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okay here it goes i'm 19 years old, no job no license no car. At teh age of 15 my parents wouldnt let me get my permit becuase of bad grades, 16 same thing, 17 same thing, at 18 i went to take my test failed 4times so i had to wait a whole year to retake it...still no job i dropped out my senior year. thinking i can get my GED get my license and start getting on with my life...then right before my 19th birthday my sister gets disagonesd with a very rare cancer...so my parents tell me not to get a job because i'm the only one that can help around the house while there away at ST. Jude with her... a year later i turn 20 in december and i'm compleletly lost never had a job never had any responality and afriad i'm gonna be a 35 year old loser living at home...anybody else feel this way?

2006-10-19 05:48:01 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Family

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I graduated and got my license all in the same day. I was 18 1/2. I didn't get my first job until after I turned 19, but believe me, I didn't want to!! Your life is what you make of it, so be there for your parents and sister thought this trying time and you will come out a stronger person. Maybe you can get a part-time job close to your house. Start saving some money and get yourself a vehicle. Don't beat yourself up over all this, you will just make your self confidence become that much smaller. You can do it!! Hang in there and keep your head up!!

2006-10-19 06:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Honey first life can be worse. how is your sister? You are twenty now right or close? do you live in the country or city? Do you have to have insurance before you get your test if so ask your family to help you out with that. It is not hopeless your family needs you at this moment but I do not think they would mind you geting your Ged.
You want to hear some whining here is some in 2003 this month I lost my husband of twenty yrs. in 2005 I wrecked the motorcycle that he bought. I did alot of damage to me not the bike. I had to have knee reconstuction three different parts done, lost a great job and still can not work form the wreck. I'm told that I may never work because there was other damage to my body than just that. Now I sit here and try to figure a way to pay my bills becuase I have no one and most of my family does not talk with me any more. Because of some things I can not discuss on here. I have though of suicide but I keep thinking I have always been a fitgher how can I give up now, but then there are days like to day when the pain is bad and then it makes you think again. So don't think of yourself as a loser. think of a way to help your family and help yourself at the same time. I'm sure your family would not mind you getting your GED. So sit down and talk with them tell them you just need to do a little something for your self. Good luck you are not a loser a loser is some who does not try you are helping your family .

2006-10-19 06:12:47 · answer #2 · answered by liza 4 · 0 0

Things will most likely get better for you. You are only 19, a long way from 35, and the loser living at home. So much will happen before then. Just take one day at a time, make the best of it. If your sister is better, or when she is better, work on getting your GED, and a job. Now she should come first, I think.

2006-10-19 12:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Umm, you can still have a job and house responsibilities can't ya? I

I agree with everyone else, a GED is a MUST for your list of things to do, for the next few years. But, as far as a job goes, you may just have to start at a fast food place, for example, or grocery store, and work yourself up. You won't get handed the perfect job. Some people who have worked all their lives still haven't been handed "the perfect job". We all have to start somewhere low on the totem pole. There are several jobs out there that do not require a GED. Start looking. The sooner you get in some cash flow, the sooner you can resolve the slump you are in. Good luck~

2006-10-19 06:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by ~Miss Molly~ 2 · 0 0

It sounds like two things are happening. You are getting a WHOLE lot of responsibility, really fast and you are mature enough to realize you need to get things together but are not there yet.

Don't worry. By even talking about it, it seems you realize the situation and what you need to do. Not knowing WHAT to do is common. Just do the best you can right now and it will work out the way you want. You will find a way to get done what you need to if you put your mind to it.

15 years at home is a long time. I don't see it happening. You will be more mature than I am by the time your family gets through this. Just pick a job you like, or can stand. Change jobs if you need to. That is not as painful as some people let on.

Take Care.

2006-10-19 05:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by RJ 3 · 1 0

Why are you even asking this question? WIll it make you feel better if someone says you have the worst life? Which BTW you dont. Think of starving children living on the street and people themselves that are dieing from a rare disease. If you think you have the worst life because you get to give in a nice house and you dont have to work so you get to sit around all day, and be driven around. THAT IS THE LIFE SOME PEOPLE DREAM ABOUT! Get over it, You have a fine life and after the age of 18 you could have getton a job, and a licence and moved out! So dont continue to blame it on your parents. Get a damn life. and look for the positives. You will find many.

2006-10-19 06:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley Oasis 3 · 0 0

Firstly - you are not a loser. You are aware of your situation and that is a big start to doing something to get through it. The fact that you are helping around the house is an act of responsibility. You have the double whammy of knowing that your sister is very sick and your parents are probably spending a great deal of time with her - leaving you to deal with some very raw emotions on your own. Take heart in knowing that at the end of the day - you will be a much stronger person for it. Your success at school is not a good measure of the kind of adult you will become. How many brilliant students go on to lead very dull lives? History is full of famous people who did amazing things and had fabulous lives but did very poorly at school. At 20 years old - you still have a lot of living to do. What you need to do first is look beyond your immediate situation and start setting goals for yourself - because the years WILL start to fly by if you allow yourself to become complacent and start wallowing in your terrible circumstances. It's what you do now that will make all the difference. While you have time on your hands - as in not working - you should be doing things that will help you get employment - short courses, part time work - any kind of part time work - to get you some experience. There are many people out there - unbelievably - in much worse situations than yours. Are you going to put up the good fight or are you going to lay down and die. The choice is yours. You make your own destiny......you don't just wait for it to come looking for you because it won't. Okay - things are bad. They are very bad....but when life throws lemons at you - you make lemonade. Be a survivor. I won't say good luck - because in your case - you will need to make your own luck. So just do it!

2006-10-19 06:12:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Oh you have your whole life ahead of you so don't worry. Your parents seemed to need you during this time and it's great you could be there for them. Don't' feel bad about the license my son failed his test 3 times and the only reason I think he passed it the 4th try was because i made him actually read the book you get from the testing center. ;o) I do suggest when you do have the time to get started on that GED though. good luck to you on all ;o)

2006-10-19 06:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0 0

You can't blame your parents for your bad decision making. You chose not to work hard at school and to drop out, and you chose not to get a job. I can't believe your parents haven't insisted on some sort of responsibility from you yet. I'm sorry for your sister, but if your parents are away at the hospital with her, then what is there to take care of while they're gone, you have only yourself to worry about. You need to take control of your life instead of looking for convenient excuses for why you can't..... or you will be 35 years old with no idea how to take care of yourself.

2006-10-19 06:11:43 · answer #9 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 0 0

I'm sorry about your sister. But you should have started this whole job thing the day you turned 16. But I'm sure things will work out, go to a community college and get some kind of degree.

2006-10-19 05:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by Britni Gayle 2 · 0 0

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