My boyfriend said he would call me back after 15 mins when he got back from running an errand last night. He never did call back. I know that he loves me so there isn't any question there and I know I love him so should I call him this morning when I know he isn't busy or wait and have him call?
2006-10-19 03:59:53 · 13 answers · asked by Just a girl... 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok we do this alot. a phone call isnt really a big deal to us especially if we just talk to u on the phone. he is just being a guy and guys make mistakes and forget to call. its not really a big deal unless u make it one and start an arguement. some women will tell u to crusify him but he is human.
2006-10-19 04:04:36 · answer #1 · answered by dunebugger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain that a broken promise is a broken promise, even if it's over something that seems as trivial as a phone call.
You want to allow some room for what is reasonable: perhaps he intended to call in 15 minutes, but was delayed on account of circumstances beyond his control.
If it was very late, or if he had some other reason to think it would be impolite to have called you when he eventually was free to make the call, that could explain a reasonable delay (perhaps up to a day unless otherwise prevented).
A guy tends to call when he has something to say; he may have realized he had nothing to say, and didn't want to inconvenience you or deal with the hassle of "wasting time on the phone." That's a cold way of putting it, but it gets my point across.
There are several things at work here:
1) He needs to be a man and honor his word -- period. If that means realizing his casual comments are actually promises, then he needs to realize that: if he thinks that's too high a standard, he's disrespecting you.
2) You need to consider his intent, as evidenced by his follow-through, as being more important than the "15 minutes." IOW, if this is a rare problem AND he calls within -- say 24 hours -- and he has a good explanation for the delay, let it slide.
3) If this sort of thing happens regularly or often, he's got some bigger issues that are preventing him from giving you the appropriate level of attention and priority in his life.
In that instance, he needs to fix those problems before continuing his relationship with you (take an indefinite "break" from the bf/gf relationship and -- at most -- just be pals for a while).
The same goes for if he forgot, although once or even twice a year might not be too often to overlook such an offense. It all depends on the circumstances, and how long he was delayed in getting back to a phone.
If he carries a cell phone, he could have simply excused himself from an impromptu meeting long enough to ring you and say he couldn't talk then, but looked forward to speaking with you later (blah blah, you get the idea).
4) Clingy = desperate. It's great to hear the voice of a person you love, who loves you; however, it's grating when that interferes with the ordinary demands of everyday life.
IOW, "If you trust me, let me do what I have to do, and be secure in the confidence that I will return, having remained faithful to you in my absence from you."
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2006-10-19 04:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by wireflight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 17:23:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally, I would want to know that something didn't happen to him, but if you know that someone would notify you if it did, then I would wait for him to call. I would be a little huffy over that, it is one of my pet peeves. I also have a habit if someone says they are going to call me I will wait for them to call, no matter how long it is. I guess I am just stubborn that way, Good luck.
2006-10-19 04:06:21 · answer #4 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for him to call and you need to decide if you are going to answer at all. Let him know that it is not acceptable to tell you that he is going to call and then not do it!!! Don't let it become a habit!!!
2006-10-19 04:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey you already asked this...maybe he just doesn't like to use the phone. Guys don't call...if you find one who calls every time he says he will Yahoo!
2006-10-19 04:14:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait and then when he does call tell him off!
2006-10-19 04:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would give him a call and ask if he's OK. Then i would leave it at that.
2006-10-19 04:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by diagofaldi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call him and say "hey, so you didn't call me back.." and let him explain.
2006-10-19 04:06:03 · answer #9 · answered by Mintygoodness1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wait,then ask.like you're curious.then say oh.
2006-10-19 04:32:41 · answer #10 · answered by Mike S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋