I have been knowing this guy for a few months. I met him at work and we would have lunch and stuff together everyday and text and call back and forth. He calls me and I call him. Well he got laid-off and I broke up with my boyfriend the same day, so we had sex that night. We talk or text often and he seems like he likes me. We have had sex quite a few times since then, but he's also spent the night and not had sex with me on several occasions. He sometimes says things that makes me think that he is interested in a relationship, but I don't know. I am new to this whole single thing and I don't want to just come out and ask him too soon and push him away. How could I tell him that I don't want to just have sex with him without making it seem like I am giving him an altimatum? Does he really like me?
2006-10-19 00:28:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, it is obvious that he likes you PHYSICALLY... other aspects I don't know.
Second, it is obvious also that he likes SEX.
Third, it is possible that he likes BOTH. (You as a person and sex)
Only time will tell...and probably he will. :-)
2006-10-19 00:35:17 · answer #1 · answered by Mhel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys want sex from there girlfriends it's just how they are, but it sounds like he likes you. Talk to him and tell him how you feel if he really loved you then he wouldn't leave you because you don't just want sex in a relationship. I had the same problem. I didn't know if my boyfriend just wanted sex or if he really loved me. Sit down together on the couch and talk and then see if he trys anything. You said that you guys spent the night together and he didn't try nothin so I think your o.k. Good Luck!
2006-10-19 07:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he says something about having sex with you simply say "Is that all this is about for you?" If he says yes, then get the heck out of there, but if he says no, not only do you know that he likes you, but you can laugh and jokingly play it off like you weren't being serious. I did that soon after my man and I started seeing each other, and it worked wonders and he had no clue that I was actually being serious. Whatever you decide to do, good luck!
2006-10-19 07:34:30 · answer #3 · answered by megha717 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
but your not just having sex with him? he stayed over and you didnt remember?
maybe contact him with stuff to do, organise days and nights out together and go interesting places, sight seeing, movies, theatre, museums and maybe day trips out to new places... sounds like your already in a 'relationship of sorts' with this guy, maybe your just feeling a bit insecure after your last break up, just relax stop questioning things... and enjoy the time your having together
sounds like hes a great guy and he wouldnt be hanging about if he didnt dig you!
2006-10-19 07:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by desprate mum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try cutting down on the sex. If he's interested in you he won't press the issue. If he does, just tell him that you care for him, but, don't want to be just a booty call. Then let him make the choice.
2006-10-19 07:35:46 · answer #5 · answered by Cal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you for sex.....stp moaning and whining or you will find yourslef very lonely and depressed..watch your weight and stop the constant nagging..you are obviously a good fvck but keep up the techniques vary it, O to completion Anal outdoor etc and suggest soft swinging or dogging as a way of meeting people.....
2006-10-19 07:33:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him......tell him how you feel.....that you're not going to accept a "friends with benefits" arrangement.....tell him you'll still be friends with him, but there will be no more s*x, unless there's more to it......be careful though, he may tell you he wants more and be lying to you......hold out for a little bit until your relationship is officially "cemented".......its a vicious cycle, this "friends with benefits" thing.......a guy will tell you any thing you wanna hear as long as he ends up getting laid......
2006-10-19 07:37:54 · answer #7 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that he likes you or everytime he see's you it would lead to sex and nothing else. Don't push what you have at the moment just see where it goes but do talk to him casually about this and see what he says he may already be calling this a relationship himself just see what he says.
2006-10-19 07:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by sez75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for me i'm a guy you should really think deep of the guy and see what he feels but anyways if he really just want sex with you then i guess you should just dump him cause hes using u as a cheap girl thing to say it nastier a prostitute
2006-10-19 07:36:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think more than him you may be preferring having sex with him, b'cos a woman can always find ways to avoid a man but not viceversa
2006-10-19 07:45:05 · answer #10 · answered by taknev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is an easy way which worked for me tell him someone ask me about your relationship if we were boyfriend and girlfriend what are we?
2006-10-19 07:39:38 · answer #11 · answered by dodgerchik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋