How can I be lonely & isolated when I have children, friends, family, interests, work, voluntary work etc.?

Question

I am kept busy, and can find partners (sexual) but it feels almost desperate at times. I am solvent and enjoy socialising, but I feel so very lonely. I would like to know if others feel like this or am I just a nutjob or depressed?

Answer 1

I will not tell you to seek your answers externally. Outward searches are rarely permanent, nor are they fulfilling. On the other hand I won't tell you to seek your salvation from the lord or any other religious means as these can be just as temporary. Rather I would look to understanding that everything around you is no less or more than exactly what you truly believe it to be. It cannot be otherwise because only you can live and control your reality. Lonely means you want someone to share all the things you have in your life that make you happy. Much as a Christmas morning alone can be a lonely time, with no children, or family around. You need something deeper than just a physical relationship, and something more than family. What is missing may be love, or it may be that you need a better feeling about yourself. Either way it is best to seek the answers within. When you can stand in the sun, close your eyes and feel the warmth on your skin and then realize that only you can feel it that way, only you can interpret how it makes you feel. Then you can truly understand how unique we, each of us, are. It is that uniqueness that gives us reason to share, and yet it is also the thing that sets us apart. Peace of mind is hard sometimes, but no matter how many people, things, or events you have in your life, you must understand that only you can control what you see, hear, and share.

Answer 2

1. I agree with those who suggest you should check out the possibility of depression - that is always possible.
2. I also agree with those who say a relationship with God is important and could be the missing factor.
3. However, without being depressed, and having a good relationship with God, and with all you have said about your social life, it is still possible to be lonely. One of the reasons is a hunger for genuine transparent friendship. You want to have people be friends with the real you, but may be afraid to be open about who you really are. You need to learn how to develop relationships in which you can be truly transparent, learning how to listen to others and be listened to. There are some courses available on this kind of things, sometimes in the field of what is called "pop psychology" - which simply means simple psychological principles explained at a popular level that you and I can understand!
God bless, I hope you find some answers.

Answer 3

If your life is totally based upon material earth, then it is no wonder that you are lonely. If you can think no higher than the ceiling of your home, then loneliness will stay with you. Friends, family, kids, work associates and the like will always let you down or they will eventually become boring. I would not say that you are depresses, I would say that you are bored with the same ole hum-drum that you have lived with all your life. Hopping around sexually will eventually get old and boring too. What you need is a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. He never gets old or boring. You will never loose interest in him because he can keep you occupies for all eternity. Give Christ a try in your life. I think that you will like what he can do for you.

Answer 4

Because there's a difference in being ALONE and lonely. You have some aspect of your life that's obviously not being fulfilled. Maybe you should take a look at your spiritual life and see what's going on there. You seem to be looking for someone or something to fill that void and it can only be done by the Lord. Look to Him for everything. Only He can bring you peace, joy, and contentment. Happiness is temporary. You need that joy!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Its called depression. You can be in a room filled with people
and feel this way. You need to see a Dr. He can help you with these feelings. Medication, really helps. It takes away all those
negative feelings. Believe me I know how you feel. I had depression for a long time , before I realized what what going on.
It's not a bad thing you feel this way. Its called a chemical in balance. Please get help. God Bless You

Answer 7

The last word in your statement. Depressed--maybe. But it does appear you need internal/spiritual contentment. That I cannot help with. Perhaps others can give better answers. Good luck.

Answer 8

Maybe your feeling depressed, time to see a doctor to make sure this doesn't get worse.
At least your aware of it and are looking for help, thats a start.

Answer 9

Do you have time for just you? Are you searching for something in your life whether that search is emotional, spiritual, or perhaps just a connection with another? We can be alone among throngs of people. It is all about the heart.

Answer 10

You should see a therapist. No joke. If you feel hopeless or isolated and you have everything going for you and you know you should be happy... find out if something deeper or something chemical is wrong.