2006-10-18 22:45:36 · 29 answers · asked by debbie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is wrong,vows are said for a reason.
2006-10-18 23:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends... in the short term yes, it's forbidden fruit which can make for some wild and exciting times. But in the long term, absolutely, definitely NO.
I speak from experience, as about 5 years ago I had an affair with a married man which lasted over 2 years, on and off. Apart from the sex, in hindsight there was nothing else that I got from it, and sex alone isn't worth all the baggage that comes with it. I always thought I was a nice person before the affair, but to do something like that I couldn't have been.
Usually i don't regret anything, and for a while after the affair ended I didn't, but now I do regret it as it took me a long time to trust men again after having first-hand experience of seeing how casually and repeatedly (of course he'd had loads of affairs before me!) someone could cheat on the person they'd promised to love and remain faithful to forever.
Basically, if you just want sex there's less destructive ways of getting it, if you want a relationship there's no way on earth you can ever trust someone like that.
2006-10-19 00:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by Miss J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can be happy having such relationships because, it is a whirlwind sort of thing, with no strings attached and the ladies came out hurt and used and above all lose all! In any relationship, a woman stands to lose all or gain all. You of course can not gain all when you are playing second fiddle. Also having an affair with a married man can cause a lot of delays especially regarding marriage, most of the ladies are fooled in believing that the prospective young men they want to marry should come handy with the standards of the married men. Ladies beware, married men are time wasters!
2006-10-18 23:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by sweetlips 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy, having an affair with married man - You mad. It's a waste of time.
2006-10-19 11:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by Kev's Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a very happy affair with a married woman. No domestic jobs or shopping trips, nobody asking when I would be home or where I had been. When she did start to nag as if we were married, she was outed at no cost.
2006-10-18 23:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by Clive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-11 08:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by Melani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO AFFAIRS ARE HAPPY! YOU EITHER GET CAUGHT AND LOOSE EVERYTHING OR ONE ENDS THE AFFAIR AND IT TURNS BITTER, TWISTED AND SOUR, THE ONLY ADVICE I CAN GIVE IS MARRY THE RIGHT MAN/WOMAN THEN THERE WILL BE NO NEED FOR AN AFFAIR. NEVER HAD AN AFFAIR, NEVER WOULD HAVE AN AFFAIR, VERY HAPPY MARRIED.
2006-10-18 23:04:14 · answer #7 · answered by shayney boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not technically happy. It's like a surge of excitement, usualy misinterpreted with happiness. Only bored women have affairs, you see.
2006-10-18 22:48:08 · answer #8 · answered by csmcsm94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably gonna get a lot of abuse thrown at me but...
i had an affair with a married man 7 years ago, and it was the biggest mistake of my life. i fell for all his lies, stupid i know, and even fell in love with him. 8 months down the line his wife found out and verbally abused me on my front door.
all my own fault i know.
it's exciting at the beginning but when the man leaves to go home and your left alone it's horrible.
my advice to anyone considering it is
DON'T DO IT
2006-10-18 22:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by molly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
depends on whether you know or not!
i have been and didnt know when i found out i chucked him.
although was in another situation adn kinda knew but he lied to me and it suited me seeing him when ever rather than every night cos i like a bit of spontaneity and it makes it more exciting but again when it was confirmed he was hitched he was ditched!
in the long run no i dont think anyone can be happy with someone elses man, at the end of hte day if they are sleeping with you they are still sleeping with their partner as well.
once a cheat always a cheat as well, if they do it to their partner with you they will do it to you with someone else, good luck!
2006-10-18 22:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by caroline17nov 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you really be happy having an affair knowing that he'll never leave his wife though?
2006-10-18 23:39:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋