When a child has gone missing or been killed I have shon my children the news hoping that would help them understand what can really happen if they take candy,talk help look 4 dogs etc...a stranger.If they brake the law going to the station to show around .I am wanting to do this because my children failed i test i did.I had a friend knock on our door and my children answered it ,this is after talking to them about the outcome of answering a door even if they think they no the person. I have also tried educating them on fighting and many more things .If u can help plz give answer or suggestions thx.
2006-10-19 06:07:31 · 14 answers · asked by too4barbie 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I don't see anything wrong with it. My kids range from 9,8,4, and 3 and I continue to teach them about especiallystrangers I make them watch stuff on tv too. SO, they know they don't "run off" in the store etc... You can never be too careful when it comes to your children. I dont see anything wrong with scaring them about stuff like that. You could always call the police dept. and have an officer explain to them about the "bad people and things" I know I have done it. But, we live in a smaller town so not sure if your local police dept would do it. Never hurts to ask.
2006-10-19 06:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by momdadand4kids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing the right thing. I have always done the same to my children. I have shown them the news and told them how to kick and scream and flop to the ground if anyone ever tries to take them. I have also told them that no one should ever touch their privates. I think I taught them the last one a little too well. When my husband and I took them to the doctor for their 4 year old immunizations the doctor also did a physical. When he asked them to drop their pants and underwear so he could make sure everything looked normal, they both started screaming and crying. So they definitely passed that test. The doctor just laughed and told me that I had done a good job teaching them about people not touching them but that maybe I should tell them it was alright if it was a doctor. Also I have always told them to never open the door to ANYONE. One day their paw paw came over and they wouldn't even let him in. I guess they really do listen.
2006-10-19 13:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by Wiccan Woman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing. Kids these days should realize what is going on out there. They need to know from right and wrong. Scaring them in a form that they will think twice before answering the door or speak to a total stranger. Anything can happen to them at that moment.
2006-10-19 13:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by LadySonia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on your child's personality. If he/she is obsessive and easily frightened, it will be the wrong thing to do. They may develop fear and anxiety and a general mistrust of the human race even with friends and family. It's good that you are training them in this way, just don't overdo it. It will make the world seem like a negative and foreign place for them long into adulthood.
2006-10-19 13:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by 1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scaring them doesn't teach them anything. The reason children are children is that their brains don't function as adult (some at least) brains. So they can't "connect the dots" and don't equate waving back at a friendly smiling adult with danger. Their brains can't do it. That's why they require protection, nurturing, and care until their thinking processes CAN do the connecting. You're expecting the impossible if you think they can sort dangerous situations from benign.
2006-10-19 13:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't think scaring achild is a good way to do anything, but practice does help. Like having your firend at the door, but I would not actually let them get kidnapped or something. Strangers are not good, but kids to not know how to be judgemental. It all takes time. good luck
2006-10-19 13:12:37 · answer #6 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definitely think you should explain consequences, but I don't think you should attempt to scare them. Touring the police station sounds like a reasonable thing to do. But don't try to make them afraid of policeman, because you don't want your children to hesitate to seek help from the police.
If you purposefully scare your children, this may make them afraid of things they shouldn't be afraid of. Also, they may learn to distrust you later, and resent the fact that you scared them on purpose.
2006-10-19 13:57:50 · answer #7 · answered by Marcella S 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a quick way to develop extreme anxiety and other psychological problems for your child.
Punishment is a much more direct and impactful procedure. It doesn't matter what might happen, this is what WILL happen. It's much easier for a child to understand that.
2006-10-19 15:25:52 · answer #8 · answered by Manny 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not the best way to teach them, but they should understand the reality of the situation. No, you should not scare them, but you should make sure they understand how serious it is. Consider their ages as well, you scare them too much and you will have to put up with nightmares, anxiety, phobias, etc.
2006-10-19 13:18:54 · answer #9 · answered by shakespear 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that's a good idea. Reality is those things can happen. If you sugar coat it they won't get it. I think I'll use that idea when the time comes for my little one to hear about stranger danger.
2006-10-19 13:14:09 · answer #10 · answered by BB'sMom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋