My soon to be bride and I would like to have my 4 year old son, (from a past relationship) do something with us while we exchange our vowels so he feels that he's a part of this. We thought of maybe getting him a ring, but no good ideas! help
2006-10-19 05:38:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
get him a ring too! and they are vows...not vowels....
2006-10-19 05:40:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a professional wedding planner. Consider a blending ceremony. The Bride would put her sand in first while saying her words, then your son would pour his in, finally you would pore in yours. Your words should include a promise to protect them both.
This ceremony is slowly replacing the unity candle.
You and your bride should be very aware that you are creating a family and the 'little guy' is an important part of it. It maybe her day from an attention perspective but it is a life that the three of you will share hopefully for a long time. The wedding is a good place to start this sharing
2006-10-19 13:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by Jean D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting him a ring is definitely a good idea. I too have a son from a previous relationship. We were thinking about a ring or there is this neckace that you can get at most jewelry stores. It is a chain and then a hanging charm that is three cirlces intertwined together. It's stands for the parents and the kid all coming together in a marriage. You can look it up on google or anywhere on a jewelry store website.
Good luck
2006-10-19 12:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by texas y'all! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can't be the ringbearer (although that's an OK age for one), why don't you get him something special. A keepsake like a toy train bank engraved with the name and date. I'm sure the clergyman can have an idea of how to present this while you tell him "Welcome to the family". That way he's seeing you two exchanging rings, and not wondering why he's not getting anything. Just a thought.
2006-10-19 13:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine to include the child in the wedding ceremony but it's not necessary to give him a ring. Four years old is not too young to learn that some events are built around others and that a wedding ring is a special symbol between a husband and a wife.
2006-10-19 12:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My son was 4 as well when I married...he was the ring bearer in our wedding and had matching tux with groom. He was very pleased to be involved. We also bought him a gold chain...that he still has...=) Getting him a special ring is a good idea!
2006-10-19 12:42:39 · answer #6 · answered by thisiscrazyinsane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your clergyman or judge about including him into the ceremony. Maybe he could help escort your fiancee down the aisle. Possibly introduce you as Mr. and Mrs. John Doe and (child's name) Doe. Also introducing your selves as Mr. and Mrs. John Doe and family at the end of the ceremony. I would not suggest jewelry as it it would become lost too easily. Include him in on pictures of the two of you together as you are forming a new family. Good luck!
2006-10-19 12:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by scarlettohara1861 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could get him a cross (if you are religious) regardless of if you are getting married in a church, it would symbolize that you are all one family in the eyes of God and the love of your new family.
You could also write vows to him as his father and his new step-mother that would encompass the promises that you will make to him (and to each other) as a new family.
This is extremely thoughtful and it will surely be impressionable for your son to see the example that you are setting for him as his Father and as a man.
Bravo.
2006-10-19 13:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kind of agree with Melissa. But not so harsh, lol. Have him be in the wedding, get him a little gift, like a toy he wants. He is your son, not hers. It is her day. Its great that she wants him to be involved, but he is not your son together. Make sure he feels special. Have him be the ring bearer. He will be excited enough about that.
2006-10-19 12:54:06 · answer #9 · answered by SavvyGrl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you should make him the ring barrer. get a little pillow and tie the rings on the pillow. he dosen't have to compleatly be a part of the wedding to actually be a part of the wedding. he will feel like he has a part in it too.
2006-10-19 12:41:04 · answer #10 · answered by tribenallchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds too extreme. I think that by having him be your ring boy and he hands your rings to you at the alter will make him feel special enough. 4 years old is so young, so doing something as simple as handing you the rings will make him feel really important.
2006-10-19 12:44:57 · answer #11 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋