He tells me that if I want a baby, to go find someone else, get pregnant and we will raise the baby but the other person paying child support.
2006-10-19 04:13:02 · 29 answers · asked by littletiger859 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Plus he doesn't want to get married
2006-10-19 04:17:15 · update #1
He has made it perfectly clear that he doesn't want a baby. Now you have a decision to make. Are you willing to live the rest of your life without marriage or children? If so, stay with the boyfriend. If marriage and family are important to you, leave the boyfriend, find someone who has the same life goals as you, get married and start a family. Don't waste your time trying to convince this guy to have a child. A child deserves two parents who want it. Your boyfriend's idea of raising another man's child is too ridiculous to even consider. That is completely unfair to both the child and the other man. If you are thinking this is a good option, you are too immature to have a child right now.
2006-10-19 04:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by Tiss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you have a baby, find a good man and marry him.
Although there is no guarantee that a husband will make a good father, there is a better chance that he will stand by you and the baby through thick and thin than some live-in boyfriend.
Girl, get wise - having a baby out of wedlock is just plain stupid and it will be to the detriment of your child.
It is perfectly fine if your current boyfriend doesn't want children, after all, he should have a choice in major life decisions.
As for what you said that he said about getting pregnant and he'll raise the child, I smell a strong odor of BS.
Don't you?
2006-10-19 04:19:48 · answer #2 · answered by docscholl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best time (and only time in my opinion) to have a baby is when you can welcome the new little member of your family into a loving, two parent home that has waited for and wanted this baby.
Why would you want a baby if your boyfriend doesn't? There are too many babies growing up without the love of a decent, generous, loving father.
Grow up some more and wait until you have a partner who wants a baby with you and sticks around to marry you and provide a stable loving home for all of you.
Good Luck!
2006-10-19 04:50:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want the same things out of life then why are you with this person? The fact he's telling you to find someone else and get pregnant by another man tells you how much respect he has for your relationship. You deserve a lot more than that.
2006-10-19 04:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by honey27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want kids and you do, you should break up with him and find someone who wants to get married and raise a family. If he thinks he can raise someone else's kid and they can pay for it he's an idiot. You should definitely dump him. If you try this, I hope the baby's father realizes what your doing and gets custody of the baby so you and your jerk boyfriend don't raise it.
2006-10-19 04:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go with his plan. That is the dumbest thing I have ever heard. Having children is a serious decision between a married couple. Do not assume he will change his mind later. If you really want children, you should think about finding someone who wants the same things in life.
2006-10-19 04:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by Brooke22365 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you would even consider bringing a child into the world that way. Wait until you find your soulmate, marry him, and then have a baby so this poor child can have a whole family.
2006-10-19 04:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW SOMEONE WHO GOT SCAMMED FOR THIS VERY PURPOSE!! She married him, had kids, then divorced him as quickly as possible taking full custody. Now he never sees the kids, but has to pay child support.
If I had the time and energy, I'd find the dirty b____ who took advantage of him and kick her in the face.
I hope you're considering something more consentual and honorable.
2006-10-19 04:32:40 · answer #8 · answered by jordinyc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you should tell him that you've been cheating on him -- as your previous question mentions. Then you should clean up your life and get married (to someone other than this poor sap) before you have a baby. Also, you should stop acting like a whore.
2006-10-19 04:23:31 · answer #9 · answered by Jimmy Crack Corn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you ever want to have a baby with someone who doesn't want one. That isn't fair to the child.
Don't you know that single-parent babies don't learn as fast as those from traditional homes.
No wonder our nation is breeding a bunch of illiterates.
Is this guy from New Orleans?
2006-10-19 04:19:35 · answer #10 · answered by stocks4allseasons 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋