I need to know girls only advice about a letter I am going to right to a girl I love very much but is seeing someone els at the moment. Weather it is the right thing to do. How do you think she will react. and weather the letter is good or not thank you.
Dear Shanie
I would like to begin by apologising to you for what you are about to read. Because it is about my feelings towards you. I know you are probably very happy in your relationship with Steve. But if I don’t tell you how I feel about you I am going to go mad with wondering how you feel about me. The truth about how I feel about you is that I love you very much. I have loved you since the first moment I saw you. But I was to nervous to tell you then. And I have regretted it ever since. Because every time I look at the two of you I think how that could have been you and me.
I have tried for quiet some time to control how I feel about you and accept the way things are. That you have probably noticed when you have seen me upset and asked me how I am. The truth is I don’t think I can accept the way things are because you are in my heart and soul and you are always on my mind. And that’s not all because I am sad when you are sad I am happy when you are happy I like all your good points about you and I even like the bad.
I understand if you are happy in your relationship with Steve and you are not interested in me the same way. The only thing I hope you can do is if you don’t feel the same way about me is you can forgive me for writing this letter telling you how I feel about you and remain friends because I would much rather have you in my life than not at all.
Sincerely Yours
Trevor
2006-10-19 05:52:56 · 24 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A wonderful letter, Trevor. Simple, heartfelt, and asking nothing she can't give.
But, speaking from experience, don't send it. She's not going to dump Steve to be with you; she likes you as a friend but loves him as a boyfriend. This letter isn't really about her; it's about you and your feelings. It will hurt your friendship, because once she reads this she will always be conscious that you are a disappointed suitor and not a friend. She will be unhappy that she can't help hurting you. And eventually she will resent you for putting that pressure on her.
If you really care about her happiness, burn the letter and try to conquer your feelings on your own.
If she breaks up with Steve for her own reasons, or the two of you have a big fight because she wants to know why you're upset and won't tell her, then it might be good to send the letter, but not before. Personally I'd include a few commas to make it easier to read, because some sentences run on a bit.
Best wishes.
2006-10-19 06:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky one, it's a lovely letter and there are thousands of girlie's out there who'd love to get somethin like that, I'd be one of them!None of us can really tell you what to do, not v helpful is it, as we don't know much about you and Shanie or your current relationship. If she is happy then she may feel uncomfortable around you, or she could just be flattered and be honest with you about her feelings. If she's not happy she could leave Steve and get with you, but she might only do this because of how you feel, not how she feels.
You need to ask yourself if you could really cope knowing that she knows how you feel but doesn't return those feelings, and that you could potentially no longer have the relationship you do now. You yourself have said you'd rather have her as a friend than not at all.
Life's a gamble, you hold the dice in your hands, do you roll them and take that chance or not?
You seem a lovely guy an I wish you the best whatever you decide to do. xx
2006-10-19 06:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww thats a really nice letter (lucky girl) umm were do i start...its a good thing that u would want to stay friends with her hopefully u wont feel weird around each other. it looks like u really put ur heart and soul into this letter and hopefully she will notice that . I personally got upset when my ex told me that he still had feelings for me cuz i was happy with my boyfriend now i m confuse if i still love him or if it is just lust. my answer give the letter to her and faith will do the rest. if she says "no" then try ur best to get over her its going to be painful but some other lucky girl may be needing ur love. good luck and hope i helped u out a bit.
2006-10-19 06:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my mates went through this same thing, where she was good mates with a guy but he really wanted to be with her and so wrote her a letter just like yours while she was going out with another guy ... anyways in her case she didn't like the fact he wrote her the letter ... because she was happy with the guy she was with (and she is still with him 2 years on) and even though this guy felt this way about her ..she didn't feel the same ... hence the fact she was with someone else.
Personally i think you shouldn't give her the letter if she is happy and in a stable relationship already ... it will only bring about complications for her ... once you bring up something like this it won't be so easy to get out of it ... so my advice would be to just be a good friend to her and be there for her in whatever way you can. This way she will see that you love and care for her and maybe someday if she breaks up with Steve then she will look to you ...
2006-10-19 06:03:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now this letter may make her mad, and show it to her boyfriend, and other people in her class, are you prepared for that? The only thing about a letter is that it can come back to haunt you. Now you know that she is happy in her relationship with her boyfriend, don't you think you are taking a big risk? My thought is for you to just be her friend, and when things get bad between her and her boyfriend, then you move in. Why not find a girlfriend for yourself?
2006-10-19 06:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya Trev. It seems like an ok letter. Do you trust her enough to keep the letter secret from her boyfriend though because that could cause a whole lot of hassle if she decides to show him. I believe though that if it is meant to be then it will happen..so fingers crossed for ya and hope it all works out good for ya!!
2006-10-19 05:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by Missy-B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that letter is Beautiful & to the point with reason & if Shanie dont like it call me so I can be Shanie because it takes a lot of guts for a guy to tell/write their true feelings about a situation I know exacatly how you feel but I was to scared so I can understand were you cooming from go get your girl player
and God Bless you all and your relationship
2006-10-19 06:19:00 · answer #7 · answered by ebony_dmnd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU WANT HER IN YOUR LIFE DO NOT SEND THE LETTER. IF SEE DOSE NOT FEEL THE SAME WAY SHE WILL FEEL AWKWARD AROUND YOU. THEN SHE WILL AVOID YOU. ASK HER IF SHE IS HAPPY WITH HER BOYFRIEND IF SHE IS SAY NOTHING. IF SHE IS NOT WAIT TILL THAY FALL OUT AND PICK THE PEACES UP. IF SHE SHOWS THE LETTER TO HER BOYFRIEND YOU COULD GET A NICE BLACK EYE. THE LETTER IS REALLY GOOD AND I WISH THINGS WERE DIFFRENT FOR YOU GOOD LUCK X
2006-10-19 06:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by debbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you need girl advice on?
2016-05-22 02:13:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's going to love it! Pass it to her, she's gonna luv ya. Except that's what my boyfriend did to get me and we broke up a couple weeks after...but this letter is MUCH better and any lady will like it. You really sound like a sweet guy and she will be a very lucky girl
2006-10-19 06:00:35 · answer #10 · answered by Weird Chick o.O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋