My son get suspended from school alot for fighting with other kids he seems to think that it's ok to fight back when someone hurts him and i have taught him from the beginning that it is wrong.He has also experienced abuse .He watched his mom get beaten many times before the age of 4 .The mom has gone through programs and counsiling and it seems to work 4 a few months then it wheres off and he starts fighting again.I have not been with there father for 4 years now and my son seems to do this without thinking I hope this abuse he saw hasn't ruined him for life.Plzzzzz help me fing other things I could do to help him stop fighting when he is angry.
2006-10-19 02:26:13 · 7 answers · asked by too4barbie 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It sounds to me like he is taking his anger out for what he did see. Try sitting him down and talk to him about what is going on. If the kids are picking on him then the Principle and the guideance office at school needs to work something out here with you. Talk to your son that violence does not pay. Maybe have a police officer speak to him about what happens if he keeps this up. Sometimes that helps. Let him see what the inside of a jail or Juvinile hall looks like. Once they see where they have to stay if they are arrested in the future they will try to stay out of trouble. Good Luck!
2006-10-19 02:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by kolowski4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably needs some counselling but, yeah here comes that but I've been told to get rid of, but, sometimes kids have to fight back. Telling the teacher doesn't always help and then they get whaled on for being tattletales. I fought almost everyday and I'm a girl. I never started it, I usually finished it though and added 'tell and I'll be back for seconds.' I never got caught much. After a while kids learned to stay out of my face, that was about highschool. Honestly I wouldn't start it, and I'd often try to walk away. They weren't having any of that. Telling was
useless. "Jenny, now you stop trying to break xx nose or you'll get detention. Yeah that scared them.
When my kids started school same thing happened. I walked into the scool and brought it up with the teachers. Finally we had a parent meeting with a slew of parents, Boy, it didn't take long to figure out where the problem was. The whole thing almost generated into a riot. Some parents think it's just fine if their kids pick on others, it's part of growing up, just as long as their kids win. When it became clear that kids that were being picked on where backed by their parents and were allowed to fight back you could have heard a pin drop in that room. Bullies need to be confronted they don't go away.
My kids were in grades 1 and 2, being picked on by 4th graders, I told them to form a pack and sit on the offending kid till a teacher came along. The little buggers did it, 6 little people on top of 1 big idiot doesn't bode well for the bully. Then it stopped. Sad, unfortunate, a way of life. I never told my kids to hurt anyone, they were always allowed to defend themselves, and were not punished for it even if they were given detention by the teachers.
Get involved in your school, find out what's really going on. They sure hate to see me walking down their hall...
2006-10-19 02:59:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Here is what I think you should do:
1) Get him some councelling for his angry violent behavior.
2) Talk to the parents about the children who are bothering him and he is fighting with. This problem isn't solely his. It sounds like he is trying to defend himeself.
3) Go to the school, talk to the teacher, principal. Violence among children is NOT ACCEPTABLE!
There is too much of this going on today, and parents need to do something about it!!! Before it gets too bad and TOO LATE!!
2006-10-19 02:54:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When he gets angry at home you can help him by camly talking to him and taking him by the hand and go walk outside or play a peaceful game and seeing his mom being abused has made him think that it is alright for him to hit on people because whoever hitted his mother in front of him made him think that it was okay.
2006-10-19 02:30:34 · answer #4 · answered by jamaicaladydread 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i have had this discussion many times my 6 year old is the same way
there is a real fine line you don't want your child being known as the "tattle tale" but you don't want the "bully"either.
i am just as lost as you are if you get a response that sounds good please let me know.
we have a similar story seems been beat tried counseling ( my son still in it ) and getting nowhere fast.
to the person that said beat his butt: beating the child's butt isn't going to help its like a double negative telling your child not to hit as you hit them
2006-10-19 02:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by my babies 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take your son to a therapist NOW. Your have not helped him to adjust to what he has been through, both of you need to learn how to cope, together.
2006-10-19 02:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Beat his butt, honey.
2006-10-19 02:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by Lizzie03 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋