i dont know what to do, cos my mother dont want him cos of his tribe and religion
2006-10-19 04:29:13 · 15 answers · asked by bochas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's time you stopped being a Mamma's girl, and grew your own spine.
2006-10-19 08:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what I did when my mom didn't want me to be with my true love.
I started bringing her around the house. We had dinners together. Buy gifts of devotion for mom and then have her give it to her. If the mood and timing is right, give them time to talk over some trivial stuff. Do that long enough, and you mom will stop seeing him as "the other religion or tribe" and as what you've always known him to be, a great person.
My mom, ended up adoring my girl. So did the rest of the family.
As a sidenote, if your man is on the "rough" side, like he has bad habits, likes to cuss, groping your body in public, spit, blow his nose every 2 seconds, lick his fingers at the table, eats fast and messy like he is lapping at the pig trough, you probably should get him to stop doing that before he goes over.
One more sidenote, do NOT discuss religion or tribal issues at ANYTIME. if you mom brings it up, tell him or help him change the subject. This type of discussion never turns out well.
2006-10-19 04:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely old enough to make your own decisions, and I know your mother loves you and worries about you alot, but you have to know if you are ready to live your own life... Do you love this man? Are you ready to settle down and get married? Well, if you are, then I'd say you should show him that you want to commit to a relationship with him. IF not, then go on with your life and find someone who you can be totally happy with! Your mom will still love you no matter what you do, even if she is not happy with your choice!
2006-10-19 04:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by MaggieO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is a lecture u will hear a million times.
You are a aldult. It's your life. If u keep trying to please your Mom your whole life u will not be happy. Tribe and Religion I never heard that before. If u love him seriously too keep him. She'll just have to deal with it. Aldults have to do things they don't want and if this doesn't make her totally happy well tough cookies. She should surpport and love u no matter who u date, marry, or become friends with. Just remember it's your life and legally she can't do anything to stop it. Keep the guy. Since he loves you I think its' a good thing.
2006-10-19 04:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 27 years old, then surely you can be with who you want? It's not your mother that has to make a life with him, its you! You didn't mention whether you seriously love him. Religion is the cause of all wars and conflicts, I rose up against it. My partner isn't the same religion as me, but we love each other and to me, thats what counts. Anyone with a problem with it can go feck themselves!
2006-10-19 04:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by Mizzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know that he seriously loves you?
Do you seriously love him?
If you both really love eachother than just keep the relationship going just wait and watch to see if it winds up going in a good dirrection or a bad dirrection.
If it goes good, than great stay in the relationship.
If it goes bad than thank your mother for the advise and get out.
Those kinds of situations are hard....i wish you the best of luck though.
2006-10-19 04:33:56 · answer #6 · answered by Lek 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your mother isnt the one in the relationship. If this guy treats you good and loves you then worry about how yall feel about each other and not what your momma thinks about him
2006-10-19 04:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by homie_j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer - It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. A relationship is about 2 ppl
2006-10-19 10:21:33 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your mother is not with this guy right (or do u share sexual favors with mom too)
this is your choice not hers
U are an adult---act like one and make a decision and stick to it
2006-10-19 04:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First he is just thirty and secant who cares what the religous diferances are.. You are bouth of the same race....... Human
2006-10-19 04:31:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋