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Read my answer to this question above. It has too many character to put in here. This has basically wrecked my family but I think it was pretty screwed up before this. I am soo fed up with my family and sometimes wish I would never see them again.
What would you guys do if you were me.
2006-10-19 05:45:08 · 18 answers · asked by K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You really think I deserved that Joy? You must be a really lovely person...
2006-10-19 05:50:44 · update #1
Click the link Lil Mama and look for my answer to that particular question
2006-10-19 05:51:55 · update #2
My God babe, just read your story and i don't blame you in the slightest for feeling how you do. Like they say.. you can choose your friends but not your family. This guy seems like a complete *** hole. As for your sister, i think its low that she took his side over yours. I'm having a dispute with mine but for the opposite reason. Her fella beats her and when she comes crying I back her up to the hilt. I've even got people to sort this guy out but next thing you know im the worst in the world and she's still with the prick. We haven't spoken in 4 years. It breaks my mums heart and she goes on about it constantly but i never go to special occasions now, I find it to difficult to keep my mouth shut about it all. Maybe you should try and steer clear for a while babe, I don't know how well you get on with your parents but as i say to my mum.. Me and my sister are only related by blood, its no loss to me. I really hope you get over this babe, but like i say, give yourself a break from them x x x
2006-10-19 10:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by I-Love-My-Boys 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if you ned a hug :(
This ex of your sis has a serious anger problem that he needs to get sorted out an unfortunately you ae the one to suffer for it.
You hurt his pride when you made him pass out that is why he "got back at you" (my boyfriend does the exact same thing when people get too much for him), you could of actually hit him and done some real damage but you didn't and you should be proud that you held you temper well.
As for your family, they should of understood why you done it, your sis ex has a background of physical abuse, he hit one girlfriend before, what would of happened if your sis had of bore the brunt of his anger?...your family should know by now what kind of a person you are, did they honestly expect you to stand back and let this guy carry on ruining their anniversary?, how much more damage did they want him to do before you stepped in?
Its also understandable why your sis is blaming you on the reak up of this relationship, she obviously loved this guy for a reason, hat else was she meant to clame the break up on, you are the easy target at the minute because of everything that has happened.
Your parents would obviously be upset with you because its your little sis' heart that has been broken and they would take her side but once the your little sis starts to get over it things should start getting back to normal.
I think you were totally right reporting him, how many people are going to let him get away with solving problems with his fists?
Families can be a little slow sometimes but in a few months time they will know you were right in what you done...as I said before, you could of done a lot worse on the night of their anniversary but it was your sis' ex who done the most damage at the end of the day.
2006-10-19 13:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by debs1701 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Kevin,this is a big big question to ask.Having just read your answer to the other question,i must say that if i were in your shoes i think i would say enough is enough.My own personal opinion is that i would get away from everyone and try and make a new life for myself.However,this is something you must face and ultimately make the decision yourself.Good luck mate,whatever you decide i hope you make the best decision for all concerned.
2006-10-19 12:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by sweynseye 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough one maybe you need to phone your mom first then see what happens its a thing called "tough love" its hard butyour sister seems to have issues maybe tryand get her some help then move on with your relationship as a brother my brother is younger and hes my bestfriend i would have never done anything like that to him or have chose a dude over himNO WAY maybe you should give your sis a call orpaste her this link and let her read i bet she would open her eyes then good luck..... ps. and for Joy well shes wrong you didnt deserve that maybe shes confused on the story i was at first.....lol take care :-)
2006-10-19 13:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by ~*cindy *~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first of all even if you were to an extent justified, you should have let things go. Your sister and parents seem to have trouble in seeing the bad side of people, that might be good or bad depending on how you look at it.
even though you sustained such injuries you should let things go then eventually you can forgive your sister.
And if you are still out for revenge maybe you should look into suing his sorry A**
2006-10-19 13:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by Solitary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be very hurt that your family didn't stand by you. I have a relative who has had a similar experience. He is absolutely crushed by the negative reaction of his sister and his parents, despite his injuries. Unfortunately for him now, he is adopting a bad lifestyle to hurt his parents. The reality is that he is also hurting himself, a tragedy since he is only in his early twenties.
The only advice I can give is not to let this run away with you and affect your life more than it has at the moment. Good luck.
2006-10-19 12:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by Never say Never 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You still need to work it out. Family is forever and you cant just walk away from them because of issues in your past. This guy was a jerk and got away with a lot of stuff and I dont blame you for hating his guts. But, dont let him break up your family on top of everything else he got away with. Talk to all of them, get it all out and then try to move on. He is gone so let his problems he caused your family be gone too.
2006-10-19 12:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by katybeth212001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a coward if he had to get you drunk to beat you up.
I would want to hit him too if he had done so many horrible things.
If he was never around I think you ought to see your parents for Christmas. Your sister well be polite but wary .
Hope you have or will have a lovely family of your own.
2006-10-19 14:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by dancingcar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The saying You can choose your friends but not your family is soooo true.
Sounds like your sister and parents let you down. Accept their faults and realise that they are not as strong as you and never will be.
If you can do this you will feel happier in your relationships with them
2006-10-19 13:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by multiflowercolour 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
damn man, that's fu*ked up how your parents didn't even care that your sis's boy toy beat you up.....I think you should get away from your family for a while. they didn't care for you in your time of need and they arent right now. you deserve the chance to get away and think about things and live your own life!if your sis wants to date a low life sack of crap, let her. she won't get the pucture until he beats the crap outta her, so let her learn her lessons the hard way.
hope your knee gets better
best wishes
2006-10-19 12:53:04 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋