are not even ready to move in with one another , or neither to get married at this stage.if both of you can't make up your mind about moving in together, you dont seem to have a good future as marriage is a high priority and will always be in your lives. just think if both of you have no money and i presume your all paying high rents etc.my suggestion is, get rid of your boyfriends partner first. if you have no money there is little you both can do to buy a house ,either each of you have high paid jobs ,i would say that your relation ship would have to be very strong to reach the standard you have set for both of you in order to cope with job situations and monetary gains , IE high wages , good luck to you both ,
2006-10-19 13:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by lenihancornelius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that option A is the best. Saving money for a house is really important.
2006-10-19 13:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by betterlife_travel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a totally new apartment or house to rent. You two need to start anew.
2006-10-19 13:30:54 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋