I have been confronted about my feelings toward him, but I felt aggression on his part and therefore, I kept my distance, and lied to him about them so I could protect my feelings. He knew from the beginning that I lied to him, but if he said he didn't like me, it shouldn't matter to him anyways. So I'm confused. Some friends of his told me that about my feelings toward him and also lied in the process, and he was foolish enough to believe him. I even got into a fight with his ex-lover about how I felt. He found out and asked me about it on IM, but I was too afraid to admit the details of everything that was said, so I pretended to be alright and just act like it wasn't a big deal. Frustrated with me not addressing my true feelings, he started to ignore me. When I pleaded for the chance to profess the naked truth, he told me I protected my feelings so much, he couldn't tell what was the truth and what was fabrication. He's mad, but he said he never liked me. Is he hiding??
2006-10-18 21:49:22 · 5 answers · asked by The Maverick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, you guys do have valid points, but my question is more complicated than that since I was only allowed one thousand words. Beforehand, we were good friends and we spent a lot of time together. I would always do something to test his personal space, like groping, and he didn't seem to mind. Yeah, he's acting childish and immature right now, but our conflict probably comes from us being too much alike. When I was trying to get him to let me tell him the truth about how I feel, he said I didn't tell him when it counted. So I eventually decided to stop being afraid, and realized I was getting desperate, so I back off for a little while. Then I wrote this lengthy letter, explaining my true feelings and why I didn't tell him when I wasn't ready. I never got a direct response, but a subliminal message through a sad, emotional song played on MySpace that addressed quite a few things about what I had said. The same day he got the letter, I saw it. I told myself it was nothing. Now what?
2006-10-19 07:15:41 · update #1
You should ask him why he's questioning you so much about your feelings if he's not having any in return? Is he really that self egotistical or is he hiding something as well?
2006-10-18 21:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by xxsanchabonitaxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Who cares? He doesn't care about you, don't waste any more time on this person. You have reasons for not trusting him with your feelings, you said that you felt his aggression. What else do you need to know to feel that what you did to protect yourself is right. He sounds nosy, egotistical and interested in talking about one thing - himself !
2006-10-19 04:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a manipulative bastard to me.
If I were you I'd just be like "Then I guess my feelings just aren't good enough for you" and leave him.
He obviously is only toying with you for sadistic control. He has no self-confidence, so he gets it from you, praising him and telling him how much you care for him (I guess no one else does.) Don't waste your time and emotion.
2006-10-19 04:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u go on thinking like this u will feel mentally sick. go to him directly without any frnds interference and tak with him without getting nervous.dont show that u get bothered by his behavior.just tell him that i wana tak to u as u r frequently asking me about my feelings.tell him to clarify everything and get rid of the confusions.
2006-10-19 05:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by hetu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes him feel good about himself. Its an ego thing. Move on and see what happens.
2006-10-19 04:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by jamie2341 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋