The basic situation. My friend and former roommate has a girl of which we've become friends after they started going out. I have been sensing something between us brewing in the last several months and especially the last few weeks. Here's a list of some things: we stare at each other alot, she stands close to me when talking and her body is open towards me, kind of does small intimate things like grabbing my dirty shoes for me, bakes stuff for me, eating off my plate lol, and once it was just the two of us with her dog and while watching the game we just sat quietly but were both petting her dog at the same time in an intimate way. our hands were just inches apart. It felt like a situation where nothing happened, but something happened. also she's started to email me out of the blue and she NEVER has before. her boyfriend is a friend of mine, and I live by the guy rule that you just don't do that, but it feels different this time. Is she into me? and should I just leave it alone?
2006-10-19 03:16:55 · 14 answers · asked by remys 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks everyone for your input, even the Italian sausage guy. I'm definitely in a bind. The difficult thing is is that I don't think his girl is trying to actively "flirt" or do the things she does towards me, I can sort sense that she is confused as well as sometimes her emotions or actions towards me are kind of erratic or "moody." It doesn't help either that my friend keeps putting in situations where his girl and I are alone together. He's always saying things like "hey go with her and make sure nothing happens to her," or "watch after her...etc.." He has complete trust in me and I do feel guilty for having these feelings for his girl. Anyway, i'd love more comments, even the funny ones, but definitely I think I know what i have to do..
2006-10-19 04:28:37 · update #1
He is your friend, rule still applies. I would distance myself from her but fast. If something is happening and she is making a play for you, what does it say about her? and if you do hook up, how will it ever work with the shadow of your betraying your friend between you. It's a no win- there's no way you can be happy with her, so bow out and do the least damage to others.
Doing the right thing when it's easy is a cinch, doing it when it's hard is when it counts.
2006-10-19 03:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by Down to earth 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's great that you feel so intimately about a girl.
And at the risk of stating the obvious - it's not so great that she's your friend's girlfriend.
Stick to the rule if you don't want to cause a mess.
Even if she is into you, that's something she should sort out with your friend. How would you feel if your girlfriend fell for your friend and in your eyes they cheated on you? Because that is what it is going to look like if the two of you became too intimate. Not such a good thing for your friendship.
That of course depends on whether you value the friendship as I'm sure you do.
But hey, I can say over and over again that I don't agree with it and it still wouldn't change the way you feel about the whole thing. Worse come to the worse, you could talk to your friend about it. What the outcome of that might be, I can't say.
All relationships require honesty.
Be honest to yourself and to your friend.
What is it that you want to do? Be with her or keep your friend?
Then again, we could debate all day on what is right or wrong but in the end, it lies in her hands to choose between you guys. She is the one that has to be upfront about her own feelings. If she hasn't talked to her own boyfriend, then are you really in a position where you can butt in?
For the moment, if I was you, I'll try keeping my friends. She and him both.
2006-10-19 10:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by demi-kun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She might just feel really comfortable around you. Think of you like the brother type. That could mean you are the sensitive type girls can really get along with. ?there is no doubt she likes you. It could be different and it sounds sweet. Trust me if you get a girl to bake for you it's a good sign. She must go thru with things the proper way. I'm sure a conversation will take place in the near future and you will work things out.
2006-10-19 10:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by :o) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not good. She must end one relationship before she begins another. Otherwise you may think that she could do the same thing to you. Also, you will have to find a new roommate. There is no way you can continue to live with a someone after you start to date his girl. This is a very volatile situation. Make sure it's worth all the misery and trouble it will cause.
2006-10-19 10:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
With so many women out there...your shouldn't stab your friend in da back for his girl...if u really friend tell your friend whats up-if they break up than it's up to u weather you would want a girl like that as
"your girlfriend" true friends are few...hoes...many..
2006-10-19 10:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by Bxrock 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds as if you're headed toward a decision, the girl or a friendship.
2006-10-19 10:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by jack w 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just leave it alone and continue as you are. If he truly is your friend you will not go there. Just be her friend don't make a move. I think you will be surprised by the outcome.
2006-10-19 10:21:03 · answer #7 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave it alone. If they break up then go for it... but you should stand fast by the "friend rule" and NEVER go there!
2006-10-19 10:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by dena_lisa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm, seems like somethings going on. Feel for ya, tough situation.
2006-10-19 10:19:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if this guy is your true friend then no you don't cross that line cuz women come and go and good friends come a dime a dozen. and then if that happens and shes still with him what do you think she will do when she gets with you?
2006-10-19 10:23:14 · answer #10 · answered by lovenicci 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋