i need advice i feel like calling the guy am inlove with.?

Question

he has not called me for 2 in a half weeks i miss him should i call him to his job he does not answer his cell and ask him what is going on or just leave it alone.

Answer 1

This is a very tough situation. I think every woman may have had a similar situation. Let me tell you a little something about guys. Some can be jerks. I know you like him alot, but if the feelings were mutual, he would be answering the phone and calling back. He is being immature by not responding and simply telling you that it's not going to work and leaving your feelings out on a limb. The only excuse to his behavior would be if something major has impacted his life and even then, if he did feel deeply for you, he would have the courtesy to call and let you know he won't be in contact for a while because something has come up. Don't call anymore. That takes away your power, meaning everytime you call, and don't get an answer, you begin to wonder. Is there something wrong? Is there something wrong with me? Did I do something to upset him? Then it can turn to anger. Trust this, just as you caught his eye enough to get his attention, YOU ARE BAD ENOUGH TO CATCH ANOTHER!!! (smile) You have to hold on to your strength and confidence. If he calls after he sees you haven't attempted to call, act reallly cool. Don't ask where has he been, why he hasn't call. Even if you haven't gotten over him, unless he starts to give you the attention you deserve,let him know your time is valuable. (Here is a little trick that usually works wonders) When he calls, have an even tone. A minute into him probably trying to explain himself, pretend your other line just beeped. Say hold on this is the call I've been waiting on. Press a button like you are trying to clicked over, he'll still be there but say really sexy "Hey baby, I've been waiting on you call all day!" He will say "Hello?" You say "Oh, I thought I clicked over...let me call you right back." That will let him know you haven't been hold your breath or time for him. In the mean time hopefully you will find some one you can truly say "Hey baby" to.

Answer 2

I would recommend for you to call him on his cellular only... not at work -- unless if it's emergency. That call should take place when he's off work or you will most likely to receive an unpleasant response if you call him at a wrong time. Emotional conversations should only take place where there's, at least, a little privacy and that nothing else important is there to interfere -- his work is a big interferance to the kind of conversation you seek.

Also, if he doesn't answer his cellular, send him an SMS then, but you should not require immediate response. Otherwise the guy might feel like being pushed or obligated, which is not very good.

Why not play some good music and start imagining what you want to tell him; how'd you like to deliver them; and what you'll wear should a date comes up in your conversation?

Answer 3

just leave it alone. he's probably delaying the time he calls you purposely or he just doesn't know what to talk about over the phone. the next time you see him you should just be chill and say something like "how come you didn't call me?". that would get him thinking. but don't say on that subject for a while. just ask the question one time. hear his excuse and then after that just chill for the night. just sort of ease the pressure. if he calls you on the phone, you could ask the same question and this time be the first to hang up on a high point in the conversation. that would leave him wanting more if he is really interested in you.

Answer 4

You can call, but usually when guys are interested, they don't wait that long. So just tell him that you wanted to check if he is ok, be brief, and make sure that you finish your conversation, not him. If he does not call within a week or so, move on.

Answer 5

I know how you feel. I'm in love with someone that I haven't talked to in several weeks. He's not in love with me. We were talking a lot, and now it's not much.

I want to call him today too, but don't think I will. It will cause me to want to talk to him again and again, and he's not into me now.

Go ahead and call, but if you feel the "chill" coming through, then don't do it again and let go.

Answer 6

It all depends on what kind of relationship you had with him, if he wasn't your boyfriend he doesn't have to call you. But if you want to kill the curiosity and find out maybe you should. But don't sound desperate and start B.I.TC.H.I.N.G. about why he hasn't call you. That will just kill the whole point of calling him.

And if he just didn't want to call you, then find someone else.

Answer 7

How do you know he is okay. Maybe he got hurt. Maybe your being to much and he doesnt want anything serious? Lots of maybe, maybe, Sure I'd call him. I cant believe you waited this long. Better ask and find out then wondering. That will drive you crazy.

Answer 8

I would call his home, or job once, and if he does not talk to me, then I would not call him again. Yes it would be hard, But I would, say to my self, if he does not want to talk to me, than it will be a cold day in hell before I call him!

Answer 9

Honestly..i think you should just leave it alone. You don't want to sound desperate. If he hasn't called you, then it most likely means he has moved on...and i think you should move on too.

Answer 10

I would call him at work....if you were dating this guy you deserve an explanation. I hate when guys just stop talking to you. You can make it brief when you call him at work. Just say we really need to talk I promise not to throw a fit (Scream and yell) but I want to know what happened!