My Sister Just meet Him and She Bought a Home with him and I don't want to see my Sis Get Hurt.......
2006-10-19 01:04:50 · 25 answers · asked by mytransam1999 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You could put it like "this is the sisterly thing to do, are you sure, do you love him? does he love you?,.....bla bla bla", cover everything you need to then at the end give her a hug say OK that's the formalities over now what about your frock! That way she thinks your just doing your sisterly job but she maybe goes away and subconsciously begins to question all the things you asked and maybe makes her own mind up. If shes still sure and you've no proof that its wrong I think for the sake of keeping your sister your gonna have to bite your tongue and be happy for her...until she needs you (if your right that is!). I would do it that way though - then you know yourself that you've laid it on the line....in a nice way. Good luck.
2006-10-19 01:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by aza 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Talk to her, see what she really See's in this man, why she love so much, the reason she can see a life time of ups and Downs.
I'm 23 and I got married in July and also move out of my home country and 13000miles away from my family but I knew it was the right thing to do, I could not explain why but I just knew in my heart that it was the right thing to do... So talk to your Sister because after all you should be best friends you probably know her darkest secret as she knows your, your sisters not matter what you should be there for each other
2006-10-19 09:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by Chantelle D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with her and only her. Tell her how much you love her and only want whats best for her. Tell her that don't think marriage at this time is a good idea and she should wait to see. Get to know this guy a little better. However, you understand it is her life and she will make her choice. You will be there for her but you do have concerns. Be honest, loving and supportive. But let her know how you feel. This is really all you can do. We all make mistakes (sometimes big ones and costly ones) however, we only learn by going through with them.
2006-10-19 10:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by cutetoes68 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think only you can answer that properly, since she's your sister and you know her best. I have a friend that's sorta like that. Every time we talk she has a different guy. Sometimes she'll even say I'm getting married...but she always gets over it and realizes that it was kinda stupid. So now, I don't say anything, I just let her go with it, cuz I know it won't last. But I don't know your sister. You do. I would maybe mention it lightly, but not nag or really interrogate her. Good luck!
p.s. btw, there is still such a thing as love at first sight...not that it's the case you know...but yeah. Might be...
2006-10-19 08:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by MJ 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think that you should tell her all the good and bad reasons why it will be good and bad to get marry and if after you were honest with her you have to tell her that you support her decision and you will be there for her. There is nothing else you can do just be there when she needs you . Sometimes whe you say want she doesn't want to hear that will bring her away from you and that is a no no. I hope this help I know it help me.
2006-10-19 09:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by m_l_z_c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on why u don't think its the right thing to do. Do u know something she doesn't? If so u probably should say something, I would suggest that she does hold out on marriage for a little while anyways..... He might be a truly awesome guy, but in general ppl usually arent what they seem =( I would definately try talking to her..don't be bossy or controlling or anything, just be honest about the way u feel and let her know its only cause u love her and want her to be 100% happy.
I wish I had someone there to warn me b4 i got married!!!!!
2006-10-19 08:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by hiding_hatred 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It might piss her off but you could try and say something. If they bought a house together its official she must be thinking shes doing the right thing if she didnt think it was the right thing I dont think she would have said yes when he asked her to marry him.
2006-10-19 09:03:18 · answer #7 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about her, then definitely express your concern. She can't see anything wrong with the situation since she is not objective to it. But I do not believe that anyone who just met someone should be making major decisions such as those at this point in time without getting to know the other person much better first. In the end though, it is her decision.
2006-10-19 08:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Of Course you should tell her, but be sensitive and tackful. Make sure you don't sound judgemental. Express how much you love her. After you tell her how you feel, respect her decision. If she decides to marry him be supportive and loving.
2006-10-19 09:27:45 · answer #9 · answered by Annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably wont listen to you if you try to tell her that she is doing the wrong thing. It will be difficult, but you just need to stand back and let her get on with what she is doing and im sure she will come to you if she needs supporting.
2006-10-19 08:16:14 · answer #10 · answered by emmalp75 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋