Very Important Muslim Questions?

Question

I am Muslim and I met a Muslim girl and we fell in love with each other, after a week she told me that she is not a virgin that she made a mistake with another man and prays to Allah to forgive her for her mistake.. I understand that it was a mistake and I want to marry her, she never told her parents of her mistake, so her parents think she is still a
virgin my parents also think she’s a virgin. Now if I marry her is it 7araam on my part???

I want to Ostorha because she understands her mistake and asks for forgiveness from Allah everyday.. now if I marry her do I get SAWAAB????

also the wedding night as a custom both parents want to see her blood on a cloth the next morning. This is a must to show this cloth with her virgin blood on it….If I cut myself and put my own blood on the cloth and tell my parents its her virgin blood and also tell her parents the same, would that be 7araam to lie to both my parents and her parents and keep it a secret for life to Ostorha?????

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Answer 1

HEY, her blood on a cloth is not a muslim tradition, and the prophet (pbuh) did not say that. The part about her not being a virgin, marry her if u love her, as long as ur sure she is sorry and she will not do it again.

Answer 2

The Prophet Muhammed(pbuh) was married to 11 women and only 1 of them (Aisha) was a virgin, the others were all divorced or widows. I know that is a different situation but he also gave us an example of forgiveness when he married a Jewish slave women who had been among the troops sent to fight against him. I don't think that there is any problem in your marrying her. There is a web site that you can ask questions on and they will answer. You don't need to use your real name and you can ask if it OK to marry her.
As for the custom of blood on the sheets, a woman does not always bleed when she loses her virginity.

Answer 3

if you love and trust her, and she loves and trusts you, then go ahead and marry her.
if pretending to be a virgin is very important to you, even life saving, then you have 2 options - a surgery to restore her hymen, that will cost a sum and involve a surgeon.
the other option is what you suggested but a small amount of red ink will look much the same as blood on a sheet. not too much and you better experiment before in private so as not to create a suspicious effect.
inshalla everything will work for you.

Answer 4

What you say is all in this viedo clip of a turkish movie named sila:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kn-dxA69Wqk


Also on a soap called EL clon from 2001.

In any case You know is haram to lie. You know is Haram To cover a lie and there is your answer... may allah GUide you. You should not be spreading her sin by telling us if this "HAPPENED"

Regarding the "BLOOD proof" C'mon men is 2006 Ya! who in God's name goes around showing blood in this day an age.....
she doesnt have to prove to her parents or your parents she's a virgin....C'mon Ya! May Allah Gide you rightly!

Answer 5

And Lut, when he said to his tribe: "Do you commit an obscenity not perpetrated before you by anyone in all the worlds? You come with lust to men instead of women. You are indeed a depraved tribe." The only answer of his tribe was to say: "Expel them from your city! They are people who keep themselves pure!" So We rescued him and his family—except for his wife. She was one of those who stayed behind. We rained down a rain upon them. See the final fate of the evildoers! ” — Qur'an, 7:80–84 There is the story of Lot (pbuh) & also did not Allah (swt) tell us not for men to imitate women & vice versa? Being gay is haram. Simple as. Those who say it isn't haram then they are kidding themselves only. They should study this matter better & then they will see that Allah (swt) has forbidden it. Also it is one of the 70 sins 01. Associating anything with Allah 02. Murder 03. Practising magic 04. Not Praying 05. Not paying Zakat 06. Not fasting on a Day of Ramadan without excuse 07. Not performing Hajj, while being able to do so 08. Disrespect to parents 09. Abandoning relatives 10. Fornication and Adultery 11. Homosexuality(sodomy) <------ 12. Interest(Riba) 13. Wrongfully consuming the property of an orphan etc. etc.

Answer 6

As a non-muslim I'd say talk with a few Clerics who don't know either of you and reasearch it in the Quran.

I'll wager there are ways to get around this.

I do know the Quran says Allah forgives a lot of things.

What I don't know is about lying or bearing false witness in your religion.

In my Christians religion, I'd tell everyone what we do is between us and I love her and stay out of our personal bedroom business.

I don't know how Muslims deal with that.

You are taking on an obligation so TAKE IT ON. You have to Love her nomatter what and if things don't work out you can't go back and say "she fooled around even before me."

You've AGREED to accept that. I can't see EVER shaming her anymore, even if you get hurt.

You love her and accept her as she is and it should remain that way forever. But, that's just my Christian influences talkign to you.

You have to find your own religions ways.

Answer 7

oh sweetheart i am not muslim but hope you do get good answers to this
it would be such a shame to feel so much guilt over someone you love
and she sounds very sorry for what she has done
if Allah can forgive her , then i hope others can also
and not everyone does bleed you know , so i am unsure how that can be taken as proof of her virginity ( but this is not my faith so i cant truly comment on it )
i wish you both a very happy life together xx

Answer 8

All what you said is real. If you use your own blood to fool your parents and hers will be a lie, not pleasing Allah. If she did it once what guarantee you have that she will not do it again after you are married?

Answer 9

It's even sawaab to wed a prostitute as you are not to judge anyones sins but it is God. The blood thing would be easier if you had married during her period. Cutting yourself is normally a sin.

Answer 10

Proving virginity with a blood stained sheet? Unf*cking believable.