I have a friend who got engaged several months ago, but she doesn't seem to be doing anything to plan the wedding. I would like her to have a great wedding, from the admittedly selfish standpoint that I would like to attend a nice party with lots of people, good food and drinks, etc. How can I get her excited about taking this opportunity to have a great party?
2006-10-19 04:49:24 · 11 answers · asked by ♥perishedmemories♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
reading this over I guess it seems like I do lack concern for her. but nothing could be further from the case. she has a stable relationship that has lasted for ...nine years, since they met in college and after, so there's nothing to be concerned about on that end. and I think she would be happier if she actually had a reception, insted of nothing, which is what may actually happen if she doesn't get any encouragement.
2006-10-19 05:28:18 · update #1
I'm having the same problem! I haven't even been engaged for a month and people are already down my back about wedding plans and helping out with the ceremony, etc. I appreciate the love but trust me, it's a bit annoying! Give your friend a chance to just enjoy her engagement and not be rushed into the busy world of making appointments and choosing the right colors. And honestly I would steer very clear of making strong opinions on how you want her wedding unless she deems you her maid of honor, you don't want to put her in such an akward position of compromising what she wants in order to please you b/c you're her friend. So for now try your hardest to bite your tongue until your friend asks for help. Remember: It's HER wedding!
2006-10-19 05:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by my_belovd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're concerned not for your friend and her marriage, but for a great party. WOW. She, on the other hand, probably has her mind on the lifetime after the wedding and party are long forgotten.
You should simply offer your support for whatever she needs help with. Leave the planning to her, and celebrate their wedding as if it's the greatest party you've ever attended.
Life lesson: Don't let glitz and glisten define the important things in your life.
2006-10-19 04:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad to see your happy for your girlfriend but at the same time it is her wedding. Some people don't like big weddings and then some can't afford them. Maybe she's not in a rush to get married and maybe she hasn't decided for sure if she really wants to take that big step yet. Some people are engaged for a few years even before getting married.
2006-10-19 05:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she may be happier with less stress. Some people simply don't want a big wedding. I know I didn't, and my husband agreed; we had a great informal wedding that only cost about $200, and everyone had a blast... I would do it again in a heartbeat.
2006-10-19 07:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you I want a huge wedding too, but if she doesnt want to have a big wedding or to make a big deal about it, you cant really do anything, you kinda just have to let her do what she wants unless she trys to put you in a teal bridesmaid dress, then you should start telling her how to plan a wedding, lol
2006-10-19 04:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what her agenda is. Maybe it's money, maybe its people she'd rather not have there. Maybe she's not as in love as she would like to be.. Point is, it's not YOUR wedding it's hers. You want to go to a nice party, plan your own.
2006-10-19 05:02:58 · answer #6 · answered by scarlettrhett 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Ann Taylor is your best bet. They are about as special/formal as you can get before you would be over dressed. Macy's might have something as well.
2016-05-22 02:04:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your values are low.
If your friend and her husband to be pay more attention to their wedding vows than nothing else matters.
2006-10-19 04:59:11 · answer #8 · answered by robert m 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you because my girlfriend has been dragging her feet too...I took my friend dress shop and that was a blast.....BUT she still not doing anything...it sounds like this is becoming common. I suggested she elope....then have a reception.....I am trying anything....I even suggested counseling...
2006-10-19 05:01:01 · answer #9 · answered by Lovely B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it ALONE!
This is HER wedding and not YOUR party!
You are WAY OUT OF LINE HERE!
2006-10-19 05:21:13 · answer #10 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋