me and my boyfriend decided on sunday just gone that we needed a break. since then we have met up on several occassions and have had a really good time. he gave me a lift to work this morning and we ended up kissing. i cant help but think this is just going to turn into a frienship with extras or is there a chance that this break has shown him that were meant to be together? what do people think????
2006-10-19 04:29:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It was a mutal agreement . . . since we started the break we realised we forgot to have fun as well as the serious side!
2006-10-19 04:37:06 · update #1
Doesn't really sound like a break.
2006-10-19 04:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
By break up, you mean you stopped dating him, therefore he has no obligation to a relation ship with him at any time he can decide to get another girl friend sleep with someone else or start talking to other girls. You to need to seriosly talk and discuss if "breaking up" is what you too really want to do, and if you decide that it is than you need to start making preparations to seperate the events in your life from each other(no rides to work, no hanging out,no movie NO KISSING no not even a PEC) so you can get a chance to get over some feelings that you have established with him. if you are breaking up but still playing the part of girlfriend its going to lead to a lot of heart ache in the end. ps. men tend to do things that lead you on, sometimes not on purpose so avoid it all together.
2006-10-19 04:38:44 · answer #2 · answered by cinder_nelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they work. In my own experience, I have had two relationships from which I took "a break" as mutually accepted by my girlfriend. In the first case, the break showed us that we were happier apart than together, so the break turned into an end of the relationship. In the second case, the break showed us how much our lives were intertwined and how much we wanted to be together. We got back together and are still together today. In both cases, I would say that the break worked, as it helped us get to the place where we needed to be. I hope your break does the same for you.
2006-10-19 04:34:39 · answer #3 · answered by Tulsa Boy 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I personally have never found that a break from each other works. In my case it ended the relationship and when we got back together nothing was better but worse. It gives the other person the feeling of just dating and perhaps the right to date others. But I wish you the best if it works for you.
2006-10-19 04:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesnt sound like a break to me usually in my experience people who decide to go on breaks really arent to sure about being together they either want to be alone or more often then not have there eye on someone else do you really wany to be a friend with extras if you want to split up then it will hurt the more you drag it out. I think if you are meant to be together a break wouldnt even cross your mind. If either side is thinking the grass is greener on the other side it really is not. My ex and i split up firstly to see what we felt like he moved out went back to his mams we went on holiday came back and we split but still saw each other loads had a laugh but found out he had got another girlgriend in the mean time in the end she ended up pregnant and he doesnt want the child. Still talk to each other but ive moved on and he regrets so think long and hard what are you worth and what you want.
2006-10-19 04:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by dora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaks never worked for me because, as you said, it turned into "friends with benefits" and the guys still wanted to see other girls. I wasn't about to just be some girl he slept with on the side, so I broke it off for good. (This has happened to me like 3 times...you would have thought I'd have learned after the first one, haha) It may work for other people, just in my case it didn't. Make sure, if you are still going to do this break thing, that you tell him you still have feelings for him, and you plan on getting back with him eventually, so he knows! And then he won't be able to say "you never said that!" Hope everything works out, and good luck!
2006-10-19 04:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by Huliganjetta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd take a real break from the situation. Sometimes a break means that the person needs time to themselves to deal with internal issues or issues with the relationship. In that case a break could be benificial and could strengthen the relationship.
But since he is still meeting up with you I bet he wanted to take a break because he wants to bang someone else. I really hate to say that..but deep down it's likely the truth. If that is the case please please please don't be the little idiot with no self respect who is going to feed into this. This guy is playing you for all your worth and you are letting him. Take a break from this guy and go find one that knows what he wants.
2006-10-19 04:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
what you guys decided was not a break. I think you both wanted to measure how much you miss each other. Go for a real break and the relationship is ruined; decide what you want.
2006-10-19 04:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by sweetlips 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually taking a break means that they have an interest in something or someone else in my view and experience it never works, was it a mutual agreement or has he decide for himself
2006-10-19 04:35:28 · answer #9 · answered by Ivan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
breaks never work, ever, ever ever.
breaks either ruin a relationship, or, turn into a friendship
but if you have to go on a break don't see him at all
2006-10-19 04:32:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋