2006-10-19 04:36:20 · 18 answers · asked by hollynoelmoore 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My husband just got back from a year long deployment to Iraq. What I did when he was gone to keep busy was going on road trips back home. I played with my three little girls all the time. If you live on a military base like we do, there are neighbors all over that are going through the same thing that you are. I hung out with the neighbors a lot. We went out to dinner, movies, shopping, and just sitting around talking. I do not know if you have kids or not, but what we did to get out was trade out who was going to watch the kids so that we could get out with each other if it was somewhere where the kids could not go or if you just want to get out without them for a while. If you have an FRG (Family Readiness Group), it is important to talk to them as often as possible. They are there to help you out where you need it. Finding a hobby that you like to do is important too. Some of the other wives went back to college to pass the time also. There were others that spent a lot of time with sewing projects like crochet or knitting. Also, going shopping for him will help you. I sent mine a care package almost every payday (twice a month). Good luck with everything. It will be a difficult at times, and you are going to feel like giving up. I just kept telling myself that this soon shall pass. Also, talking to him as much as possible will help. There were nights where he or I would get little to no sleep, but it helped to make us feel like we were together even though we were thousands of miles apart. Just be sure to keep the lines of communication open. That is very important. I hope that this helps. Good luck.
2006-10-19 05:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by Crys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as it's comming up to Christmas why don't you start to make your own Christmas cards, they take a lot of work but are fun to do and people love that personal touch. Or start making Christmas gifts. Try to get involved in different activities, join some hobby clubs, where you can meet new people, try to find out if in your area there are other woman who's husbands are away, they will be feeling lonely too.
2006-10-19 11:40:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive told this story b4, but I will tell it to you too!!
When I was little, the Gulf War, we used to live next door to a woman & her 2 girls. She started making her man a quilt. It keep her mind off of missing him so much & it was a labor of love. Now a days to spice the quilt up a bit you could make a picture quilt. Easy to do with a digital camera or scanned pics!!
2006-10-19 11:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by BooSha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have so been there done that, I went to the gym all the time and I read alot of books on self improvement and anger management. That away when my army man got home I would know how to better handel him. I also spent alot of time with my family and married friends. Stay away from the singles they will get you in trouble all the time.
2006-10-19 11:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by Jax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way is to prepare some care packages and send one or two surprise items every two days or so. It really means a lot to military guys to receive a package when we're overseas. It is an unbelievable feeling! I would be so anxious when they used to have mail call and got depressed really quick when I didn't get anything. Believe me it's the best way to keep your morale up and his! Try it you'll find it fun and get a lot out of doing it!!!
2006-10-19 11:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by Paul V 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work.....write him letters! My best friend's husband went away and that's all she seemed to do was clean,work,sleep,write him letters,watch movies! Get all your girls together and go to the spa and dinner. That would be fun. Read a book. Play on the computer. Mow the yard. Take a nice hot bubble bath. Get a new hair do. Do word puzzles. Anything really!!
2006-10-19 11:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by Amber R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can volunteer your time and try and find organizations that are trying to help the poor, disabled and destitute. That may help take your mind off your man for some time at least
2006-10-19 11:41:49 · answer #7 · answered by R C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough situation for any1...maybe u should pick up a hobby that will take up alot of ur time and keeps ur mind concentrated completely on the task...like painting or horse back riding, even soccer! but make sure u have fun with it!!=)
2006-10-19 11:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by K.A.R.A =] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join to antiwar coalition, the war does only harm every side!
Bring troop home!
2006-10-19 11:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by Melinda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try getting a job---doesn't have to be a big fancy job---
work at TB or at a sandwich shop or something
anything---that is respectful and keep u busy
2006-10-19 11:40:26 · answer #10 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋