i m becoming father at age of 14. what should i do now?

Answer 1

I can tell you what you should have done, but I guess that wouldn't be very helpful now...

Isn't that the wedding march I hear? Isn't that the girl's papa with his shot gun?

Talk to your parents. You are still a child, see if they are willing to help you. I hope you like bagging groceries, none-the-less. Like everbody else said, GET A JOB.

Answer 2

Stay in school and get a job (jobs for 14 y/o's are limited but they do exist.) Try a paper route. And take care of the baby. Too many teenage as well as grown men make babies then split without a second thought. But a child need both a mother and father regardless if they are still together or seperated. And I would suggest you use a no ballon then no party theroy from now on to ensure that the next baby doesn't come until you are established in life. Being a teen parent is difficult but do able. I should know ..... I had my first child a month after turning 15. Need any advice or need to talk to someone my yahoo handle is forever_taken_by_papi take care and remember to just take a deep breath and do things one day at a time.

Answer 3

I am really surprised by some of the answers people have given this kid.Like Run away put the child up for adoption,
You are young,are your parents or her parents willing to help any? At the age of 15 you can work after school it would not be much money but it would buy diapers.There are lots of programs out there to help you and the girl through this,there are programs to help with formula.But stick around and be the best father you can be.My daughter was pregnant at 14 I was crushed but I got over it and I love my grand baby and would not trade her for anything.She continued going to school until it was time to deliver,and she is still in school she is a JR this year and is maintaining A-B honor roll.And she is an excellent mother,better than alot of adults that I have seen.Though you are young it is possible to continue your education and be a good parent.

Answer 4

It sounds like you have some tough things a head of you. Being a father at age 14 can be very hard. The first thing you and your girl friend should do is speak with both your parents and the school councilor.

A lot of people get afraid and drop out to make money. Don't do that, you will be setting yourself up for a harder path. Try to both stay in school. Teacher's can be flexible when a child is involved.

To make money take an after school job or start your own lawn mowing business. If you have a lot of lawns around, lawn mowing is a quick way to make money with a flexible schedule. Children under 16 can apply for worker permits through your local district to work full time if you need too.

As for your girl friend and the baby be very supportive. It took two so do your part. Don't do the blaim game it is too late for that. Help your girlfriend with what she needs. Start a nest age before the baby is born, so you have the money when "the bundle of joy" arrives. When it arrives help take care of the baby so your girl friend can do her homework too.

When you get to 10th grade make sure you both have good grades and do running start. It is a program that allows you both to take college classes for high school and college credits. It will push you ahead in your schooling a little faster.

Just so you know, it is actually illegal for people to have sex in Washington under the age of 16. The older of the two can be hit with the crime. You might want to check your local laws.

Answer 5

You should have used a condom but since you didn't be a man and take care of your responsibilities. It's going to be hard on you being a father at the age of 14. You should have been playing with car are something instead of trying to get some nookie. I guess that's life all I can say is take care of your baby and be there for the mother.

Answer 6

Talk to both sets of parents, hers and yours. If you can't get a job, then ask your parents to help buy what the baby is going to need, don't pawn it off on her and her parents.
Think about all your options and be supportive of the mother, she needs you more now than she did when you "did the deed". Remember, the child is your child too and if you don't believe in abortion, then talk over all the other options with her, including adoption.
Remember to take part in your child's life...don't be a dead beat dad...there's too many of them.
Once the child is born, if you don't have a job, help her with the baby. Take care of the baby for a few hours a day, when you're not in school, and give mom a chance to rest and have a little time for herself. As the baby gets older, and you do too, get involved in your child's life in every way possible.
Get a job to help out financially, but get your education so that you can DO THE RIGHT THING FOR YOUR CHILD AND YOURSELF.
Pray to God that you can do the right thing in this situation and HE will help you through it because with Him you will have everything that you need.

Answer 7

What do you mean what should you do?
You should get your act together find a part-tI'me job while still in school baby will need all kind of accessories, there's nothing to regret im sure you will be a GREAT father if you straighten up and take responsibility for your acts don't be afraid share this great moment with your girlfriend and be happy is a special gift from God that many wish to conceive and aren't able to.
Wish you Both the Best of LUCK with your Baby!

Answer 8

Is this question real or is it someone's sick idea of a joke?
I will assume that it is real.
Wow, you are a child having a child and you are going to have to grow up really quick.
How old is the girl? What kind of help can you expect from your family and from her family? If at all possible they should be willing to help you through this difficult time. You have already made a tremendously mature decision by deciding to have and keep this baby. You have to learn how to be a father. You need to be there for the little girl that is becoming a mother. You need to be a support system for her, love her and stick by her.
You need to finish school, if you don't do that you are no good to anyone.
When and if the time comes you should try to go to college.
Most of all be there for her and do not desert her!
Blessings
Lady T ( you are welcome to write to me if I can help in any way)

Answer 9

Your life has been dramatically altered but it is not over.
You've got to do 3 things:
1) Figure out some way of supporting that kid until you get out of school. Borrow from friends, family or whatever.
2) Finish school. You're going to need a job that pays real money. You'll need an education to do that.
3) Be there when you can, even if it's inconvenient. The last thing the world needs is another kid growing up without a dad.

Take care and good luck.

Answer 10

If you have any support from your own parents or the girls parents you should stay in school and get a part time job. You'll be better able to care for the child in the future if you have a high school education. It won't be easy, but you can be a good father. Read some books on child development so you'll know what to expect. Good luck.

Answer 11

Wow, Little young to be a father. But it has been done in the past. What you need to do is think about the Mother of the baby! You need to take her feelings into account..she must be freaked out as well. Sit with her, talk to her, and most of all you need to be there for her. You both need to make a life altering desicion, are going to follow through with the pregnancy? and if you do are you going to keep this child or send it for adoption? There are many helpful programs through the state that both of you can apply for. But like I said, you need to be there for each other..and love and help each other. Youll do fine at what ever choice you make.