Who here was spanked as a child...?

Question

I mean swatted as a consequnce, not savagely or needlessly beaten. For those of you who were spanked as a child, do you think it had any negative effects on you? I was spanked when I was young, always with an explanation of what I did wrong, and why it was wrong. I'm now a loving mother, and I look back and see that spanking didnt hurt me in any way. I grew up in a loving home, and usually just a warning did the trick for me, but sometimes I just needed a swat, and I even KNEW i did. Does anyone out there think that spanking had a negative effect on them? What were your experiences?

-Experiences with YOUR children dont count, unless they are grown. Otherwise, you dont really know HOW they turned out, do you? I am asking for YOUR experience. Thanks! Just trying to get some insight.

Answer 1

I was spanked as a child. Really, I think that it did me good. When I did something wrong, I got a punishment that I deserved. And I KNEW I deserved it!! I turned out fine.
This is part of what is wrong with kids today. A lack of discipline. We aren't "allowed" to physically discipline our kids. We are hardly allowed to discipline our kids at all. The "new" parenting methods don't really appear to be working. Kids are violent. We aren't raising good, intelligent, well mannered children anymore. We are breeding CRIMINALS!! Kids today OWN us. We are limited to what we are allowed to do. But they can do almost ANYTHING with hardly any consequences. They have no respect for authority.

Answer 2

I was spanked on many occasions, usually for a good reason! How ever I did object to being kicked, (with steel capped boots) and belted with the belt or buckle end of a belt.

I think I turned out OK, I have respect for others thoughts,
feelings, property and my elders etc.

I don't think a smack is bad, when an explanation follows why the child was spanked/smacked. Especially when you have asked a child NOT to do something more than once.

We must be consistent in how we deal with children's, bad behaviour and language etc. And if we say we will do some thing we should always follow through with the threat of a smack or losing something of value for a short time. As long as the threat is NOT to kill or Mame the child. Using objects other than our hand can also be deemed as abuse too.

If I remember correctly from my studies, we could smack a child between the bottom and the knees, or on the hand, any where else can be deemed as child abuse. Especially if smacked/belted/punched in the upper body, or head.

I smacked my daughter who has ADHD and ODD, and she and I have a good relationship, (yes she did drive me nuts). I must admit though I have slapped her on the face, for swearing at me.

She said that a smack has never hurt her (she's 20), but did not like being slapped on the face. She also said she too will no doubt smack her children when the time comes.

Answer 3

Spanking hurts not doubt, but I knew that when I got a whipping that I had done something out of line. It never impacted me negatively and it never caused me to hit my parents back or be a violent person. I knew that if I dared to raise my hand to my mom or dad after a spanking that I would just get another one. I look at it this way, spanking is a very effect form of punishment because when you get one for doing something wrong, it hurts therefore discouraging you from doing it again. Think of it this way; if you put your finger in a light socket and got shocked, would you do it again? All these people who say "Oh no! Spanking will make them feel unloved! Oh no! Their rights and emotional health are at risk or it'll make them mean!" I have one thing to say.....HORSE PUCKY! You were spanked as a kid, most everyone was spanked as a kid. I never felt unloved, emotionally stricken or had an anger problem. You have to be smarter than the child and know this that spanking is Biblical. Spare the rod spoil the child.

Answer 4

I was spanked with hands, belts, and switches as a child. There were plenty of times that I had marks for a few hours after the spanking but really no harm was done. It taught me to behave- after all if you choose the behavior you are also choosing the consequence!

I am super close to my parents. I was never afraid of them- a common excuse non-spankers use. I have never been violent- that's another stupid things they say. I graduated at the top of my class and have done very well for myself.

Kids now know that no matter what they do they'll basically get away with it- even murder!! Sitting in a 'naughty spot' is a joke. That's not a deterrent!

NO NEGATIVE EFFECTS FOR ME!

Answer 5

I was spanked, but sometimes the spankings turned into abuse because mom lost her temper..
sometimes she would leave the punishments to dad when he got home (he would spank or use belt) this was wrong becuase it forced him to punish us for something he wasnt a part of so this was mean to him I beleive now... it made us scared of him in some way and dad is an extremely gentle man...however at least he never lost his temper
punishments should be quick and instant

I unfortunately have got carried away with my daughter and a simple spanking turned into abuse on some cases....

I beleive if mom had spanked once it would have been ok, possibly good, but the pattern of going to far was set by her father and it has repeated....

Answer 6

I wasn't spanked much as a kid. The ones I got, I deserved. It taught me to be respectful & I learned that there are consequences to actions. I use that information to this day. I think if it is done right, spanking can be a useful parenting tool. Yes, there are those who overdo it or spank for stupid reasons. Kids should be allowed to be kids, but when they get completely out of hand and are doing things harmful to themselves or others and just flat out won't listen to anything, you have to get their attention. There is a difference between spankings and beatings. My dad only spanked me once, I was 13, and it hurt my feelings more than my bottom. He never had to spank me again. Each and every spanking I got was for something different. I learned never to repeat the action again. I wasn't afraid of my parents either and we have a pretty good relationship now.

Answer 7

I am spanked and am still child i am 12 and in 7 grade. Not all the time but if i do something that very wrong i do get spankings from my parents to remind me do better next time. I get mad and cry long time if i get spanking it does hurt but later i feel bad about what i do and i know my mother spank me because she love me and want me grow up rite even if not like it! I think its ok if you do something bad but should not beat or hit for no reason and i would rather get grounded!!

Answer 8

i was spanked & quickly learned what would bring on a spanking & i was not hurt by it, it helped me learn wrong from right. i spanked my kids when they needed it & they too learned what not to do to avoid a spanking & i do not remember having to spank them very often. they too quickly learned right from wrong & they have all 3 turned out to be good kids; they are 25,22 & 18; they have not been harmed mentally from it. they tease me now telling me what all they got away with since they are too big for spanking!!! spanking can work as long as u never do it in anger, make sure the child knows he is not bad just the choice he made, more than likely u will not be spanking them as much as u may think in the future. just be careful, some people view this as abuse & will turn u into to CPS........

Answer 9

I'm doing the paper and I am including my own experiences in it also. My parents spanked me on the bottom most of the time. Unless I ran from them, then when they caught me I would be spanked in circles (them in the middle and me going round and round on the outside trying to keep from being spanked) Looking back on it as an adult I deserved most every one I got.
Today, I am a emotionally healthy adult and can see why my parents spanked me. I am a little affraid to spank my children, but I do, only when they really need it. I would like for them to be affraid of me as I was of my parents because when I went somewhere without them and was tempted to do something wrong I always would remember that my parents wouldn't like it and what they would do to me. Don't get me wrong, I did things away from my parents that I shouldn't have but it always loomed in my mind that there would be consequences. I respected them for what they did for me.
I believe I am a better person for it in a lot of ways.

Answer 10

I got spanked at school and at home, and I must say most of the time I felt it was unreasonable and often unfair. Children have very little power or opportunity to tell their side and be really listened to. I don;t think it caused any "damage", but I think adults should think twice about spanking and also try to learn other skills of influencing children's behaviour. I'm not actively pro-spanking, but not completely against it either.