I am now apart from a man after a year and feel very lonely and don't feel like my friends care that much
2006-10-19 01:22:08 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go dancing regularly. Within a month you'll be a very different girl. Trust me.
2006-10-19 08:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel, ignore the people who say you should be over it, I split up with my husband 5 months ago and it is vey hard. It can take a year to two years to be able to move on emotionally. I don't see many friends either, plus I have a chronic illness and I can't get out and do much. Maybe your friends want you to be happy and feel they don't have anything more to offer you right now? All I can say is try to occupy your time so you don't dwell on things. If you work can you go out for a drink with your work colleugues one evening? If you don't work concentrate on finding a new hobby or maybe start a home study course. Think about the direction your life is going in and start something new to give you a boost. It will help, and you might well make new friends too. It might be that your friends expect you to be over it now, but believe me it's not wrong to still be grieving. I think perhaps you just need to occupy yourself with some new things in your life. You might not feel like it straight away but when you get into the swing of it you'll find it really improves your mood and outlook. I wish you luck.
2006-10-19 08:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could spend some time doing things that make you happy. Do you have any hobbies that you really enjoy, but haven't done for a while? You might also think about taking up an evening class to meet like-minded people. I'm sure your friends care, but they may have their own lives and problems to deal with and sometimes may not always be able to be as involved as you'd like. This is the time for you to make your mark as an individual, and strengthen your character and your self-esteem. Good luck.
2006-10-19 09:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by trog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey come on try pick urself up. lots of people have been there me included. i look back at wen i was in the same boat and i kick myself that i didn`t do something about it sooner. u sound like u need a big hug and a shoulder to cry on. i get like that too. i`m lonely too but in different circumstances. i look after my dad full time as his carer. i have 2 brothers and 2 sisters and even though i`ve asked for their help i STILL don`t see anything of them. i`ve only got 2 mates that live close to me and they help wen they can. i do feel pretty isolated. if i could do something about it i would. i think wot i`m trying to say is, ur in a position where u can do something about it. wen ur down u tend to ignore all the good things that happen around u and trust me good things do happen. u tend to just see all the negative around u. that was wot i was like. people do care, they care very much. all the replies ur getting means people care. i know this will be hard but try wearing a smile. make urself approachable and bit by bit things will come together for u. don`t be like wot i was like and lock urself away from the world and feel defeated. despite my isolation at present i feel optimistic about the future. it`s like an unwritten book waiting for me to fill the chapters in. i know it`s not the same but if u need to pour ur heart out u can contact me, i will always listen and help if i can. lots of people here i`m sure will do the same for u too. keep ur chin up cos someone cares
2006-10-19 08:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by graham f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure your friends don't care? Are you sure that you are not whinging at them too much about being single? If they are your friends then they would be there for you no matter what the situation was. maybe you should chat to them and say how you feel, start inviting them out and doing things together and having your own me time will make you feel better.
2006-10-19 08:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by caroline b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeing, i split up two years ago and i miss her everyday most of the day, and i dont seem to be getting over her at all, i have moved on and put a brave face on it all but it is very difficult, everybody is different and i hope you will cope better than i am doing, look forward and be positive, good luck......
2006-10-19 09:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what your feelin. i've been apart from my man for 3 years. and i don't want to feel lonely. all i have to say is start doing things on your own. and be independent. do something to keep you busy..
2006-10-19 09:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel lonely, it sounds likje you need to learn to live with yourself. Enjoy your own company. Enjoy not having to answer to someone. I know it's good to have someone to share your life with, but understanding yourself more will help your relationships in the future. Good luck.
2006-10-19 08:37:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember, you feel lonely now cos you were once in love. Lucky girl.
2006-10-19 10:00:31 · answer #9 · answered by Helloyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try changing the things you do in yr life,phone yr friends tell them how yr feeling we have all felt like this once in a while,look for diffrent interests,do you have msn talk to mates on there just tell people how yr feeling and im sure if there true friends they will do there best to cheer you up i would if you were my mate good luck hunni and keep smiling :)
2006-10-19 08:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by robertboozychic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋