I've known this guy for about 9 years now. He's about 10 yrs older then me & when we lived in the same state we used to joke about getting married & such. Fast forward 4 years. He has been married now for a year to someone I consider a really good friend. The beginning of last month I took a trip back home (2x) the 1st time his wife was out of town so we all drank & hung out. In his drunken stupor he started talking about how bad his marriage was. 2 weekends later....I go back down his wife is with him this time & we all hang out and its fine...Fast forward...Last wknd I found out that him & his wife were seperated. So I sent him an email telling him I was pulling for him...Then Monday we started sending emails back & forth and he expressed that when I came down last month he couldn't keep his eyes off me & often thinks about me & there was some sexually explicit emails. He even had a sex dream about me last night. Is it wrong even though hes seperated or am I still the other woman?
2006-10-19 05:36:09 · 12 answers · asked by Molly Woo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I shouldn't said I was REALLY good friends with her, We went to college together and we were suite mates. I like her and she's nice but if they were to get divorced I'd probably never talk to her again...So take out the "really good friends with his wife" thing
2006-10-19 05:52:17 · update #1
You might be hot and he might want to get into your panties but I think what is going on with him and his wife has been going on long before you showed up. You were just something that happened along and he sees you as a target for his anxiety to have sex with someone. I would let things lay and wait till he is divorced if he gets one and then maybe pursue your interest. But I wouldn't jump into that drama right now
2006-10-19 05:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll be frank with you.
I have said all the same bull to a woman to bed here down. He wants sex and your the new object of desire, don't feel special as he just is saying everything you want to hear to get you to bed.
I'm sure your a pretty girl and a smart woman. I ask you why waste your time on this guy when there are so many single available men in this world? Take the same time and effort and put it to meeting a new guy and guess what you won't have all the negative energy that goes with a possible bad decision.
My opinion your looking for trouble and you can do better than him.
2006-10-19 05:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dear unless you were seeing him before he separated You aren't the other woman, but I think to keep your name from being bandied about in your old home town I would definitely wait a while before dating him. If you two were meant to be together, a couple of months of discreet phone calls and not going in public together will save your name a for sure drag thru the mud and yourself a lot of unnecairy explaining . And if you did not care what they thought you would never have asked the initial question, right?.
2006-10-19 08:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by sosueme534 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a wife that makes you his B*cth. If he cheated on his wife he will cheat on you. It is pretty basic, find a single guy and make him treat you like a queen. After all with out a women a man would never exist.
2006-10-19 05:47:08 · answer #4 · answered by Eddie D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his ex is your friend you wouldnt' do this to her. If she isn't a friend at all then you can do the decent thing and wait till he is divorced to take action. Just think how you would feel to be that women right now!
2006-10-19 05:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is too immature to be married. You don't want to hook up with a guy that will behave this way - regardless of his relationship status. If you humor him and keep responding to his emails and fantasies, because it makes you feel good, than you are lowering yourself to his standards.
2006-10-19 05:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by tamster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Despite the attraction. Wait to make sure he is really finished with his marraige. Dont end up being "the reason they broke up".
Take things slow.
2006-10-19 05:45:12 · answer #7 · answered by sweetpea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are separated, you would not be the other woman.
Now in my case, if I were to be a total skank and do what I wanted with a certain married italian...I would be the other woman...... (but I do kinda like the ring to that lmao)
2006-10-19 05:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's separated, not divorced and didn't you say she was your really good friend ?? If for no other reason you shouldn't be with him because she is your friend.
2006-10-19 05:43:19 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on whos view you think of it from
i imagine from her eyes you'd be the other woman..
but if their seperated then it doesn't really matter i don't think :)
2006-10-19 05:44:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋