And he wants it everyday and wears me out completely. Is he allowed to do that?
2006-10-19 02:39:27 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He says if I refuse, he will go sow his oats somewhere else! What should I do?
2006-10-19 02:43:25 · update #1
tell him to take a cold shower so it will make that damn thing so small, even he won't know what to do with it!
2006-10-19 02:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not right. He is being selfish inconsiderate and down-right ungentleman like. I suggest that you talk to him about it and tell how this makes you feel. It could be that the only reason why he is seeing you is because of that. But you won't know unless you guys talk. Tell him that when you guys go to bed it should be a act out of love and that both of you guys want to do it. If it is just one of you guys that want it and do it and the other is not into it. Then you should take another look at your relationship and see where you are going with this. A relationship should not be made up of comprises. Best of luck and if you should need any more advice check out my 360 or my blog at annelize-sexylee600.blogspot.com
2006-10-19 02:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is more about control than about sex. Sounds like he's not asking. Each partner has a right to expect the same kind of care they offer. Does he ever allow you to enjoy yourself at his expense?
Relationships built on respect (ask and appreciate, don't manipulate and order) can build trust. Trust allows surrender on a deeper level, and sex can be even more fun for both partners. Part of the joy of sex is the play. It's difficult to play if you are feeling coerced, or if the play has to favor one partner most of the time.
2006-10-19 03:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by David M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lmao - & you believe him?? Simple little word in the English language - NO. Just say it. Tell him, sorry, you're tired. Tell him to pleasure you every now & then. Tell him what you just told us.
No, he's not "allowed" to do that, like, by law or anything - BUT you are "allowing" him to do it to you by not saying NO. Hand him a bottle of lotion & tell him to have at it, take care of his problem by himself if you don't feel up to doing it that time. It's not your duty or your job - he really needs to get a grip!!! Lovemaking is a pleasure & is done out of love - not because you have to. He needs to gain some maturity, very badly. Good Luck.
2006-10-19 02:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real jerk. He is "allowed to do" whatever YOU allow him to do. He is trying to manipulate you by threatening to leave you for someone else if you are not his obedient wench! This is not love and respect- you deserve better. A real man will love and respect you and consider it an honor to be your boyfriend and want to please YOU in bed and everywhere else. Dump him first before he dumps you- you can do better, but only when you respect yourself and demand it from your future boyfriends. Be brave, dump him- it will only hurt for a little while- You will feel empowered and in charge of your life instead of being manipulated and threatened by a jerk- I don't care how cute he is- DUMP HIM!!
2006-10-19 02:48:18 · answer #5 · answered by pamhart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say fine, but then tell him that it's his duty/job as your bf to:
buy you chocolate and flowers just because
take you out to nice restaurants
buy you lots of jewelry
praise and compliment you everyday
rub your feet
massage your back
satisfy your every need and desire
be romantic
treat you like the wonderful person that you are...
and if he says no to any of your demands, then tell him no for sex daily, and find a man who is better and won't be so inconsiderate of you.
2006-10-19 02:50:45 · answer #6 · answered by tiggergoesbouncebounce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is demanding and you are not in the mood, then you should let him know... It is not all about his sex drive, this is a two way street. Anyone who only thinks of himself will probably be a selfish lover and not be real concerned with pleasing you.
You need to talk to him and let him know what you are feeling..
Your duty to yourself is dignity, honesty and truth,.... sounds like you have some homework to do......
You do not have any duty to him.....
2006-10-19 02:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course not! it's not your job to please him anytime he wants. What the hell does he think to him self...a KING?
He should respect you and treat you right. He's just too selfish. He doesn't think of someone but himself.
I guess you should talk to him about your problem that it might be a cause for your health problem in the near future.. If he doesn't listen.. Then get rid of him!
Good luck lady.
2006-10-19 02:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your BF needs to hit the door. If all he cares about is himself, you will always be at least second on his list as he is the most important (in his mind). Tell him to get lost if this is going to be his attitude, you don't need a selfish person as a partner.
2006-10-19 02:44:10 · answer #9 · answered by flip103158 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When my kids were little, their meaning of "Duty" was to "Crap"! Your BF sounds Full of it! Why don't you ask him what HIS main responsibility is as YOUR Boyfriend? Sweetheart, usually when someone has a "Job", that means they can expect PAY...what are you allowing yourself to be, given that scenario? Dump him!
2006-10-19 02:48:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like that's all he wants from you, thats pretty fu*ked up. It's not your duty, you do it when you both want to not just when he wants to, take control and let him know your not up for that, cuz by the looks of it he's trying to control of you and he doesn't respect you. Don't be scared to let him know, if he changes then he does love you, if not then now you know thats all he wanted.
2006-10-19 02:44:59 · answer #11 · answered by Lilmamasita 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋