I have very low self-esteem. nothing seems to work out right. everyone treats me like **** no matter how much i go out of their way... i hate living this way... i hate having recurring thoughts of death and suicide... i hate feeling this... got any ideas about how i can make this go away?
and trust me ... just thinking about my positive points doesnt help... as far as im concerned, i dont have any!! not even one! when people complement me, i think they're lying or being sarcastic or just making fun of me ... i feel that no one loves me ... everyone looks down on me ... i know i have a certain amount of potential in life, but my mind is keeping me from doing those things ... i am depressed and i don't see an end to this ...
i'm desperate for help. psychiatrists don't really help... they just rake money and i cant afford to have anyone rake $$ off me ...
2006-10-19 03:25:25 · 25 answers · asked by satin_rust 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Warm hugs
I promise you are a worth while person. You have the same capacity to do the same as any one else on this earth. Each person is unique and each of us have different skills to impart on those around us.
Some like you are sensitive souls, who are caring and loyal, often good with animals and children.
How I try to get off the merry go round of life, is positive thinking, positive sefl talk, and always smile graciously when given a compliment, never disregard another person who has given the compliment, (your devaluing them not your self).
2006-10-19 03:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by reka_poti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You couldn't possibly loath yourself so completely. There has to be something that you like to do or are good at that has a redeeming value.
I personally have had many issues throughout my life with self esteem and self worth issues and yes many of the ideas that you currently have (hate living, death, suicide, the many ways I could off myself, etc...) I have had also, not to mention numerous scars to boot, so I won't beat around the bush and say that everything will be fantastic if you do 'this' or 'that.' Because honestly that would be mostly a lie. I will say however that life has a way of evolving and changing every day. What I mean by this is that your current situation can not remain as it is. It is impossible. Every day is a new evolution into a different period of life.
So here is the short of it. Life changes; it may not happen overnight or even in years, but one day you will look back and realize how far you've come and you will try hard to imagine how limited your life would have been if you didn't persevere. With age comes experience and the ability to better deal with life's idiosyncrasies. I know that this may sound 'cheesy' at this point in time, but if you give yourself half a chance you will be able to look back and know the truth such things. I realize that this answer sounds a bit disjointed and enigmatic, but all I can say is stick to living, believe in yourself and you will see what I'm talking about.
2006-10-19 10:40:23 · answer #2 · answered by the_green_grass_horse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
l think you are failling to believe in yourself. God created you as a unique person and gave you so many potentials like you rigthly put it. Note that you don't own your life and can not take it. You have to think positively my dear,that is the only way you can achive anything in life and when others complement you, take it as a plateform to improve upon what youv'e done and not necessarly a way of making fun of you. Do away with the notin that everyone looks down on you for you are a source of hope, an encouragement to others even though you might not see it that way. The end has finally come for this depression and it is time for you to see the new you. l also believe you need a friend and that is why l am here. Hope to hear from you.
2006-10-19 11:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by maxteh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't treat you like ****. If they did they also have very low self esteem. You are very unique. Yes you may be different from everybody else but you got talent and skills that other people don't have . Maybe the reason why people probably treat you like *** is that they are either jealous of you or they don't like you because you are better at some things than they are. There could be those type of people out there .But there could be lots of other people out there who admire you for your talents and skills too.
when people compliment you just smile and say "thank you". Don't put your self down and assume that other people are lying. They mean it. And when people compliment you and you say "thanks" it means you appreciate other people's compliment and they think you are a great person. Just try that the next time.
I like it when people smile and say thanks to me when i say a compliment to them. It makes a difference. It puts a smile on your face and the other peoples because other people know you are good at something and you know what they the people who compliment you also knows that you appreciate them when you acknolewdge them.
You know you got potential. What's keeping you from doing the things you want? Is it what's going on with your life? You should talk to your friends or family or loved ones about your problems. They also want to help you too. That can be a simple way to lift yourself esteem and it's free too. Some times the best things in life come for free :)
Take good care of your self and reach for the stars. You are a very unique interesting individual who's good at all sorts of things.
2006-10-19 10:48:55 · answer #4 · answered by chanseypokemon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, enough with the pity party. I used to feel the same way you did. I was made fun of a lot in high school and had very few friends. I used to hate myself when I looked in the mirror. As time went by, I began to realize that the people making fun of me weren't worth my time. They were the ones with the problem, not me.
You say that your mind is keeping you from realizing your potential. It's time to replace the negative thoughts with positive ones. When someone compliments you, smile and say, "Thank you!". Learn to accept the compliments.
Remember this...God does not make mistakes. You are a worthwhile human being, otherwise he wouldn't have created you. When you look in the mirror keep telling yourself, "I am someone special." Because you are.
2006-10-19 10:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by Forceof1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I can help you but, I really want to help. Many of us go through periods in our life where we feel the same things as you do .Find something you really like to do, and find some new friends that can open your world up to new experiences, it can change your life! People just don't hand out compliments just for the fun of it, they probably really mean what they say. You seem to have depression, if you don't want to go the Psychiatrist route, please see a regular doctor and tell him/her that you are depressed, don't let it go untreated, because you can be happy again. If you don't want to do drugs that the Dr. may give you, ask about Herbal Supplements some of these work pretty well, but, please just don't do anything about it. Just from your letter you seem to be very open about your feelings and you write very well, those are real compliments.
2006-10-19 10:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, are you clinically depressed or are you depressed about your situation, firstly if you have mental health issues you really do need to seek medical help, if you are depressed because of your situation, you need to change your situation, it is possible, everyone is different, and you must start to be yourself, it doesn't matter what other people think, as long as you are kind considerate and genuine, what is there to hate..we hate people doing cruel things to others, we may hate certain places or foods, but as long as we are decent human beings, there is no room for self hate,sometimes when you help others you feel good about yourself, youre not on this earth long enough to be filled with these feelings, enjoy your life and make the most of each day, there are many parents who have lost children, that wish that their children could be here making the most of their lives, please dont waste yours.
2006-10-19 10:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by marti 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don' t know how old you are but when i was a teen i use to feel the same way, have you maybe tried to get on some kind of medicine? you are the only one that can help you, i know it sounds corny, but it is true! I believe we were all put here for a reason, and you will find yours, and try to not let other people bother you just say **** IT, i am me and that is all i can be!! I know another corny phrase, but remember you can't worry about other people, just focuse on you and what you want out of life!
you can do it, when i get down i think about how even when it's bad there are alot of people out there who have it way worst!! life is short, try and live and enjoy it while your here!!!
2006-10-19 10:41:38 · answer #8 · answered by vr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you hit rock bottom. The only way left is up. If your laying flat out, then look up in prayer. a simple heart felt prayer in your own words. Tell God what you are feeling and ask for His help. He will send the answer soon, believe me this works. Just try it! What have you got to lose?
I know some people think that prayer is not enough, but it's the best starting point.
2006-10-19 10:34:00 · answer #9 · answered by yourdayscoming 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet heart you really need to stop being so down on yourself and look at the situation you are surrounding yourself in!
Why do you not believe people when they compliment you? Are they your friends? The reason i ask this is because if i feel low normally my friends are the ones that pick me up...
Get out there have some fun and meet some good people!
2006-10-19 10:30:48 · answer #10 · answered by Updowndizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋