he is OUTSTANDING in bed i mean really makes me scream and makes my toes curl....well, lately he has been wanting and asking if we can be exclusive...he wants to be my boyfriend. I dont want it but I don't want to lose my benefits. He came to my job yesterday to "surprise" me..I was so mad, how do i tell him I like him better with clothes off??? I dont want to be committed to him.
2006-10-18 22:23:24 · 23 answers · asked by tanya 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him you are not looking for a long term relationship right now and what the two of you have is special and you would like to continue things the way they are and maybe you will change your mind in the future.
2006-10-18 22:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie, you're not going to be able to have it both ways. Either your gonna have to be exclusive with him, or lose your benefits. Even if you talked to him and explained to him that you only want sex, hed would STILL want more, and it would never end.
Why not just find you a man that is BOTH great in bed and someone you actually want to be with? This just sounds like a bad situation that never ends well. My advice: stop the games and find you a good man that's all the way right for you.
2006-10-18 22:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by silverblack12345 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatley this happens with that situation. Someone catches feelings. If he wants to be with you exclusively and you don't, then yuo got one heck of a problem there. If you tell him you aren't ready for that kind of committment and keep going on with the benfits, you will end up hurting him. If you aren't interested in him at this point, then you need to stop the benefits. I know it is going to be hard, lord knows a good man in bed is like diamonds, but out of respect for him it isbest.
2006-10-18 22:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For sure be honest. You don't have to be mean to be honest.
If you concider him a friend, you'll know how to approach him without hurting him and if he's a friend, he'll understand and listen to you.
Maybe the 'benefits' will have to stop for awhile b/c sounds like he's 'feeling the benefits' too close at heart.
Good luck!!! Hope it works out for the both of you.
2006-10-18 23:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by paigenstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe it to this man to express your feelings in the same manner you yourself would like to be spoken to.
If he can not accept your wish to maintain your 'arrangement' then stop using him for sex.
If he stalks you, call the police.
If I were you, I'd end it. I couldn't have sex with a man who liked me and I knew I would not be able to care for him the way he deserved.
2006-10-18 22:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered a similar question just recently. You can check my answers if you like. I recommend it.
Tell him straight forward...the sex is good but you wanna be friends and also enjoy the sex.
If he can't handle that answer...then he may not be the friend you think.
2006-10-18 22:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey that's unfair. girls are very pissed when guys do that. so now the tables are turned. the guy is the one asking for the relationship. that is quite unique, but commendable.
i hope he doesn't bump his head and realize the stupid thing he is doing.
2006-10-18 22:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why dont you atleast give it a try... and if you really dont like him...tell him straight...if he accepted that the two of you we're just F&(&*ng Friend...then good for you....if not be ready to loose your benefit...
2006-10-18 22:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by ely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know, thats a bit of a predikiment! if you tell him you will most prob lose your friendshipi and benifts so what you do is up to you! good luck girl!
2006-10-18 22:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by frankie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ei gurl...
too bad for the guy.. i feel sorry for him..
hm.. why don't you give him a chance..? there's nothing wrong besides you're benefiting from him.. give it a try for a moment...
you'll learn to like him and even love him...
2006-10-18 22:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by missy09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋