Is there a way to adjust the pattern to accomidate all sizes or should everybody be uniform?
The 'thicker' girls don't want to wear strapless w/shawl. But the shawl is covering up their bra straps (they NEED to wear them!).
2006-10-19 03:58:33 · 23 answers · asked by ~2Sxy4u!~ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This statement may sound harsh, it isn't meant to be, especially since I am a plus sized girl. I understand that this is your day and that you should be the one to make the decision...but remember you will have these girls in all of your pictures and who do you really want to stand out? I would be mortified if I had to be in wedding pictures for family and friends to see if I were in a strapless dress.
I am a plus sized girl and have a big enough problem of not looking feeling comfortable in everyday clothes, I cannot imagine one of my friends asking me to be a bridesmaid and not consider my feelings or size when choosing a dress for me to wear.
I would say that you should definately choose dresses that compliment each bridesmaid. I really like the idea that some have posted about different styles to compliment each girl, just in the same color.
Ultimately, the decision is yours, but just know that people remember the "ugly" incidents more so then the "beautiful" ones! For example, everyone remembers my wedding for my sister-in-laws boyfriend getting caught out back smoking a joint and her getting plastered...that is all everyone talks about.
2006-10-19 04:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by leanonshay 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, who in the world picked this inappropriate dress? Are you the bride?
If the bride KNOWS her bridesmaids need to wear a full bra, why would she choose a bridesmaid dress that cannot accomodate a bra?
Certainly no one wants to have to hold a shawl over themselves for an entire day! Your hands need to be free to eat, dance, etc...
Many dress lines offer dresses in different styles but the same fabric and color. The bride should find an option with wide shoulder straps that coordinates by color and fabric with the strapless she has already picked, and either move everyone to the straps dress or just have the plus sized women in that dress.
There are many pics online you can find where there are different styles of dress among bridesmaids but the color/fabric are the same. It looks fine.
Don't make the plus size women feel uncmfortable. If you tried to make me wear such an inappropraite dress for my figure, I'd be insulted and drop out of the wedding.
2006-10-19 11:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you mean by plus size. I was just at a wedding where three bridesmaids wore strapless dresses. Only one should have. Of the other two, one was busty and full figured and the other one was just full figured. They should not have worn them. The second one at least wore a shawl at the reception because she felt uncomfortable.
I think if the body type is not condusive to the strapless dress, it's mean to make them wear them. How about a different style in the same material or colour? I've seen that before and it looks really nice. By the way, your girls could wear strapless bras!
2006-10-19 04:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is what my aunt did, she picked out David's Bridal Apple Red color, everyone was happy with their selection. It also allowed my mom to get a brand new dress at a resale shop (tags still on) for $15, it was marked $130 new. It could be a real savings for your bridesmaids and I think it would be a nice gesture. The wedding I was in the dress was picked out by the bride and it looked terrible on me!! It also was more than $100 and cost an extra $80 to alter (since my future MIL insisted on ordering a 12, when I had worn a 5 to prom just 4 months before!! Hideous dress) The dress wasn't very flattering on anyone else either.
2016-05-22 01:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
David's bridal- pick a color and let everyone pick their own dress. I was at a wedding where an heavy plus size girl was made to wear an A line strapless dress next to these little twiggies girls. It's was terrible, the pictures were awful because you just notice the heavy girl showing all this skin.... and to make it worst, no one had slips on!! So you could see everyone's underware and bra- or lack there of.
Being full figured, I would never wear a strapless gown, when you have over a D cup size breast, it just looks terrible.
2006-10-19 04:16:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a plus sized girl I would feel uncomfortable if I had to wear something different than the thinner girls...I would feel that I stood out b/c of my size. There are lots of places that sell bras for plus size women. I'm sure they could find strapless bras for the occassion...(try Torrid, Avenue, Lane Bryant) or why can't everyone wear shawls rather than just the "thicker" girls.
Just a thought...
2006-10-19 04:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by LAYLA99 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The bride needs to take everyone's body size into consideration before choosing a gown. She needs to attempt to find a dress that everyone will feel comfortable in. And yes, they should all be the same. The women want to participate in the special day, but they don't want to be uncomfortable or show parts of their bodies that they think are unattractive. No one would ask the bride to wear something she didn't like or want to wear. The bride needs to remember that not everyone will look nice in a strapless gown and have a little consideration for her friends. And if she cared enough about them to ask them to stand up with her as she is getting married, then she should care enough about them to compromise on the dresses.
2006-10-19 12:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by disneychick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it flatters them then o.k., make sure they are comfortable in the dress or it can make for a terrible day for them. Plus size can wear the same with an adjusted pattern. Easy fix - a little bit of a different dress for each bridesmaid - makes them not stand out like - oh - their dress is different because of their size - if all of the dresses vary, they don't stand out at all.
2006-10-19 04:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should not expect your plus size friends to wear the same thing the skinny ones do. If you wanted everyone to be the same, you should have picked a dress that they could all wear comfortably. If you don't work with them, they may walk out on you. There is no way I would expect the plus sized girls to wear something they are uncomfortable with, if they are your friends, that is just wrong.
2006-10-19 04:11:37 · answer #9 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps if the plus size bridesmaids would try on a "mock-up" dress and put a shawl around, they will see that it can be very complimentary to their figure. I am sure they are imagining that they will not look as attractive in a strapless dress as the smaller bridesmaids and someone should assure them they will. If they agreed to be in the wedding, they need to accommodate the wishes of the brides and look uniform. Remember, photos will be taken of this momentous occasion and if the bride wants them to wear "gators," that's her prerogative.
2006-10-19 04:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by terryoulboub 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋