I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years and 3 months now. She is 20 yrs old and works in an office taking calls and what not. There is another guy at her work who has been talking to her a little too much, and won't leave her alone. He has made it very clear that he likes her, and she has told me this. He calls her and messages her alot and it shits me. I know my girlfriend loves me because we talk every day/night. This guy is 33 yrs old, I just want to know how to get him away from my girl? He knows she is taken, she has told him about me. He got cut and become rather emotional...but he won't give up! He hastles her and won't stop sending emails to her at work. He talks to her every moment he gets, and sends messages and calls outside of work. Inappropriate behaviour for a friend I say! My girlfriend does not like him. She thinks he is gross, but she doesnt want to hurt his feelings because she has to put up with him every day! What do we do? Do I threaten him?
Cheers
2006-10-19 04:28:39 · 27 answers · asked by ilyk2sk8 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all if she really dose not like the guy and she has told him to leave her a lone and he won't then the next step I would say is one last warning to him directly saying that if he continues that you or your girl friend are going to the management and if that don't work then get his butt fired and or go to the police CZ that is staking he may not realize this and maybe it would only take one serious warring for him to stop!!! maybe he is not taking your girl serious some guys think no is just playing hard to get and so they try harder so maybe this time the warring needs to come from you!!!! that is what I would do and if that did not work I would go to the police!!!!
2006-10-19 04:39:59 · answer #1 · answered by mel416 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to bring this up with her boss, or management, or HR, thats what there job is, man we live in a society where this isn't tolerated at work, all she has to do is say he wont leave me alone, here at work, and they will talk to him, or they might fire him, I've seen it before, HR goes crazy over this stuff, The cool thing is you don't have to threaten him at all, I've also seen a company get a restraining order on a person, if he persists outside of work, don't threaten him, at least not at this point, thats a worst case scenario
2006-10-19 04:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems as if you two have a solid relationship, since you can talk freely about this. It doesn't seem as if this guy at work is any kind of threat to your relationship, just an at-work annoyance for your lady. Since the problem exists at her workplace, it ought to be resolved there. She could go to a supervisor or HR people and file a charge of harassment, or for creating a hostile work environment. If the harassment is sexual, the charge has to be very serious and provable. Don't you threaten him as that would make things worse for her at work.
Good Luck!
2006-10-19 04:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by The Mystic One 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she does find him a bit over the top it may be best just for her to ignore ALL the texts,,if he asks her why she didnt reply she can always say she left her phone at home because she didnt want to talk to anyone as she was out with you,,this will give him the impression no one is more important than you when she is at home and that she isnt interested in anyone other than you,,,,the trouble with work relationships is that she has to see him every day,,,she does not however have to take all he does as normal,,let her make the decision to tell him to back off as her job may come under scrutiny and you may come off as overbearing,,she has to do this herself for her future work related self,threatening him wont do much good as he may just think you are someone she could well do without and he would be a better option for her if he just sticks at it,,,,,if you can talk to her about it all,,,see if she is willing to just say she is taken and that she doesnt need anymore friends.
2006-10-19 04:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, be proud that you have a woman that loves you & other guys see exactly what you got & cant have!!! Second, have your girlfriend needs to report this guy to human resources. They can track & record all the unwanted msg's he is sending her! (Its always good to have a paper trail for proof!) This way if he violates what he has been told to do he can get fired...at that point get a restraining order to protect outside the job. As for you taking action..DO NOT!! You dont want anything coming back and slapping you in the face!!!!
2006-10-19 04:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by BooSha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. I have to say your girlfriend isn't making it clear enough.
OR she's blowing it out of porportion to make you jealous and her feel more attractive. Are you supposed to threaten every guy that comes up to her? I wouldn't worry about it. Its probably bugging her as well (obviously enough to tell you about it) so just let it be HER battle. And theres an easy way to stop this... whether he's 33 or the situation's at work... she goes out, with friends or to a bar she will get hit on, she needs to learn to reject EFFECTIVELY. I had a two guy friends recently think they were 'in love' with me, wouldn't stop flirting or asking me out, etc. I just would NOT stop talking about the guy I'm seeing and am interested in and eventually they got it... we still hang out alot and are friends. She will have to learn to co-exsist with him since he's at her work. He will have to accept that she's taken and SHE is the only one that can make that clear. So just listen to her b*tch and rant but suggest what I did and see if she does it. And you may have to accept on some level she likes the attention. I have a female friend who complains non stop to me about a guy who hits on her but she is OVERLY friendly towards him eventhough she tells him she's taken. Don't threaten him. Its her battle and I doubt the 33 year old man's going to be afraid of you. And unless you are ready to physically duke it out, empty threats only make you less mature.
2006-10-19 04:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first off, eww this guy sounds stalkerish. Maybe your girlfriend should think about changing jobs. Does she really like this job? Has she told her boss about this weirdo that won't leave her alone? My advice, have her talk to her boss and if things don't change, i would try to get a different job. As for threatening him, don't do it because it could lead to violence and violence isn't the answer
2006-10-19 04:31:55 · answer #7 · answered by Belle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No dont threaten him, do you want to go to jail?. What your girlfriend needs to do is file a harrassment charge on him. And if she really loves you then you have nothing to worry about she wont go no where. As for that guy if he is stocking her that much then some type of legal action needs to be taken.
2006-10-19 04:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by homie_j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't threaten him...that will just make things worse for your gf at work!! If you both really want him to stop,then she needs to tell the guy to leave her alone. If he doesn't then go to the boss!!!
It's called harrassment! She needs to get this fixed,but no matter what just stay by her side, this could get rough!!
Good Luck!!!
2006-10-19 04:33:41 · answer #9 · answered by Amber R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she's loyal to you, so that's good. You don't have to worry about her. She should make it 100% clear to him that she wants him to stop. If that fails, she should talk to her employer. This guy is sexually harrassing her. That's a crime. Most companies will take the appropriate actions right away. Don't threaten him yourself, that could lead to serious consequences.
2006-10-19 04:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋