i caught the love of my life cheating on me with a few other men in the space of a few month, i would do anything for her , i love her more than you could ever imagine, she said she wanted to marry me, she told me she cannot find a fault with me, i forgave because i love her, then she ran off with a pub manager right before my eyes, now im alone , i still love her. am i right to forgive her ? why would she do this ? am i crazy ?
2006-10-19 04:25:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She did you a favor. You feel awful because of how she did it, but if you had her back, she'd do it again. You deserve better.
2006-10-19 04:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by Buffy Summers 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
DO NOT FORGIVE!! Distance yourself away from her no matter how much it hurts! or do you want to be used as a rug for her to walk all over on! Do you want to go through this torment the next time she cheats on you?
listen you are not crazy, it's amazing that you love so much to forgive her the first time. She is obviously not ready for marriage and the commitment that brings. Please do not think your crazy. Most people find it hard to have the strength to breakup with the one you love. But have some self esteem and realize that she's not the one. Mourn, cry, take sometime evaluating what went wrong, what you want from a girlfriend and then get back out there and find Mrs. Right.
2006-10-19 11:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by pippy4tao 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Yes you are crazy to have stuck around this long but its not too late for you, run the other direction.
Now she might be a great gal. She might really care about you and want to marry you, OR she might only want to marry you because you will let her run off and take her back in your arms everytime and she can walk over you and control you...
Either way, this is a behavior PATTERN not a one-time-mistake. So you should walk away unless you are OK with this type of behavior forever.
Thing is, it might not be about you. You could be the greatest guy on earth, the most attractive, perfect, etc... but she might have commitment issues or etc... just let her go.
The old saying "plenty of fish in the sea" is so true.
2006-10-19 11:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No love, you're not crazy but you're not altogether back in the realm of emotional stability either. Forgiveness is always a good thing because holding onto hatred or unforgiveness hurts only yourself. But you do need to move on. Find things to distract yourself. When you find yourself thinking about her, forcibly turn your attention away from her. And from now on, refuse to meet with her or speak to her. She should expect this and it would be entirely justifiable on your part. Good luck dear, I've been there myself and I'll keep you in my prayers.
2006-10-19 11:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by Dhara 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think she's played a good mind game on you and now your whipped senseless. If she's cheating on you, that says it all... I mean how did that make you feel? Its clear that she doesn't love you, so don't be an idiot. The longer you play her game, the harder its gonna hurt... so do yourself a favor and cut your losses now! I'm sure the bl*wjobs are great, but its not worth it in the long run...
I'll let you in a secret chicks don't want men to know,
Sometimes, they use us. Sounds like she has a relationship of convenience, and soon as you sniff those out you dump them like a bad habit. I know it hurts, but I'd rather leave you in truth than in ignorance. She's a sl-tty whore... I don'tt even know her, and I bet you I could hit it... probably within less than an hour of meeting her.
Trust me, I've seen it all before.
Don't be a loser... cut her @ss now and reclaim your dignity. I'm sure she's laughing at your silly sucker for love behind even right now as I'm typing this answer.
2006-10-19 11:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by Kontra~Diction 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes, forgive her. But do not delude yourself into thinking she'll stop. It doesn't matter why she did/does this. That's her problem. You have to take care of YOU. Learn from the experience. Do some hard thinking and soul searching. Ask yourself the hard questions and face the answers. Go ahead and cry (yes, men can cry), scream, beat the tar out of something, grieve. Then kick yourself in the behind and get on with your life.
2006-10-19 12:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by Joy 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
A real man of integrity, forgiveness is a beautiful gift to give. But, there comes a time in a persons life when you need to make quality choices for (self). You're not crazy, you've just fallen for a woman who obviously isn't feeling you the same way. When dis/a/ppoint/ment strikes it does for a reason, to make a point."Go Figure"!
2006-10-19 11:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No you are not crazy, its just that good people get done wrong, just don't change who you are and trust in God that he will send somebody that will love you the same as you love them so pray about it and make sure what you pray for is what you want. You tried with her and she wasn't right for you so God will send people in your life that is for you and some that is not for you to test your Faith so just hold on and be strong, Forgive her but don't take her back, once a cheat always a cheat
2006-10-19 11:31:16 · answer #8 · answered by Tee-Stone 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
She's simply playing with you. If you live in the Manchester area, then you'll know what i mean.
I think you should forgive her. But you should also move on. See if she comes back to you. I know it seems too long. You want everything to happen "now". I understand. You need to go out with your mates and chill for a couple of days.
2006-10-19 11:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
No, you should not forgive her. A few men in a few months? A woman not in a relationship doesn't do that. She does this because she is a slut. And no you are not crazy, but you will be if you keep seeing her.
2006-10-19 11:35:02 · answer #10 · answered by stariei 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
if you're not open to having an open relationship, then you need to discuss this with her. i don't think it's true human nature to be monogamous, it's a moral belief that has some religious background. there's nothing wrong with forgiving her as long as you're still being true to yourself. if you will allow her to walk all over you, your relationship isn't going to be very mutual and will crumble. your best bet is to talk with her... hopefully you both will be honest with each other and can find some neutral ground to build your relationship on.
2006-10-19 11:31:33 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋