Last year, a few months after my separation from my ex-wife, I started dating a woman who is warm, funny, sexy, and accomplished (lawyer). She would make an excellent spouse and mother.
Although we agreed to be monogamous and she has professed her love for me, she knows I don't love her (I told her so). Additionally, I have cheated on her with six other women and she does not know about them.
I recently started seeing a new woman who is simply amazing in so many ways. I think she could be the one. I never felt this way about my current gf. I am planning to break up with my gf next week and pursue an LTR with this new woman.
Should I tell my gf I cheated?
I could just tell her I don't see a future with her. But I think if she knows I cheated that it might make it easier for her to get over me.
2006-10-19 05:31:58 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I personally dont think you should tell her. As someone whose been cheated on, it doesnt necessarily make it easier to move on. If anything it makes you think lower of yourself because then you wonder why you weren't worth the respect of this human being with whom all your trust was given. It makes you question things a little more. I say let her down gently with the truth you met someone else you wish to pursue but dont mention the cheating aspect. The only reason I say to maybe mention the new woman is because if by chance she sees you two together one day she'll know you had the respect to tell her and she also wont question you being honest. Where as if you say its not working then 3 days later she sees you with someone else she'll question the whole year being together. I think its good that you asked about this and I hope you have the answers your looking for. The fact that you asked shows that you cared to some degree about your gf and at least your not purposely trying to be mean. Do what makes you happy in life. Good luck.
2006-10-19 05:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In little words you are a dog. You don't even know what you want. You think that every girl you meet is the "right one"
Honestly I don't think you are mature enough for a relationship yet, and I'm sure you are older then 18, but you are acting like if you were. I don't think that if you break up with her you should tell her you F.U.C.K.E.D. up, I really don't think that it will make it easier on her, it will just emotionally hurt, and if you have any dignity and B.A.L.L.S. left then start loving yourself before you get in to another relationship and going around hurting women.
2006-10-19 05:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by latina lover 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From the way you describer her it wont take long for her to find someone new. I am sure she wont have a hard time getting over someone who can't keep his thing in his pants for more then a month at a time. So I would let things be as they are and don't embarrass yourself by telling her something that I am sure she already knows since your going to break up with her. I think she is going to know that you have been doing someone else since your breaking up with her
2006-10-19 05:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to hurt her like that? In my opinion your leaving her would be the best thing because a man like you should never marry or go steady with a lady. You are a liar plus your a cheat and unless you change your going to end up being a very lonely old man someday.
2006-10-19 05:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by Diane H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. It will make the pain for her worse. And you never know if this information will come back and bite you in the butt. What if the Lawyer girlfriend decides to share it with your new girlfriend for revenge? Keep it to yourself, and whatever you do, don't tell your new girlfriend. Nobody likes a cheater. Once a cheater, always a cheater. It could make a difference in how she feels about YOU.
2006-10-19 05:35:49 · answer #5 · answered by Daphne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i would much prefer the truth or you may leave her thinking there,s hope of reconciliation. Where as if you tell her you cheated she may get over you quicker. I think you should have ended it however after the first time you cheated, six times is a bit harsh. Do it sooner rather than later. Good luck and i hope you settle and try to stop cheating it hurts too much.
2006-10-19 05:39:45 · answer #6 · answered by lelly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should keep your indiscretions to your self they will only cause her more pain and even make her look at herself in a bad light for falling for it in the first place. just break up with her and move on. Be careful not to make the same mistakes with the new woman because sooner or later things like cheating usually come back to haunt you.
2006-10-19 05:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by tntstroup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it wouldn't make it easier trust me. When my ex and i split i found out the he had cheated on me and it didn't help me get over him at all it just made me more miserable. Just stick with the plan of telling her you don't see a relationship with her and move on. That's the best anyone can do
2006-10-19 05:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by smartblonde060 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just know that Karma is a mutha.. this new woman you are feeling right now might be the one to do everything you have done to your girlfriend. You are no good !! BUT if you're going to dump her just let her know its not going to work out , keep your cheating stuff to yourself.
2006-10-19 05:35:39 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember, she's a lawyer. Ever heard of the phrase alienation of affection? If you know the breakup will hurt her, there is no sense in telling her that you cheated.
2006-10-19 05:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋