he has been out of a job for two years now. he does part time gigs, nothing serious. he was very kind to me financially so the money is not my problem because i believe something will come through for him eventually. the problem is for someone not working he tends to stay out late every night not comes in 2-4am. sleeps out as he pleases(we live together) he says he stays at his sis because sometimes when he is on the road so late it is easier to and cheaper to stop by her instead of coming home. ( he hangs out nears where she lives.) i dont think he is there for me now and i am worried at the rate he is going he will eventually leave when he finds a job wether im pregnant or not. right now he is acting as if he is a single man. i go to work every morning and i only see him most times when i am leaving to work. it is stressing me now. i think its better to leave now but im scared if i can manage a new born on my own, emotionally and financially. i already have a 12yr old son. help me!
2006-10-19 03:48:41 · 11 answers · asked by jillane j 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
you are already on your own. get rid of him, peoiple will tend to help out more if you lose him.
2006-10-19 03:52:11 · answer #1 · answered by junebug501 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW! Deep question! So, are you pregnant? If not - PROTECT and DON'T!!! But if you are - there are options out there. When I was 23, I was 'living kinduv like him' and not being responsible. Therefore I got pregnant. I STILL regret what I did, but I KNEW I couldn't financially and emotionally provide for the baby - so I gave her up for adoption. Don't know if she'll ever forgive me. It was a closed adoption and with a few calls - no one will tell me where or what about her. She just turned 23 this last May 17th. She was born in Kansas. Anyway, I do NOT approve another option of abortion. I did that too at 19 and THAT still haunts me!! I am 45 now and have two BEAUTIFUL kids (girl and boy) 11 & 13. No one is EVER ready for children, but a steady job and wisdom of keeping one along with a stable home is a BIG plus. You do what you think, but I pray it is what God wants you to do! Good luck and God Bless!
2006-10-19 10:59:51 · answer #2 · answered by curiousgeorgette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You CAN manage... If it's his kid he'll have a responsibility whether he's together with you or not. I don't know if he's lying about staying out, but certainly being out that late is a slap in the face to you. Not to mention it's dangerous for you and your baby if he is sleeping around and happens to pick up some disease. So make some plans and then talk to him, tell him that it's not okay to treat you that disrespectful, and if he balks then drop him. He may have trouble helping you to support your baby, but it's his responsibility to do it so he doesn't really have a choice. Better you break up on your terms than his. (besides it's not like he doesn't have anywhere to go, his sisters?)
good luck...
2006-10-19 11:01:16 · answer #3 · answered by jeepguy_usa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NICE!
What a great example of the All-American family!
Looks like you are on chapter two in your book of what NOT to do with your life (Chapter one was getting pregnant with your first child and then NOT having a father to mentor him).
Of course you can manage without your boyfriend.
And taking into account his lack of care or concern for your current state (i.e., pregnant and single), you are probably better off without him.
Now, that DOES NOT mean that your future child is better off without him or some father-figure.
But don't listen to me...I'm not saying anything that you want to hear.
But the statistics about pregnant, unwed mothers don't lie.
And girl, you are just adding to the statistics.
You do have a choice to adopt that forthcoming child out to a family (i.e., a loving, married couple) that can give that child what it needs most: two parents.
2006-10-19 11:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by docscholl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl you will be fine. Your already on your own. He just kind of stays there sometimes. Dump the loser and make a better life for you and your children. YOU deserves so much better. :)
2006-10-19 12:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him,could be this baby is scaring him. Tell him that you are thinking of moving, decide for yourself after you get his feedback. If you leave him you will be fine,I think you know this already, my only worry would be that he might try to come back ....best of luck
2006-10-19 11:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I did and we are just fine. You deserve better for baby. even if its all up to you. P.S. you actually beleive he's honest with you? A good man? Get real honey. don't be someones fool.
2006-10-19 10:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're supporting him, and he figures if you're having his baby, you wouldn't dare tell him to leave.
It will be better for you and your family if you just ditch him.
If he really cared he would not be doing this to you.
2006-10-19 11:05:26 · answer #8 · answered by ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl leave him asap! a strong woman stands on her own two feet! and don't u ever let anyone else tell u different!
2006-10-19 10:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by POOCHY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are already on your own so I don't see what the difference will be
2006-10-19 20:32:05 · answer #10 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋