what is the best age gap between siblings??

Question

OUR DAUGHTER IS NEARLY 2 1/2 AND WE WANT ANOTHER ONE BUT DONT KNOW IF WE SHOULD WAIT A WHILE CAUSE HUBBIE ISNT TO SURE AND WE WANT TO TAKE HER ABOARD NEXT MAY BEFORE SHES THREE AND DONT KNOW IF IT WOULD BE A GOOD IDEA IF I WAS PREGNANT TOO AND ALSO IF I COULD COPE WITH TWO AS HUBBIE WORKS 14 HOUR DAYS 6 DAYS A WEEK I HAVE LOTS OF PROS AND CONS FOR AND AGAINST HAVING ANOTHER ONE BUT I AM ALSO WORRIED IF I DONT DO IT NOW I NEVER WILL AND I DONT WANT HER TO BE AN ONLY CHILD FOR SURE AS I AM ONE AND HATE IT AND ALSO IF SHE WOULD FEEL LEFT OUT TOO JUST LOOKING FOR SOME ADVICE REALLY PLEASE HELP THANKS PS AND I ALSO SUFFERED FROM PND AFTER HER BIRTH FOR ABOUT A YEAR SO I AM WORRIED IF THAT HAPPENS AGAIN AS IT WAS THE WORST YEAR OF MY LIFE PPS IM 23 HUB IS 25 WITH OWN BUSINESS LIVE COMFTABLE WITH GOOD INCOME I DONT WORK AND AM A SAHM JUST THOUGHT YOUD LIKE SO INFO TO HELP ADVICE ME THANKS AGAIN XX

Answer 1

Our son was 3 years old when we had our daughter.......they are semi close but i always wish they could be closer. It may be a girl/ boy thing I dont know. I'm pregnant with our third and our son is 7 years old and our daughter just turned 4. So i do worry that none of them will be close since they are spaced out a bit. My sister and I were 2 years apart and we were as close as can be.We shared a room,clothes,toys,everything.We also fought like cats and dogs but I wouldn't have changed a thing because she was always my best friend and still is. I really want that for my kids but I fear that isn't going to happen.However my parents adopted 3 children when I was 17 and my sister 15. They were 10,7, and 3 years old. No where near our age,but we all hang out with each other atleast once a week,sometimes more. So you never know ,it just depends on the family I guess. But if your not absolutly sure that your ready dont do it yet. You cant go back once it's done. Good luck

Answer 2

When to have another child is totally up to the Parents. I am a 28 year old mother of 2. I got pregnant with my 2nd child when my daughter was 2 1/2. I had my 2nd child when my daughter was 3 years and 4 months old. I Personally, think its the perfect age difference between the 2 children. My daughter just now turned 7 and my son will be 4 in January.

Answer 3

Well I think that it's best to have another baby around the time when your child is about 3 1/2 to 4 yrs old that way their age difference will be a little a couple years apart but by then you might only have one in diapers instead of having two in diapers.
But if you feel your up to the challenge then I say to go ahead and start trying. It's really up to you and how much you feel you can handle

Answer 4

2 years.

Answer 5

No matter what age difference you put between children it has pro's and con's. My oldest was almost 6 when her sister was born and it was a big help because she was old enough to know mommy had to do this for the baby and she could help me out with things, however with her being 6 we had gotten use to the no diaper bag, no car seat grab coat and go thing and we had to settle into all of that again. There is 21 months between my second and third, and I have to say I love it. It was hard at first because she didn't want to share me with her brother but from them being so close in age he actually advanced on things faster and now they are 7 & 81/2 and they are playmates for each other . The oldest is now almost 15 and it causes a lot of friction with her and the younger two because her life is at a faster pace and they still think cartoons are the best thing. From experience I would say go for it now.

Answer 6

My brother and I are 5yrs7mo apart and I agree with the person who said having an older child means they can help with the younger one. However from experience I can say that there might be "distance" between them if you have them far apart. (I'm not saying my brother and I arn't close, but I'm 18 and he's 12, so we were never in the same "bracket" and don't hang out like some siblings who may only be a year or 2 apart).

Answer 7

My kids are 27 months apart (33 months and 6 months) and now I think I should have waited a little longer. The advantage of having your second baby 2-3 years after your first is that your first doesn't get too spoiled and can adjust to a younger sibling better. My in-law's friends' second to youngest is 7 years older then their youngest and she still resents him and tries to hurt him. I'm not saying that this is typical but it can happen. Good luck.

Answer 8

I don't think there is any perfect spacing. It really depends on the individual children involved. I have 4 siblings, and we have all different spacings. The ones that are 2 years apart are not any closer than the ones that are 11 years apart. My kids are 4.5 years apart by design. I didn't want two kids in college at the same time, and I wanted to be able to fully enjoy each baby. Good luck. You're young, so you have plenty of time to decide.

Answer 9

I'm an only child, but I do know most siblings are usually between 2 to 7 years apart. The average age difference I have seen was 4 years.

Answer 10

My kids are 4 years apart and that works good for us. The won't both be in college at the same time. But don't worry about it too much. I think as long as you have the next one before she's maybe 6 she won't feel like an only child.