Is The Mother Responsible When Her Child Gets Molested??

Question

What do you guys think?

I would say yes, she is very much responsible, because by now, mothers should have figured out that you can't trust any male around your child. Just read the news. Uncles, brothers, priests, "friends," even fathers molest their own daughters.. It is more common than one would think.

I think an intelligent mother would not risk her child's health and welfare.

Some guys may be offended by this, but that's just tough luck. A good mother should much rather want to "offend" her brothers or her father or priest than to risk her child being molested.

Basically, what I'm saying is that smart mothers should not leave their kids around males unsupervised.

Of course, the child molestor is the one at fault for doing what he's doing, but mothers should be smart enough to know that males simply can't be trusted with children, so they should not leave their children with men unsupervised, no matter who the male is.

Answer 1

I have read the responses to your question and I think mothers (and fathers too) should have their "radar" on when there are people around their children.

Child molesters are out there and the statistics are frightening.

Be pro-active and supervise your children, be aware where they are. Watch for changes in their behaviour.

I know people who allow their children to play at their friend's homes when only the dad is home, they send their daughter over and often the girl isn't in, just her dad. Would the parents realize that the man was in the house alone and their daughter just went over there? No, but it is their job to know.

Even if this question has made one or two people out there think and be more conscious about keeping their eyes on their children, then it is worth all the bad comments. Be aware, keep your kids safe.

Answer 2

When is the last time you went on the Sex Offender Web. Not only men Molest children Women do to and Some women Molest there on children so if you were a father should you be responsible. I understand what your saying but I feel that both parents is responsible and the only reason parents should be pushed is if they new and they did nothing to stop it. Mothers and Fathers should be responsible for there child health and welfare. You say if a good mother should offend her brother or father or any male in her family then to risk her child being molested. Would you keep a eye out on your sister or mother or any other women in you family so your child won't get molested. Please realized that men are not the only ones, there just the ones who get more in trouble and women don't, Remember the teacher who molested her student. Think about it...........

Answer 3

So a daughter should never be left alone with her father? I think that's ridiculous.

There are some instances when I can say that it would have been prevented if the mother had been more cautious (male nannies, uncles, cousins, etc) but when its someone you thought you could trust like a father or a brother, then its in no way the mothers fault. Its all the fault of the person who did the act.

I say this from someone who was molested when I was little. I was molested by my mother's boyfriend. I do not blame my mother, but when I think about it, I would have never 'went to the store' for an hour and left my child alone with my boyfriend. All the time.

I leave my son with his father and his grandfather all the time. Should I be afraid they will hurt him while I am at work? Should I not leave my child with my next door neighbor? I dont think we should spend our lives in fear, but I do agree that we should know who our child is with at all times.

Answer 4

That's a tough question-

I think that a mother should always have at least one eye on her child, But to feel you have to watch her every move around your own father, brother or uncle is a bit much.

I would leave my children with my father and think nothing of it...No fear what so ever of her being molested.

However, If a mother is neglectful, And leaves her child with just anyone or ALONE in the presence of just any man, Then yes, I fully believe it is her fault if something were to happen

Answer 5

I somewhat agree with you - but mostly because a mother should be close and observant enough of her little girl to know if something is wrong, if her attitude or habits suddenly change, or if she suddenly has nightmares, problems with grades or at school, or otherwise just shuts down - there may be a problem and it is a parent's responsibility to see that and figure out what is going on. Sometimes it is harder than others, but if you know a child well and spend time with that child, not looking at the back of her head as she's watching cartoons all the time or whatever....TALK with her, LOOK her in the eyes, have a family dinner and she that she is eating properly, tuck her into bed and know that she is comfortable and safe there.....TEACH HER ABOUT things like that, what to do, and who to talk to! Be honest with her about everything and tell her secrets, if you confide some things age-appropriately with her, she will feel more confident to do the same with you. Teach her about good secrets and bad secrets. Good secrets are brother's Christmas presents, but bad secrets would be strangers or teachers saying "Don't tell Mommy..."

Answer 6

I find your question not only disturbing but sexist too.

Why not the fathers being responsible too? Not only that, but you fail to understand that a parent can't be with a child 24/7, they have school, go out to play with friends, visit with relatives, etc.

Do you honestly think women just hand their children over to molesters and not want to offend them. It is a rare mother that would do that.

How about making men responsible for their actions? How about castrating these sick perverts? How about raising sons to be responsible males who respect women/girls so they won't molest? After all, it's the men that are the molesters, not women. Put the blame where it belongs. How dare you blame the mothers.

Answer 7

i've got not got self belief the mummy/father is in charge till s/he knew it became taking place and enable it proceed or became the molestor. quicker or later you are able to have confidence somebody, on the grounds which you purely can no longer constantly be there to demonstrate screen over your toddler. the father is somebody whom you are going to be able to have confidence. no one is going right into a courting in the event that they think of the guy is going to be a toddler molestor. A father additionally has purely as plenty duty in keeping the youngster because of the fact the mummy. A mom/father can do preventitive measures which includes no longer enable a toddler around straightforward molesters or those that allowed the molestation to proceed. A determine may additionally make advantageous they understand the guy they're leaving their toddler with. additionally, a determine can refer to their toddler approximately no longer letting anybody touch their inner maximum aspects and what to do in the event that they sense threatend which includes scream rather loud. a toddler could additionally be inspired to entice close out in communities of three or greater boys and ladies and to no longer be on my own in a room with an unknown person or instructor/coach. interior the tip that's the mothers and dads's duty to demonstrate screen out for the youngster, yet they won't be blaimed for a toddler molestation. There each and every now and then is purely understand thank you to appreciate it may take place. Molester's might properly be lady or male, be pal, family contributors, or stranger, ninety two or 6 years previous, any race, coloration, or nationality, have an outdoors character of a saint or monster, and look like the main truthful person interior the worldwide. there is purely understand thank you to appreciate who might or won't molest your toddler.

Answer 8

You know, complete strangers molest children... Is it the mother's fault then? I wouldn't think so, unless the woman were so revolting she PLANNED for it to happen, or KNEW it was a possibility... but there are MANY mothers who are NOT like that.
So, your suggestion of the mother being responsible? I disagree with that. Especially since it's the MOLESTER'S fault, hence the -ER at the end of MOLEST.
I agree that some mothers set themselves up for it without realizing it... but you can't help it. It's not like you can read people's minds!! Besides... you are supposed to TRUST a husband to take care of his children, not hurt them... and people appear to be very capable of putting that facade up.
So, mother's fault? Not very often. Molester's fault? ALWAYS.

Answer 9

So are you saying that only mothers should take care of children? That we can't trust men because they aren't responsible for their actions and they'll molest our kids and then it's our fault? I think the molester is responsible for molesting the kid and the mother is only responsible for it if she leaves her kids with a known sex offender.

I'm very smart and I know that I can leave my children unsupervised with their father and their grandfather. Some men are child molesters, but most are not and they aren't imbeciles either.

Answer 10

Are you seriose ? I mean one never believes that "my daughters father might rape her" or "my brother will touch my daughter in the wroung place".

I believe if she see the signs then yes thats a different story, but you saying that if shes intelligent she'll know better ?
Us mother have many things to do, so are you implaying that we don't do anything and live our whole lives taking care of are child and trusting no one ? Let me tell you something, is not only "males" that do this, also alot alot of females do this also.

So when you decide to have children you want you wife to not allow you to be alone with them ? thats just sound kinda crazy, I mean even own mother do sick thing to there own children. I just think you need to teach your child wroung from right and to never let anyone abuse them