Basically i just said i know you're having fun being single and that's fine but i know you are not gonna be ready in two months for a commitment and he got mad about me saying it.Why?Is it cause i'm on to him or am i just bothering him cause i think i know what he feels but i really have no idea?
2006-10-19 05:59:00 · 14 answers · asked by serenity 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am moving closer to him soon and he keeps saying when i do he will be with me but he is dating all these other girls andi don't thinkin two months when i'm there he will be ready for a serious commitment like he makes it seem and then he got upset.
2006-10-19 06:15:07 · update #1
number one - do not jump to conclusions. Men DO NOT express feelings like women do. If you ask a guy how he feels GIVE HIM LOTS OF TIME to answer you. Psychologists have actually timed how long it takes between a woman asks a guy how he feels about something and when he's able to answer her - it is usually 8 to 10 minutes!!! Also something else, it looks like you are asking HIM about commitment, you know I would probably get mad too. You may think I'm difficult, but I think it is the Man's job to choose the woman, not the other way around. I think a women can do a lot to influence that choice. It is His job to persue You, and if he's not persuing you then maybe he's not the one for you - I don't know - a lot of guys are like that. If you are the one, he will come after you until he gets you and there's not going to be any stopping him. I know when I dated my deceased wife, I wanted her, I prayed a long time for her, and I persued her until she was my wife, I knew I had a good thing and I wasn't going to let her go no matter what. If he doesn't know that about you, then he doesn't want you that bad. Also - 2 months isn't very long, sometimes it takes a while. I think he's mad because he wants to be the one to make the decision. That's ok. Just let him know you are interested and the get out of the way and see what he does. If he does nothing after a while, then you know. Men do things slower than women especially emotionally, you have to give him more time. They aren't all connected to everything. Men tend to escape into their nothing box and do nothing and think nothing and feel nothing and they'll stay there all day ify ou let them. All depends on how much pain a man is in. I don't think men deal with pain as well as women. But that's me.
2006-10-19 06:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by on_the_move4ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you pinpointed the problem, or perhaps it made him angry to be stereotyped with so many other men who are apparently "commitmentphobic." What you need to do is sit down and have a long discussion with him to find out why he got angry and how he really feels about being in a committed relationship. You won't know if you don't ask, and men aren't mindreaders. Neither are women.
2006-10-19 06:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by uspslady39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like there's more to this. However based on the info given I would say he got mad because it's true. Sometimes the truth is hard to deal with. Just be careful because if he wanted to he could make a big deal out of it, and dump you over it. Saying that you were crazy because you kept buggin him to get married.
2006-10-19 06:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by nautical_star8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do I know why he's mad? And how do you know he won't be ready to commit in two months? Can you see the future? And what does it matter if he will or won't be ready in two months? Are you on some kind of timeline here?
2006-10-19 06:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by FatElvis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like girls, guys dont like it when other people assume to know what theyre thinking or feeling, and I would guess thats why he got upset. However, he should get over it pretty quick, its not a trainsmash and youre bound to have many more disagreements. He should learn to deal with it better.
2006-10-19 06:02:15 · answer #5 · answered by shakespear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 11:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he got upset--but did not correct you or reveal to you contrary feelings, he's just being a whiny ***** about him being found out. I don't see why he's making it some sort of issue when you're not. It sounds like you just established an observation and he got all pissy-pants about it.
2006-10-19 06:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by Leena Rosen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, you really have no idea. You don't know how he feels. You shouldn't tell a man how he's feeling. Would you like it if he told you how you were feeling?
2006-10-19 06:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by Inez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it is insecurity on his part and pride.
he sounds like he is not ready for commitment.
2006-10-19 06:02:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must have been right,if he got up set then he is just playing you and has been for some time . good luck.
2006-10-19 06:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by macki4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋