When u lost it...were u mentally prepared for it that particular day? was it consensual or partly persuasion turned to consent... or forced? What were ur feelings that day wen u returned back to your home? R u still with the same guy/girl now also?
2006-10-19 02:53:41 · 17 answers · asked by Made4u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to be honest it was more pressured but still consented
i was not ready physically i was too young it felt like nothing
i found out that my sexual maturity was at 18 and i found my soulmate and we make love and never has it felt so good and safe with someone i will always be with.
he gave me my first orgagsm
and it was with him i first had anal sex and gave oral sex consentually
i have been forced before at ages 13 14 & 18
and to this day giving head is hard when a thirty two years old man shoves his d1ck in your mouth and makes you try it has a bad memory for giving my husband something so personal
but who i lost mine too i have his but after he raped me he caught me off guard i didn't realize he was drunk i never hung out with him again after i got away before he could finish he came back trying to get me to go back with him to finish it he wanted to get off and he only was active with me but i didn't do anything while drinking or smoking weed only sober so they can hear and respect you when you say no
2006-10-19 03:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all up to you. You don't need anyone else's opinion on this matter. There is no such thing as partly persuasion turned to consent and if forced it's called rape. Grow a backbone and say "I will lose my virginity when I am ready maybe with you maybe not so back off B". I have a feeling you already did it through peer pressure and now you feel like you have been violated. To bad so sad you made the wrong choice eh. Just remember it was all your choice to be there, if you could not handle it then you should have chosen better.
2006-10-19 03:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by omvg1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was young, but with a boy whom I loved more than anything in this world, it was not a planned thing, sorta just happened, it was a little scary and not the best sex I've ever had but I was glad it was with him and although circumstance separated us for a while eventually we found ourselves back together and are now married for 19 years with three great kids. This is something that only you can know for sure if you are ready for it. Never let anyone pressure you, if you are the least bit unsure, then you are not ready. It is a lot to deal with both emotionally and physically, so don't take it lightly, there is nothing wrong with waiting until you are sure! and remember if you are going to do it, practice SAFE SEX, you dont want that first experience to end up giving you a STD or pregnancy that you didn't plan on. Hope this helps.
2006-10-19 04:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by Iluvtedebears 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 18 when I lost my virginity I like to think I was mentally prepared for it! I was in love and at the time it felt right. It was consensual, my feelings when I returned home were happy, scared, nervous, but most of all I felt the love between us! No I am not with the same person anymore but I have no regrets!
2006-10-19 02:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you consented under pressure and wished you would have kept your virginity for someone more meaningful then you will have to stop beating yourself up.
whats done is done and I can tell you most peoples first sexual encounter is not a good one. Partly to do with the big deal people make sex sound and then you realise its not that big a deal.
This can give you the feeling of something being missing, it is not.
Sex is good with the right person, other than that it is just another form of masterbation.
Enjoy these other forms of masterbation for what they are and await your life long partner for proper sex.
2006-10-19 03:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by SunGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i was not mentally prepared.
It was partly persuasion turned to consent.
When i returned back home I was like what the hell was that.
No i am still not with the guy since this was nearly 15 years ago
2006-10-19 02:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by Solitaire 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew it was going to happen. I was curious. My b/f at the time had already done it, so I was scared. It hurt. A lot. Did not enjoy it. I was very sore and when I went home the next day, I felt dirty and ashamed. I told Mom about it and she put me on birth control. I never had sex with him again. He started becoming very controlling and weird so I broke up with him. I was 18. I moved to a different state for college and years later, he called me b/c he was in my town and he wanted me to see him....UM NO! Why would I? I was dating someone at the time. What would he think if he knew that I stopped by his, his wife's, and new baby's hotel room? Twisted....if you ask me. Anyways, that's how that turned out. I don't wish it to be any different (losing my virginity) b/c it was going to happen one way or another, but it was unfortunate that he turned psycho on me.
2006-10-19 02:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
totally mentally prepared and not too young (19 yrs old) - the only way to be in my opinion - i felt fanstastic when i got home - not with the same guy now - that was so many years ago, but he was great and very considerate and gentle - made the first time a very positive experience.
2006-10-19 02:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i am not married to that person but it is a slim chance that people are and no i wasn't prepared to lose it that day but i knew it was going to be that person it wasn't forced it was great he made me feel very comfortable and the next day i was hoping he called me and or whole relationship wasn't just so he could get laid he called like 20 min after i got home and we were together for a year after that then i wanted to be friends
2006-10-19 03:00:04 · answer #9 · answered by khissmyputtytat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not prepared.
Things went too far and I felt like it was too late to say no but didn't want to ...
I was sad as it wasn't what I expected... nothing special
Not with that person...
Boys will do it with anyone who will give it up to get the experience. Girls... wait... don't be the practice run... wait and make sure it is with someone who really cares about you ...
2006-10-19 02:58:04 · answer #10 · answered by dena_lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋