Is it me or is a gentleman a rare thing these days, i ask because i've been told i am one (if i sound vain or big headed i apologise) and from what i see most people they days expect women to be at home and do the cleaning and cooking or the guys simply aren't romantic. Is a gentleman rare these days?
I would do all the cooking for my gf, the cleaning, buying things for her, taking her out, i believe that the money she earns is hers to spend on herself and i would take care of the house work, thats just the way i am.
2006-10-19 02:47:45 · 39 answers · asked by Chappers 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would never do what i do just to get something in return, i don't believe in that. I do these things because thats what i believe in doing for a woman to care for her and treat her right, i never ask or expect anything in return because seeing her happy and her beautiful smile is all i need.
2006-10-19 03:24:21 · update #1
I know my gf wouldn't use me, she's not that kind of person.
2006-10-19 03:32:14 · update #2
well i can say yes to this question my boyfriend is a gentleman kind sweet willing to help me in any way he can he never asks for anything in return from me but he dose things for me because he wonts to not coz he has to wen i am feeling ill he wonts to look after me and care for me as i would do the exact thing for him not all of us are out for what we can get but its a rare sight to find a guy who by his own choice wishes to show us woman that he can be kind caring and very loveable and wonting to do everything he can to make us happy not all men are useless u just got to find the one all men are gents but some choose not to show it in fear it makes em look sissy
2006-10-19 03:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're not being vain, you're being honest. You sound very much like a gentlman. But I don't think you should do every little thing. Sharing household chores, bills, etc. is the responsibilty of both adults in a relationship, that's what makes for a strong family. If you continue to do it all, then your GF will end up taking advantage of you. It doesn't hurt for her to help out. My BF is the same way, but I can't sit back and let him do it all. He works very hard and when he comes home from work, I have dinner cooked with candles lit. Don't you think that would be nice to come home to?? However, you are a true gentleman and any women would be extremely lucky to have, just becareful they don't use you.
2006-10-19 03:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by gab_b_i 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes darlin, gentlemen are very rare. My current b/f is very crude in a lot of ways but will hold the door for me, take my arm when we're walking, etc. So he's got a few gentlemanly qualities, but is really rough around the edges & needs polish. You sound like a dream come true - sure you don't wanna date me?! lol
Keep up the good work sweetie - be all the gentleman you can be!!
message for John T - not every woman is a taker. you need to find one who is also a giver & then the two of you would spend your time making one another happy. it can be done! keep looking till you find the right girl & don't discourage other gentlemen because you had a taker.
2006-10-19 02:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would agree with you there. The concept of the 'metro-sexual man' is new and some find it uncomfortable. The irony is that the 'metro-sexual man' is more comfortable with his own sexuality thus allowing hime to take on more diverse/non-stereotypical roles within the relationship. I dont think that 'Gentelmen' in the true sense of the word still exist, we have evolved. Whether a man treats a woman with unconditional love and respect or degradingly is not the point, it is whether this is what their partner wants. It is not wrong to hold out a seat, open a door, even greet a woman in a 'Gentlemanly' manner; the issue lies in whether the lady in question wants this. Some may believe that they do not need a man to open doors etc. and that it may be seen as a patronising act others adore the care/thought. I myself will always open doors, pull out chairs, offer my coat etc not because it is the 'right' thing to do but because it comes most naturally. I hope you are satisfied that 'Gentlemen' do still exist and I can safely and honestly say that I am proud and honoured to be one.
2006-10-19 02:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have to do all that to be a gentleman. There is nothing wrong with sharing cleaning and cooking and expenses.
To me a gentleman would be someone who does pull their own weight, listens to me, doesn't fools around, participates actively in the relationship (not going on auto-pilot the whole weekend watching sports, for instance), and genuinely cares.
Good luck to you, if you are half of what you say you are, I'm sure someone will snap you up very quickly!
2006-10-19 02:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I too don't mean to sound vien But I truely believe that I am a gentlemen. I am always doing things in a fashion that couldn't be considered less of a gentlemen.
For my wife or complete strangers.
I do alot of the house cleaning while I cannot always do it. I also can be romantic, as a matter of fact I fixed her and I a candle light dinner two nights ago. A few nights before that, I bathed her. Her and I have been together 15 years and I am 30 she is 31.
but I to believe that it is a rarity now days. ...
2006-10-19 02:57:00 · answer #6 · answered by 4mika 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
awwwwwwww, what a sweetie! i think ur right, there are not many decent men left in the world, greed has taken over in the majority of men. if ur g/f is reading this, - ASK YOUR MAN TO MARRY YOU!!!!! otherwise im sure loads of women on here would want to take u home tonight!
i wish my husband was a gentleman, instead i have to do all the housework, cooking for all 6 members of the household, grocery shopping, looking after the baby and go to college and he still complains i dont do enough :( some men u just cant pls, so thanks for showing that there are stil some good ones around with a positive attitude
2006-10-19 03:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by katie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A true gentleman is respectful and courteous. Cleaning house is a wonderful attribute but cooking and cleaning a should be done by both. If she's your girlfriend, the money she makes shoulod be hers, if she were your wife the money would belong to the both of you. I admire your appreciation for women, your gf in particular, just make sure she admires you as well.
2006-10-19 02:57:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am not sure how many true gentlemen there are left in the world, but you have shown that there is at least one.
Funny thing is, treat me that way & you will never want for anything yourself. I fully believe that in a relationship you give all you have. When two people get together who believe that, the results could astonish the rest of the world.
2006-10-19 02:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by laneydoll 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theres a difference to being a gentleman and a doormat.
I consider opening doors,pulling out seats at a resturant,giving up your seat on a bus etc etc as a gentlemanly conduct but what you describe is more of a new man/wimpy sort of behaviour.
Be a man with manners but dont be a woos is the key ;)
2006-10-19 02:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, I think it's just the way we are socially progressing aye. Not to say that we are "progressing" in the true sense, but we are changing. For the better or worse, I can't really say. By way of technology, we are moving fast into a better future, but this is not necessarily complemented by society's values anymore. As a matter of fact, it seems to be deteriorating. Sincerity, honesty, integrity even chivalry are all being replaced by materialism, apathy, greed and lust.
The values which we used to uphold daily are muffled into background. It isn't as important as say, the latest pc accesory or the latest CD by that cute singer or that prom in two weeks. We still retain some form of it of course, but somehow, it's marred. I can't say that we used to be so great either, world wars proved that. It just feels like we are being sucked into a blackhole while we fill our lives with meaningless things.
It feels like that, but on the contrary, you still have wonderful people out there. Those who really want to make a difference, even if it's just for one life. Those who never complain, but carry on being a God-sent angel to others - unsung heroes. Supportive, caring families and friends. With or without thanks, there are people there who should be appreciated. This is their applause.
It's awesome if anyone can call themselves a gentlemen, (a lady, a real person) and truly be one.
God bless.
*sheepish smile* sounds like I went off a tangent. =)
2006-10-19 03:15:58 · answer #11 · answered by demi-kun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋