ok so we have plenty of chemestry and I'll be his first g/f.he's 18 and I am older than him with experience and I'm sure he knows that but doesn't care about my age. anyways I want to take things slow, have lots of fun laughing,hugging,cuddling and being with each other. does taking it slow help him to develope real feelings that can be strong and consistent. I had an ex that I stayed friends with tell me that when we do "stuff" being intamate, that it confuses his feelings for me( like if he feels like getting back together or not). so I don't want to confuse or overwhelm him.I want him to be happy and have fun with me,but also kiss.I don't want to manipulate him or put him under any pressure. Have any advice.I've only been in one real relationship and he was my best friend before we got together so I'm not sure how things go.
2006-10-19 03:02:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give him the best sex ever.
2006-10-19 03:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Firstly, your ex is an idiot hence the reason why he is your ex.
To your problem now. If you are experienced you should know that you cannot make someone fall in love with you. They have to want to fall in love with you for it to happen.
You cannot just assume that he will want to take things slow. Just go with the flow. Let nature take it course. Nothing will happen before it is suppose to. Keep in mind that taking it slow and not rushing things is not the same. Not rush is going with the flow of nature. Taking it slow is going after nature has put things in place for you or in other words prolonging it.
All i can say is that the moment the two of you have sex he will fall in love with you. As long as he is really a virgin. He will love you until the day that he dies even if he finds someone who does it better than you.
Take this opportunity to teach him all the things that a woman wants done to her. You can make him into what ever woman wants.
It is okay to get close. Kissing is fine and so is cuddling. Let him tell you when he is ready to be intimate.
Good luck
2006-10-19 03:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very simple, love takes time. Clearly you've both established a foundation for this relationship and now you should take things one day at a time. If you don't want to put him under any pressure, don't try to help him fall in love with you. He's with you because he cares about you and there is chemistry, in time, perhaps he will fall in love with you; but until then, don't rush it because it never comes to those who look for it.
2006-10-19 03:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by coolguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cant make him fall in love with you. If it's meant to happen, then it will in its own time. You could probably help love along by making his favorite meal / dish / dessert or surprise him with something that truly comes from your heart.
2006-10-19 03:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by sweetthang16_2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run him a nice bath, invite some of your girlfriends round, put his favourite teams shirt on, tell your friends to get there kit off, and all of you jump in the bath together..
Then cook him a nice meal...
2006-10-19 03:06:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take it easy with him,but you have to lead him along for him to know you really care for him and love him so much.
2006-10-19 03:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by Bob Mukonka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Burn a red candle or pink one and meditate on him. lol i am just joking but let it grow. you cant make anyone love you.
2006-10-19 03:06:42 · answer #7 · answered by nomorepblm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to say this, but you cant make someone fall in love with you, i wish we could, but you really cant.
2006-10-19 03:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by Little Lolita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SIMPLE ADVICE BE SURE IN ALL THE THINGS YOU DO, THINK HUNDRED TIMES, NEVER LET YOUR FEELINGS DRIVE YOU IN THE THINGS THAT YOU'LL DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-19 03:08:22 · answer #9 · answered by a comedian yet very sensous man. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant
2006-10-19 03:05:43 · answer #10 · answered by James R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋