I stopped seeing my ex boyfriend because I could tell he was losing interest in me. Ex. Not calling when he said he would, picking me apart for little things, etc It being to be emotionally draining for me so I just gave him lots of room and space. I guess when he realized I was serious he started blowing my phone up and calling me and crying for another chance. His excuse for his behavior was that he was under alot of stress and just really busy with work. Anyways (STUPID ME) decided I would give him a chance and hear him out. I called him back finally and told him that I wanted to talk. He agreed. (He had a slight attitude in his voice but I ignored it and went over there anyways) When I got there he was distant. I asked him what was wrong and he gave the same BS excuse as always. Then he tells me that he has met someone and wants to date her. I was like wha the?? I stormed out just furious! Was all his whining just to win, just to break up with me first?
2006-10-19 05:10:17 · 24 answers · asked by Freespirit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Reagan...
You've learned a valuable lesson. When any person, man or woman, is seeing someone else. There are signals. You picked up on the signals.
Don't consider yourself stupid for being duped. He used your emotions to fool you. You feel sorry and think, maybe I'm at fault.
The curd was pulling you in to deliver just a little added pain. He didn't care for you since this new girl made the scene.
I don't know both sides of the story, but I would say one of two things happened. He saw you as a giver in a relationship. You gave, gave, gave, and gave. You expected something in return every once in a while. He said, "Well, she's tapped. Time to look for someone else."
OR
The relationship grew cold for him and this little chicky came along and he said, "Wow, I remember this is what love is really like."
I personally view #1 as the answer. He used you. Why would someone who fell for someone else use deceit to get somebody to see them in order to break up.
If he had truly loved you, even for a short period and was just trying to find a way out of the relationship. He should have told you his true feelings in a way that severed the relationship and left you with some dignity and respect for yourself.
Relationships don't always work out. Is it beyond people's comprehension that love is not a word you just throw into a relationship so the other person will be stupid enough to have some interaction with you.
I don't believe in dumping someone. There had to be some sort of value to the relationship. Every human deserves a little dignity.
I'm sorry you got mixed up with this immature, pathetic, piece of human debri. I suggest you find a way to vent your anger, forgive him, get the bitter taste out of your mouth, and look for a new relationship with a real man.
I don't understand why he did what he did. He'll answer for it one day. Maybe he'll suprise you one day and come to apologize for the way he treated you. Don't hold your breathe.
(X) Kiss and a (O) hug... Don't let the bum get you down. There's someone out there waiting for you and waiting to return the love that you so richly deserve.
2006-10-19 05:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both,
You knew in your heart what you didn't want to do and against your better judgement you went against what you felt naturally.
He was childish, immature and self serving if anything. I guess he wanted to time how quick you would come over so he can make a fool of you.
He does't respect you, doesn't care about your feelings and wants to use every trick he can to see how much power he does have over you. Relationships are 50/50 anytime someone commits less and less to the union (and you did notice his change in behavior) it's time to walk away.
In your case, RUN!!!
2006-10-19 05:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
… and you started to pick up the signs when?
Typical, typical. Every time a nice guy is around the block, there's a girl going ten miles out of her way to find the worst possible pick. If dating were a professional sport, and women the GM's of every team, there would be a lot of unemployed GM's walking around… which is actually rather typical of the unemployed guys you like!
Here's how to kick the habit… start talking to really nice guys, start with the ugly ones, pay your penance, and move your way up to the Tony Robbins types. In every scenario, however, NEVER NEVER tell them about your past with losers and morons; nice guys are very tired of being the third choice in every relationship.
If the question of past dates comes up, tell your new nice guy date that you have a thing for nerds.
Here's to giving nice guys a chance!
Wish you luck!
2006-10-19 05:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by diagofaldi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't wrong for giving him a chance to explain himself just in case he was serious about being under stress etc. If he was a nice guy he deserved to be given a chance to be heard. Except as it turns out he was a w*nker and didn't deserve a second chance. But hey you did the right thing and now you're done with him - just try and pick a nice guy next time
2006-10-19 05:24:22 · answer #4 · answered by Alright! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he IS an immiture prick and YOU shouldve known better.
the first sign of losing interest shouldve been a sign.
him crying and **** is just to get you again cuz he noticed that your over him. when a guy sees a girl still missing him and all that bullshit, they dont even wana bother..but when your like whatever and all over it and going with some other guys..thats when you see 20 missed calls from him.
2006-10-19 05:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by stefani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's exactly what he wanted. He just didn't want to be the one to get dumped! What can I say....He's a prick, and you should've known better! lol, but you already know that now!
2006-10-19 05:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey- You need to get the book "He's Just not that into you". It was written by one of the guys that wrote for Sex and the City. A friend gave it to me when my marriage ended & it was a life saver. Rather than stressing yourself out over him, focus on what you are going to do better next time. I say, give a man ONE CHANCE when they screw up- after that, shame on you. Good luck out there!
2006-10-19 05:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by catier461 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is totally immature and wanted it to be him who hurt you. You knew when you heard the attitude on the phone that nothing had changed with him but you went anyway. Your gut was telling you not to but you did. At least you guys are broken up now. The best thing for you. Just remember from now on when that voice in your gut speaks, listen.
2006-10-19 05:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reagan sounds like he is an immature prick and you should be thankful he is out of your life!!
2006-10-19 05:15:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea pretty much. sadly guys like that give all of us a bad name. it could have been that OR the fact that he thought he missed you.. but for some reaosn relly had no more interestin you and just wanted to see you/hang out with you one last time to make sure. some guys are just shallow like that. sorry u went throught that
2006-10-19 05:15:54 · answer #10 · answered by lpxerounderground 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋