I tryed anal sex before with my boyfriend and he really enjoyed it but i did not. It was uncomforable and painful.
We have been talking about trying it again because alot of women have told me it can be quite nice but you have to do it a few times.
Does anyone no how i can make the first few times more comfortable and less painful
2006-10-18 21:42:33 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Other - Skin & Body
These sites have A LOT of tips:
http://www.mypleasure.com/education/sexed/anal_intro.asp
http://www.sexhealth.org/bettersex/anal.shtml
http://www.libida.com/content/howto/home.php?howto_id=2&id=1353109711
I'm glad you've decided to give it another try. The main thing is for you to be completely relaxed and not scared, and having lots of information and knowing what to expect will help you do that. You might recommend that he read up on it as well, so he'll know how to make you comfortable. Initially, it will be uncomfortable, but if he lets you control the pace and depth at first and you communicate well, you'll enjoy yourself.
2006-10-18 21:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by unchained melody 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hannah, if it's uncomfortable & painful don't do it!
If your boyfriend can't accept that then he doesn't care for you & your happiness.
I find it hard to believe "alot of women" have told you it can be quite nice. I've never met a woman yet who enjoyed it.
Just so you understand that I'm not an ignorant moraliser, I lived with a guy for 5 years who really got off on anal sex. Even in the early days when he was gentle I didn't like it. As the years went by he became less interested in my comfort & more involved in his own enjoyment. The experience went from uncomfortable and painful to excruciatingly painful. The more I cried and asked him to stop, the rougher he became.
I left him in the end, and I bless the day I did.
Be strong and brave, and do only what feels nice and right for you. Sex is sex, but making love feels wonderful for both of you.
2006-10-18 21:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by Chencha 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i always laid on my side when i first started doing this, i usually read a porn whilst getting relaxed to do this as it made me feel really relaxed and it was great experience, i always do this now. use some lube with this though as if not it is quite painful. have tried it both ways but lube always works the best.
all you have to do is find a way that is comfy for you and make sure you are totally relaxed. if your not relaxed then it will hurt. try it a couple of times on your side then as you get used to this then experiment more ways.
hope this helps you!
2006-10-18 21:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberley C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely absolutely loads of lube (a good few drinks help as well!). You have to be soooo relaxed or it will be agony. Have only done a couple of times myself but loved it when i was relaxed enough, if not relaxed, it is really painful and just can't do it.
2006-10-18 21:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by Allie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello....
Well you are a lot braver then me. Me and my bf have been saying for about a year its time we try it. We tried a little while ago but I had to stop because I couldn't handle the pain!!!
It will be interesting to see what answers you get (they will help me out alot) because from what im told its definitely worth the pain in the end!
I have been told the best way is to RELAX and of corse get some LUB. Dont rush at it and enjoy it....
2006-10-18 21:47:57 · answer #5 · answered by MOUTHY 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Have a warm bath just before it relaxs your Muscles on your bottom.
Make sure you are relaxed when you are doing it and use plenty of lube, ask him to start small with a finger for a bit or small dildo to get used to it.
Also bring your knees close to your chest makes it go in easyer.
2006-10-18 23:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by JT23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything that you don't enjoy.
I tried it with my boyfriend a few months back and although it didn't hurt me, I really didn't enjoy it. I explained this to him and he was fine with it.
I'm sure we will try it again in the future but because we both want to not because one of us feels we should.
2006-10-18 22:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
iam not going to lie to you , but yet its dose hurt for most of the time , but i fine more time you do anal sex the better its get, yes most women's do like its , as i do, , dont fill u have to do anal if u dont like its ,as every women's is diffents ,
2006-10-18 22:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by tauntonsomersetblue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with daniel s. when it expands it actually starts coming out. ive seen pictures of women that have done to much and they look like they a *** of a chimpanzee. still if you really want to do it use a lot of lube and a try a finger first as it is smaller, when your used to that go on to the bigger 'tool'. and take it slowly. have fun whatever you decide to do
2006-10-18 21:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Depends on partner
2006-10-18 22:14:45 · answer #10 · answered by efrenchtoyasia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋