I am aware that she has been having problems getting pregnant (the entire office knows) So, when I found out I was pregnant, I thought I would tell her personally instead of her finding out through the grapevine...she has not spoken to me since and avoids all conversation regarding my pregnancy when other coworkers ask. How do I approach her and ask her what's up? and if there is anything I can do to make it easier for her? She keeps her door closed now and never comes out unless to use the bathroom and runs back in and shuts the door.
2006-10-19 02:45:08 · 15 answers · asked by Bébé 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
There's nothing you can do. She is dealing with a bunch of emotions, like pain, jealously, fear, grief, anger, bitterness and guilt because she should be happy for you, and she's NOT. You
tried to make it a bit easier for her, but she's got to work through all this herself. If you have an employee assistance program in your office maybe you could approach one of her friends and suggest that they suggest she call them to help her through her obvious pain. You'll have to be careful on your approach with this, but she should be talking this out with someone...you can't deal with all that alone.
You probably feel guilty and sad for her, but aside from quiting your job and never seeing her again, there is little you can do. There are pregnant women everywhere, and when your trying to get that way you see them all. Be kind and considerate, but natural towards her and hopefully she will work through this and get pregnant herself. A prayer or two for her wouldn't hurt either. Good luck...and congrats.
2006-10-19 03:09:53 · answer #1 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tricky one but you know what.....its not your problem hun. That is the last t hing you should be worrying about right now. Im sure she resents you for being pregnant and she isnt.
She is probably hurting (not making excuses for her behaviour by any means) but I have been there so I know how it feels when youre trying endlessly to have a baby and its nnot working.
Shes obviously dealing with it by being silent and avoiding you.
Quit worrying, shes a big girl, she'll come around. And if she doesent, thats still the least of your worries. Youre pregnant and got a little one on the way. Dont spend time dwelling on what makes others unhappy......this is your time, savour it!
2006-10-19 02:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by Chez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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two months of trying is still to early to be concerned about the fact that you might be infertile and it's also quite early to go to a fertility specialist. Go to a regular Obgyb to get a closer insight and see what ways there are are to improve your fertility rate.
Also remove alcohol, caffeine and cigarettes from your life because they might influence your chances too. Stress is also a risk factor when it comes to infertility.
2014-12-21 06:14:18 · answer #3 · answered by GIANIKAS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please try to be patient and in the mean time be wary of her attitudes. the last thing you want now is someone hating on you for being pregnant. i think your friend needs counseling, it will not only be you but without accepting her situation she will be hating pregnant women forever. I'm in the same situation now, where this girl i know keeps telling everyone she dislikes me because she finds my pregnancy annoying. she cant get pregnant either. it may sound strange but i really pity her. getting pregnant is a miracle and women who cant get pregnant is usually bothered psychologically although some tend to hide it. i would probably try to send her an email asking her if she wants to talk about it, if she insists to be mean well go on and have your self a happy pregnancy. sometimes its good to reach out first although you may be in the right because you never know the life you may change. good luck and god bless
2006-10-19 03:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by jillane j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she is probably hurting right now, women who cant get pregnant usually feel worthless as women and that only gets worse when there is another women pregnant and happy, did you ever think she is not jealous of you but rather disappointed in herself? I wouldnt approach her at all, dont be inconsiderate, you can have children so you'll never know whats its like for a women who cant. Its very depressing and do you really expect her to talk to you about your pregnancy? its not gonna happen. Having childrens is god's gift to women, what do you think you would feel like if you never got that chance? You want to make easier for her, leave her alone to sort it out.
2006-10-19 02:59:56 · answer #5 · answered by bklynmka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be sensistive that if she doesn't want to be around you, don't force the issue. I had a friend like that when I got pregnant - it was just too hard for her. I have a 7 month old, and she was trying WAY before me, and she still isn't pregnant. I never spoke to her about it, but I should have in the beggining. Maybe speak to her about it once, but then totally drop it and let her deal the way she needs. That has to be a horrible position to be in for her...
2006-10-19 03:08:18 · answer #6 · answered by In Luv w/ 2 B, 1 G + 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is just upset its not your fault you did the write thing she will either come round or stay set in her ways there is nothing you can do .. you will only make it worse if you push.. continue being yourself she has no right to ruin how good you must be feeling..........
I found out my brother wife was pregnant the day after I had a m/c it was great news everyone was worried how I would react.. but it made me feel much better I will have my time....and I get to be an aunty hehe
2006-10-19 02:51:39 · answer #7 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for the situation you are in. This is one of, if not thee happiest time in your life. I understand her frustation and hurt about not being able- at least yet- to become pregnant but anger and jealousy at someone elses happiness is not the way to go. Try talking to her one on one again- if she remains the same than move on. CONGRATS!
2006-10-19 02:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
She's obviously hurt and grieving, but I don't think there is anything that you can do about it. She just has to deal with her pain. Just understand that it's not you that she's upset about, it's the situation. I would be kind to her regardless of her actions.
2006-10-19 02:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you're a prego too! i'm 5 months. but yea i don't think there is anything that you could really say to make her feel differently. she'll come around in her own time if she really is a true friend.
2006-10-19 02:54:31 · answer #10 · answered by silverilyte 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋