Well we have been dating since i was 12 and he is the love of my life i really wnat to have sex with him but i not ready to give my virginidy. Do i make ancuse?
2006-10-19 05:49:14 · 36 answers · asked by shorty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you aren't ready then don't do it. You will regret it when you're older.
Tell him that he needs to wait if he really loves you!
2006-10-19 05:51:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell him exactly what you told us. You're not ready to give up your virginity. How old are you, anyway? If he really loves you, then he will wait. I got married at 23. I was a virgin until I turned 22, and only made love with my husband when the engagement ring was on my finger. I figured that if he loved me enough to marry me, then he'd love me until I was ready. If he wasn't going to wait, then too bad for him. He's the one who would be missing out. By the way, I'm only 26 now, so no, I'm not an old woman with old-fashioned ideas. And yes, we are still married, and have been for three years. And I don't regret making him wait one bit.
2006-10-19 05:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by Shayna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Shorty!
If he's the man of your life, then I don't see why "giving up" your virginity is such an issue; if he is THE man, you will eventually "give it up" to him, won't you luv?
Second my opinion is that the faster you have sex with someone, the faster you discover who (and what) you're dealing with. It's hard to find out the truth anbout males, but when in an intimate position (such as intercourse) their body language (& more) gives up information not usually available...
Thirdly, you shouldn't feel pressure in any way to "give up" your virginity... Personnaly I don't see what the big deal is (I myself was in a hurry to give it up!) , but I know how important it is to most people, so just make sure you are 100% comfortable before doing anything you may regret later...
Fourthly, there are "alternatives" to standard sex and intercourse, such as oral sex, an*l sex (for the adventurous, of course!), mutual masturbation, and the like... These things can often satisfy the man enough for him not to wish to pressure you into have sex.
But it all boils down to you doing what you feel is comfortable...
And if I may say something; don't lie to him or make up a story... If he's "THE" man, then you'll be with him for a very long time, and if you lie now, you'll have to keep that lie alive until... until... Well for a very long time! And when the truth comes out one day (it always does) things will be much more difficult to handle...
PS: I speak by experience, luv...
2006-10-19 05:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by ButtahChick (ButterChick) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that, when you are ready you'll know don't EVER let a man guilt you into sex. You will only end up resenting him and have a lot of issues later in life. Wait until you are ready, there are other things you could do rather than sex.
2006-10-19 05:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are. But, it sounds like you all dated for a long time. It is your decision to have sex. Remember there are other things you can do.
Hand job
oral sex
anal sex
that will keep him excited and keep you a virgin! But, you need to make a decision if you want to do any of these or not. Just be HONEST with him!!!!
If he loves you he will understand!
2006-10-19 06:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by The Ultimate Nerd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, because I hate to be lied to and I know u do too. Tell him no that is something that is sacred to u and u can never get that back don't rush, do it when u r ready. I did it to early and it was not all that and I wish I would have waited. Take Ur time, and if he cannot understand that maybe he is not for you!
Good luck!
2006-10-19 06:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by thickfudge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are now. Don't have sex with anyone until you're ready. Just tell him that you love him but you aren't ready for sex.
2006-10-19 05:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by debi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its OK to tell him you love him, but that sex will come at a later date when YOU are ready.
2006-10-19 06:08:38 · answer #8 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No tell the truth, you are a pathetic excuse for a woman and will not be surprised to find out he has dumped your sorry @ss and found fun and love with someone else xxx
2006-10-19 05:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by JoyDivision 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same old same old.
Talk to him about it. It will be embarassing, but it's better you get it out of your system.
Or would you rather just give in when he pushes?
Sex is best left for marriage. Less problems. Less attachments. Less pain.
Hakuna matata.
2006-10-19 05:58:01 · answer #10 · answered by demi-kun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loves you then he will listen and understand you. Do not do anything that you don't want to do. It will both make you unhappy. Explain to him that you don't want to. True love is never selfish and will always consider the beloved's happiness first before his own.
2006-10-19 05:56:48 · answer #11 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋