I don't want to wait for him, marry him and then one day twenty years into it look back and say damn I could've had a blast as a gorgeous 20something instead of waiting. I'm with him anyway. You know? I don't have any regrets staying celibate but I'm afraid I might.
I've been celibate 3.5 years now. that's three point five. not thirty five.
Anyway, this is a big decision for me. I really need some honest well intentioned help with it. It'll make a big difference in who I turn out to be at the end of the day I figure. not as in loser vs winner just other ways. I think anyway.
serious answers only please.
2006-10-18 23:20:13 · 12 answers · asked by anabanana 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not "waiting" for anyone, I meant the for the "right" guy to come around. I'm not with anyone but I could if I wanted not trying to brag but yaknow.
I've had sex before I'm in my 20s. I am currently celibate because I got hurt bad in my last relationship and it had far-ranging consequences, believe me.
2006-10-18 23:35:58 · update #1
I still need a lot of help with this please give answers with some substance/understanding cause its kind of a big deal.
2006-10-18 23:37:40 · update #2
I'm 21 right now
2006-10-18 23:39:13 · update #3
Who says you can't be married when you are a gorgeous 20 something and have a blast with your husband? I'm 24, and Lord willing, I have every intention of being a married man before I'm 25. (And everything in my life seems to be pointing that it's going to happen.)
I have been keeping myself for marriage, but I didn't always. I was engaged to a girl once, and jumped the gun. Without getting into details, all I'll say is that after that, the relationship ended very quickly. Putting something like sex in any relationship short of marriage is kinda like throwing a lit match into a fireworks store... it's taking a big chance that things aren't gonna work in a way that's going to be favorable to you or people around you. Plus it cheapens sex for when you actually do get married.
Don't go selling your soul for a few moments of pleasure the way the rest of the world does. It might be fun for a while, but you will eventually regret it, I garuntee that 100%. Stepping back and looking at other peoples lives who have sex outiside of marriage (as well as my own when I did), and all I see is chaos and drama. Surely you are creative enough to find other ways to have a blast!
2006-10-18 23:42:28 · answer #1 · answered by The Link 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How much do you like to gamble? A sexual partner isn't always upfront with their health. So be careful and ask for an STD test. You might also want to consider an IUD or bc shots until you do find your special someone.
I've only had 1 sexual partner. I've been with/married to him 10 years now. We learned together and I loved that. But each person is different. I believe in waiting for the right person, partly because of religion and partly because I had a very strong desire to be a mother and didn't want an STD or HIV to interfere with my plans. I also considered what I'd tell my kids when it came time to give them the sex talk. Don't think I'm on a high horsey, I was very preggy when we married. I just didn't like the idea of multiple partners or lying guys that could share an STD with me.
2006-10-18 23:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex shouldn't affect your personalty that much and if it does i feel sorry for you
i say good work being celibate that is quite a hard thing to do and continuously stay that way
but if your thinking this way now then you will then .. your rdy for it but yes sex has its disadvantages e.g diseases and its advantages e.g pleasure
and BTW do you expect the guy to be celibate as well? when you meet the right guy you want to be able to preform at your best and likewise
honestly i think go for it but just be careful
life is to be lived not hidden away in a cave
whatever you do GL
2006-10-18 23:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are celibate in a relationship then yes maybe discuss it with your partner
if you dont have a partner are you planning to just have sex??? if so sex is MUCH better with a permanent partner you get to know each and your likes -- dislikes --- and all the little things that can be pleasing
so i suggest remain celibate until you have a partner :)
2006-10-18 23:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on which procedure your having. I had a medical abortion last month and i was told wait at least 2 weeks. i waited 3 just to make sure! If your having a surgical termination you should wait about 6-8 weeks. x
2016-05-22 01:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for who? Who are you with? Your question is unclear. Why are you celibate in the first place have you previously had sex?
2006-10-18 23:23:35 · answer #6 · answered by kam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youy know the answer....re read the first part of your questiopn agaion. Ignore the religious losers repressed and fat ugly never going to get anys that reply, get out there and get some, you are missing the time of your life..do not waste it like the majority of the saddo' on here...LIVE NOW
2006-10-18 23:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Would you test drive a car before you bought it? Sure you would, so where is the dilema. I understand your question but I think your digging to deep into it.
2006-10-18 23:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Having sex and then stop,could be dangerous to your sex life,if you don't use it you can lose it.
2006-10-18 23:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you don't mention how old you are and that makes a big differnce also
2006-10-18 23:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋